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Ok so its really hard for me to orgasm. IDK why but its always been VERY hard to actually get me off. I've never been able to succeed masturbating, i have come close but with dildo's my arm gets too tired before i can get there and just clit stimulation feels nice but doesn't give me a release.  9 times out of 10 when we have sex he gets off too quick to get me there, and i dont really enjoy getting eaten out so that doesnt work either. He can get me off and even make me squirt by fingering me but its a lot of work and most the time hes too tired for all that. When he does get me off from sex its because hes actually pounding it which is typically what gets me there. Because of all of this i have been buying toys off amazon. ( Typically cheap ones from china that cost anywhere from a couple dollars to MAYBE around 25 but most have been $10 or cheaper.) Trying to find a toy that i can actually get myself off with. He works an hour and a half away and hes been working 10 hour days 7 days a week. So hes very tired, which i completely understand and i appreciate him and what he does to support our family. (we have 3 kids) I feel like the Love Thrust-Her Thrusting Silicone Vibrator might actually help since it does the thrusting my arm wouldnt get too tired and go numb before i could get there. BUT he says $200 is way too much to spend on a maybe. And i understand it is ALOT of money, but im cleaning, and cooking, and doing laundry, and running around after toddlers all day!!! At night i put the kids to bed and we hang out a bit then i put him to bed. Almost every night i give him head, a hand job, or jump on and ride him to get him a nut because i know it helps him sleep. And of course he always falls fast asleep, even on the nights he doesnt get one. While im stuck sitting in the living room, or laying in bed, unable to sleep and most the time horny. I want to be able to get that release when i need/want it and not feel guilty about it. Ive secretly thought about getting $20-40 cash back when i go grocery shopping and save up for it then get it with a visa prepaid or something, and tell him it was a gift from the ONE friend i have. (Yes im a stay at home mom with 0 family any where close, 1 friend who doesn't get much time to come over, and hes gone/asleep more than hes around so i get VERY VERY VERY little adult interactions!!!) So all of that to say, is it actually worth the $200? Is it worth the lying? Am i just being selfish and try to figure out some other way to get there??  SORRY ITS SO LONG, DONT HAVE ADULT CONVERSATIONS HARDLY EVER!!!!!! 

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Try the curved blue glass g-spot dildo on this site 1st.  

I was always like you, couldn't orgasm.  Them I finally did by masturbating but it took forever (I also just put the dildo in & a vibe on my clit.....that seemed to be the only way I could orgasm) but the 1st time I used the curved glass g-spot dildo It was probably within 4 or 5 strokes & I was squirting everywhere!  I was in shock & had to do it again!

Try that with a bullet on your clit & if it doesn't work tell your husband you are definitely worth $200 & you tried another way but it didn't work.

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Certainly pick up an all silicone suction cup dildo. This will get you off. Once the suction cup is firmly placed against the wall or whatever just back up to it and ride it. I can get off from anal sex this way. It takes some time but give it 15-20 mins im sure u can cum. Just use ur free hands to gently rub ur clit as ur riding the dildo size of ur choice. I find thicker longer ones work best 😬good luck and good quality dildo’s cost 60$-100 dollars but well worth it. We own 5 of different shapes and sizes. 

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I buy a toy for my wife probably 3x a month in hopes it will end the day with an intense sexual experience, but rarely does that happen. But she does love the we-vibe and the small cordless wand

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On 6/1/2019 at 1:46 AM, lis said:

Try the curved blue glass g-spot dildo on this site 1st.  

I was always like you, couldn't orgasm.  Them I finally did by masturbating but it took forever (I also just put the dildo in & a vibe on my clit.....that seemed to be the only way I could orgasm) but the 1st time I used the curved glass g-spot dildo It was probably within 4 or 5 strokes & I was squirting everywhere!  I was in shock & had to do it again!

Try that with a bullet on your clit & if it doesn't work tell your husband you are definitely worth $200 & you tried another way but it didn't work.

I LOVED my curved blue glass g-spot dildo. Reasonably priced too!!! Unfortunately, it got dropped on stone tile and got cracked really bad. I was sooooo sad!! That was the first toy that ever made me squirt!!!!!!!!!

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On 6/1/2019 at 12:40 AM, Cass said:

Ok so its really hard for me to orgasm. IDK why but its always been VERY hard to actually get me off. I've never been able to succeed masturbating, i have come close but with dildo's my arm gets too tired before i can get there and just clit stimulation feels nice but doesn't give me a release.  9 times out of 10 when we have sex he gets off too quick to get me there, and i dont really enjoy getting eaten out so that doesnt work either. He can get me off and even make me squirt by fingering me but its a lot of work and most the time hes too tired for all that. When he does get me off from sex its because hes actually pounding it which is typically what gets me there. Because of all of this i have been buying toys off amazon. ( Typically cheap ones from china that cost anywhere from a couple dollars to MAYBE around 25 but most have been $10 or cheaper.) Trying to find a toy that i can actually get myself off with. He works an hour and a half away and hes been working 10 hour days 7 days a week. So hes very tired, which i completely understand and i appreciate him and what he does to support our family. (we have 3 kids) I feel like the Love Thrust-Her Thrusting Silicone Vibrator might actually help since it does the thrusting my arm wouldnt get too tired and go numb before i could get there. BUT he says $200 is way too much to spend on a maybe. And i understand it is ALOT of money, but im cleaning, and cooking, and doing laundry, and running around after toddlers all day!!! At night i put the kids to bed and we hang out a bit then i put him to bed. Almost every night i give him head, a hand job, or jump on and ride him to get him a nut because i know it helps him sleep. And of course he always falls fast asleep, even on the nights he doesnt get one. While im stuck sitting in the living room, or laying in bed, unable to sleep and most the time horny. I want to be able to get that release when i need/want it and not feel guilty about it. Ive secretly thought about getting $20-40 cash back when i go grocery shopping and save up for it then get it with a visa prepaid or something, and tell him it was a gift from the ONE friend i have. (Yes im a stay at home mom with 0 family any where close, 1 friend who doesn't get much time to come over, and hes gone/asleep more than hes around so i get VERY VERY VERY little adult interactions!!!) So all of that to say, is it actually worth the $200? Is it worth the lying? Am i just being selfish and try to figure out some other way to get there??  SORRY ITS SO LONG, DONT HAVE ADULT CONVERSATIONS HARDLY EVER!!!!!! 

I had sooooo many concerns with your post for you!!!! OMG woman!!

OK, so, first, let me congratulate you for finding us!!! And for being a SAHM!! I did that for 6 years. And I KNOW how hard that is!!! And, yes, you have a hard time finding adult conversations that don't circle around the kiddos at all! I get it!!

As far as YOU being selfish, um NO!!!! Not to be disrespectful, but it sounds like your husband is the one being selfish!!! He gets off, and then doesn't make SURE you do too? Seriously? There is NOTHING wrong or selfish for getting off too!! And I would suggest you talk to him. And, make sure he knows you are unsatisfied. Then, ask him to make sure you have an orgasm BEFORE his one-shot-wonder does so, and he goes to sleep. He sounds like he's only concerned with his "nut" as you put it! LOL Love that!!! 

Some men also think that, if they get off, then you have too, or you SHOULD have at least....and that's not the case at all. Real sex is NOT like porn. Rarely does both people cum at the same time.

Some men/people think that  staying at home with the kids isn't "real work", and downplay how hard it is....until they have to do it....usually for a few days, to really GET that it IS even harder than actually going to a job outside the home!!!! 

So, please understand, I GET you. I understand. 

I will say that some of the thrusting toys are great, but they can be LOUD, which can be a concern if you have small children that may not sleep well. So, please keep that in mind. I've tried a few, liked a couple, but, you have to really look and compare. Make sure you read the reviews. If it's on here, also, I'd recommend reading some of the reviewer posts to see what they have liked as far as their preferences go, or even reach out to them, especially if they've reviewed the toy you're looking at. Some reviewers aren't on here much anymore, but we do get emails if we get messages. So, please, ask ask ask!! We want to all make sure you get the toy that you think will work for you.

I will say that, most women get off with clit stimulation. The clit is really the nerve center of our sex, and with clit stimulation, and thrusting, even if it's just a plain dildo, that should work. I use to have a hard time cumming too. I read all of the posts I could on here, and found this to be very true. Which, when I did get the glass blue swirl dildo, and used a bullet for clit stimulation, I soaked the chair I was in!!! It. Was. AWESOME!!

Please let us know if we can help in any way, and NO!!! You're not being too selfish at all!!!!

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56 minutes ago, Tyger said:

I LOVED my curved blue glass g-spot dildo. Reasonably priced too!!! Unfortunately, it got dropped on stone tile and got cracked really bad. I was sooooo sad!! That was the first toy that ever made me squirt!!!!!!!!!

It was the 1st for me too !!  Love it!

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On 6/1/2019 at 1:40 AM, Cass said:

Ok so its really hard for me to orgasm. IDK why but its always been VERY hard to actually get me off. I've never been able to succeed masturbating, i have come close but with dildo's my arm gets too tired before i can get there and just clit stimulation feels nice but doesn't give me a release.  9 times out of 10 when we have sex he gets off too quick to get me there, and i dont really enjoy getting eaten out so that doesnt work either. He can get me off and even make me squirt by fingering me but its a lot of work and most the time hes too tired for all that. When he does get me off from sex its because hes actually pounding it which is typically what gets me there. Because of all of this i have been buying toys off amazon. ( Typically cheap ones from china that cost anywhere from a couple dollars to MAYBE around 25 but most have been $10 or cheaper.) Trying to find a toy that i can actually get myself off with. He works an hour and a half away and hes been working 10 hour days 7 days a week. So hes very tired, which i completely understand and i appreciate him and what he does to support our family. (we have 3 kids) I feel like the Love Thrust-Her Thrusting Silicone Vibrator might actually help since it does the thrusting my arm wouldnt get too tired and go numb before i could get there. BUT he says $200 is way too much to spend on a maybe. And i understand it is ALOT of money, but im cleaning, and cooking, and doing laundry, and running around after toddlers all day!!! At night i put the kids to bed and we hang out a bit then i put him to bed. Almost every night i give him head, a hand job, or jump on and ride him to get him a nut because i know it helps him sleep. And of course he always falls fast asleep, even on the nights he doesnt get one. While im stuck sitting in the living room, or laying in bed, unable to sleep and most the time horny. I want to be able to get that release when i need/want it and not feel guilty about it. Ive secretly thought about getting $20-40 cash back when i go grocery shopping and save up for it then get it with a visa prepaid or something, and tell him it was a gift from the ONE friend i have. (Yes im a stay at home mom with 0 family any where close, 1 friend who doesn't get much time to come over, and hes gone/asleep more than hes around so i get VERY VERY VERY little adult interactions!!!) So all of that to say, is it actually worth the $200? Is it worth the lying? Am i just being selfish and try to figure out some other way to get there??  SORRY ITS SO LONG, DONT HAVE ADULT CONVERSATIONS HARDLY EVER!!!!!! 

Feel free to message me or anything I have the same sorta thing only it’s my wife who has zero interest and is asleep by 8pm

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On 6/7/2019 at 8:28 PM, Tyger said:

I had sooooo many concerns with your post for you!!!! OMG woman!!

OK, so, first, let me congratulate you for finding us!!! And for being a SAHM!! I did that for 6 years. And I KNOW how hard that is!!! And, yes, you have a hard time finding adult conversations that don't circle around the kiddos at all! I get it!!

As far as YOU being selfish, um NO!!!! Not to be disrespectful, but it sounds like your husband is the one being selfish!!! He gets off, and then doesn't make SURE you do too? Seriously? There is NOTHING wrong or selfish for getting off too!! And I would suggest you talk to him. And, make sure he knows you are unsatisfied. Then, ask him to make sure you have an orgasm BEFORE his one-shot-wonder does so, and he goes to sleep. He sounds like he's only concerned with his "nut" as you put it! LOL Love that!!! 

Some men also think that, if they get off, then you have too, or you SHOULD have at least....and that's not the case at all. Real sex is NOT like porn. Rarely does both people cum at the same time.

Some men/people think that  staying at home with the kids isn't "real work", and downplay how hard it is....until they have to do it....usually for a few days, to really GET that it IS even harder than actually going to a job outside the home!!!! 

So, please understand, I GET you. I understand. 

I will say that some of the thrusting toys are great, but they can be LOUD, which can be a concern if you have small children that may not sleep well. So, please keep that in mind. I've tried a few, liked a couple, but, you have to really look and compare. Make sure you read the reviews. If it's on here, also, I'd recommend reading some of the reviewer posts to see what they have liked as far as their preferences go, or even reach out to them, especially if they've reviewed the toy you're looking at. Some reviewers aren't on here much anymore, but we do get emails if we get messages. So, please, ask ask ask!! We want to all make sure you get the toy that you think will work for you.

I will say that, most women get off with clit stimulation. The clit is really the nerve center of our sex, and with clit stimulation, and thrusting, even if it's just a plain dildo, that should work. I use to have a hard time cumming too. I read all of the posts I could on here, and found this to be very true. Which, when I did get the glass blue swirl dildo, and used a bullet for clit stimulation, I soaked the chair I was in!!! It. Was. AWESOME!!

Please let us know if we can help in any way, and NO!!! You're not being too selfish at all!!!!

Allow me to interject from a mans point of view. While I do not have the same problem about getting off (go figure), I do have a higher sex drive and nasty side than my wife. Allow me to say my wife ALWAYS has 2 nuts to  my one, and they seem to be strong. But I kept feeling I wanted it more than she was able to give to me and found myself entertaining thoughts of cheating not for love but for pussy, I love it. I would masturbate and it would satisfy me, then I started resenting that. Then I thought I had to find a release equal too or greater than the experience I have with my wife, if that’s possible. So I started experimenting with different toys, and I can say now I can have an experience by myself as good as when I am with my wife, or possibly better because I can enjoy it myself on my time. So I don’t have to depend on her for an ultimate nut, which I still have when we have sex. I am saying all this to say, this journey required many different purchases and experimenting, until I found what worked for me, and doing so caused me to sneak some purchases. But think of it this way, if you don’t do something about your situation it will not get better, and a NUT, is a terrible thing to waste. And when you find the combination of toys and/or techniques, you will feel more relaxed to deal with children, your time alone will be better, and one thing you didn’t say, but I think you may feel on some level towards him is resentment, will be less. He makes all the money, gets all the nuts, I am telling you from a mans perspective, get you some money and buy toys and satisfy your desire and enjoy it, have fun, don’t be afraid to experiment. What works for me is NOTHING I ever thought would work for me, but I have such hard nuts it is amazing. Do what you need to, to satisfy that itch., pound that thing girl it’s yours have fun, don’t forget the lube, that’s the key.

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Cass, I have the same problem too, although I  have found a vibe bullet helps me it still takes time.  I also have a realistic penis dildo with suction cup and that might help you because you can find a way to do hands free.  Another things I have noticed is that It works better for me sometimes do not just keep stimulating my clit constantly, but do some and get the good feelings and then back off a bit, even get up and walk around for a minute and then go again different postitions etc.  My husband had completely lost interest in me except when I pursue, and he has always been a selfish lover, so I have had to get used to pleasing myself.  It is not selfish of you to get something so that you are not frustrated.  I like all of the suggestions on the curved glass dildo, I am thinking I need to get myself one.  Maybe start there and see what it does for you, but the combo of dildo and vibe works for me.  

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Another thought, if you want to bite the bullet LOL and get the thrusting toy, I think there is a return policy?  Maybe check on that and see, then your hubs might be more inclined to let you get it if he knows you can return it if  it doesn't work for you.

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On 6/7/2019 at 8:06 PM, Tyger said:

I LOVED my curved blue glass g-spot dildo. Reasonably priced too!!! Unfortunately, it got dropped on stone tile and got cracked really bad. I was sooooo sad!! That was the first toy that ever made me squirt!!!!!!!!!

Which one is it on the site, I see two 

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