Highschool Sweetheart Reunion

[zimmersdreamer]

hi i am a first time poster and i feel i have to give a little background of "us". we saw each other in higschool and he moved away a year later and he was my first kiss. it was 2 years before i fell inlove with him, i moved a state away and visited over vacations. we almost lost our virginity together, but because of lack of know how we couldn't,i have never lived it down. well 6years later he found me again and i am visiting for a week comming up, and i want to WOW him!

i have only been with two guys and neither have been very adventurous, most we would do is change positions. i am confident about giving head (mainly from suggestions from here) and i KNOW i am good! heres the twist i have to add.he said he has never really cared about sex,never really enjoied it much, and i am 6 months pregnant, though i am a big woman to begin with i do not have a big belly to get into the way.

basically i saw his disapointment the last time we were together i do not want it to happen again. he is also insistant on going down on me which i am afraid of because i know i taste diffrent since the pregnancy. are there any sugestions on how to leave a memriable impression?

[ambrelyn]

Well, mainly I would say, slow down and relax. It sounds like you're getting all stressed out about this, and it shouldn't be that way. As Howard has said numerous times, sex is about fun, about playing together. You'll never have fun if you're so worried about everything. If you're worried about how you will taste, have some flavored lube nearby. I wouldn't bring it up at the beginning, but if you get the impression he isn't enjoying himself as much as usual, you could say, hey, I happened to get some of this flavored stuff, wanna try it? Don't say, I know I taste horrible, so here's something to cover it up.

I think you should try switching it up a little. Do some things you've never done before. You won't know if you like them unless you try them. Of course, my first suggestion is always to try being tied up or tie him up. But that's just cuz I like it so much. Maybe if he can be really dominant or you can be dominant he'll find sex more exciting. My fiancee is very dominant, but we had slipped into a routine for a couple of weeks where we were having what I call 'vanilla' sex. We weren't playing our 'roles' and we weren't using our toys. Well, there came a night when he couldn't get hard. He was really upset about it, which made it worse, and we ended up not even having sex that night. He was really upset and even told me he was worthless and I needed to find someone else. Well, I reassured him that that wasn't true and he was under alot stress which might explain it and all that. I knew the reason wasn't because he suddenly had lost interest in me or anything. I went home and thought alot about it. The next day before I saw him, it occurred to me that he wasn't being dominant anymore. I told him what I thought, but he wasn't very receptive to anything. That night though, I asked him to be very rough with me. He pushed me to my knees and ordered me to suck his dick. That was it, he didn't have a problem anymore. So anyway, the point of that whole story was to say that sometimes you get stuck in a rut of having sex the same way or in the same place all the time and it can get boring. So I would suggest trying some new things. Have sex all over the house, not just the bedroom. Take a shower together, and if, like me, you're too big to actually have sex there, give him a blow job there, or just tease each other until you can't stand it anymore. Get a few toys. If you think it will bother him, buy something like a vibrating cockring that's for him too. Or present it in the light of: here's something you can use to tease the crap out of me. That's how I do it. Ask him what his fantasies are, and if it's not something you're horribly uncomfortable with, try to fulfill one for him.

But mainly just remember to have fun and play. Relax and enjoy each other. I'm sure the others will have ideas to offer you.

[zimmersdreamer]

does he know?? yes we first started talking about our lives when we were talking again and it was a few hours before he and i had both come to sex talk. (6 year hiatis remember) and i am a blunt person. i have brought up the issues with having sex with a pregnant woman and the complications and such being as i have had a child already i have had lots of pratice.

is there other partners? no not that i know of, i can only assume that he is honest and not telling me about another woman (yes protection is a must in all forms of sex) he is known for being bluntly honest to me about such subjects. the only ones i am not sure if he is honest about is my proformance.

thank you about the eating thing i should have figured it out on my own but it never occured to me, seman taste diffrent so i should have put two and two together.

as for bondage, dominance i am dominant in person but have never been able to be so in bed i have a insecurity thing i have to get over, but i know when i have in the past taken innicitive he went wild. i just dont want to come on too strong and seem desprite.

i know i have put a lot of stress into the vacation and know waht ever is meant to happen will but i was looking on how to make it something he will never forget. i have found MANY suggestions from this site and will contineu to find new ways to play.