Newbie mbphoto Posted November 6, 2006 Newbie Report Share Posted November 6, 2006 how do i get my wife more adventerous? i.e toys, movies, threesomes? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyger Posted November 7, 2006 Report Share Posted November 7, 2006 As always, Howard covered most of the bases rather well. And I agree with him on all accounts.As far as a threesome, as many of the posters here will agree, most marriages probably won't survive the fallout of a threesome. Fun while you're there, but the aftermath of insecurity, jealousy, and possible infatuation with the outside party, would have a very negative, and almost impossible to fix impact on the marriage.I've known several couples that have gone the threesome route, and only one (out of about 5) survived. And I believe that it survived because they were older (in their 40's), laid down ground rules, was extremely open and honest about it, and they also enjoy the Swinger's lifestyle.I'm not closed to the possibilities of 3-somes, so long as their done safely, and everyone goes in with the correct rules of the game. But, you also gotta ask yourself, if she wanted a 3-some with another man, would you be down for it too?In NO WAY am I talking down to you when I say this, but you ARE young, and probably haven't been married that long. I don't know you or your wife, so I can't say for certain, but a threesome has hardly ever fixed a dull marriage.Communication is key in any sort of decision in a marriage, and relationships for that matter.If you want her to be a bit more open, talk about it. The best way, that worked for me, is starting slowly (will probably take months and months), if she is shy, or inhibited. Start off by complimenting how sexy she is. Maybe start by buying a sexy sweater, and honestly compliment her on how hot she looks. Whisper sexy things in her ear.....Keep going like that. Work your way up to sexy lingerie, maybe even go to a lingerie store together. Boosting one's ego usually works to produce confidence, and a possible wanting to explore more. Feeling sexy is always a great feeling for women (and men too!). Like Howard said, more specific questions are best, for a more direct answer. Welcome to the board, and I hope you enjoy it!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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