Members Karla Posted April 22, 2005 Members Report Share Posted April 22, 2005 this is my problem. i was married before and my ex husband used to like anal sex. when we tried the first time, i couldnt do it. then we tried again and i could only do it if i was laying down and like to the side. he used to love it, but it wasnt really pleasurable for me, i did it more for him. then after that time, we couldnt do it no more at all. it hurts so much its not even funny. i wish i could do it, but i really dont know how. i heard of this lubricant, that makes the anal canal numb. i dont know if its true, but the thing is that i have to find something that makes it not so painful. this might sound funny, but i have been always concerned bout the hemorrids. what do you think i can do Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sexycouple19 Posted April 26, 2005 Members Report Share Posted April 26, 2005 There's a great lube out there called anal ease. It makes it easier and less painful for you to have anal sex. And why be worried about hemriods? Never heard of anyone getting hemroids from anal sex. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Jen Posted April 26, 2005 Members Report Share Posted April 26, 2005 Be careful about what you use as anal lubrication. To be honest I wouldn't recommend that you try and numb the rectum. If numb the area you would not be able to feel if you have torn and scratched the rectum--which would be very painful. Anal sex is about relaxing and plenty of lubrication. You need to find a position that is comfortable for you and you need to feel very comfortable with your partner. Once you have established that than you need to make sure that you use plenty of lubrication ( a water based lube is the best). Take your time--rushing anal sex will never result in a good time!Good luck.Jen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie topshot Posted April 26, 2005 Newbie Report Share Posted April 26, 2005 Be careful about what you use as anal lubrication. To be honest I wouldn't recommend that you try and numb the rectum. If numb the area you would not be able to feel if you have torn and scratched the rectum--which would be very painful. Anal sex is about relaxing and plenty of lubrication. You need to find a position that is comfortable for you and you need to feel very comfortable with your partner. Once you have established that than you need to make sure that you use plenty of lubrication ( a water based lube is the best). Take your time--rushing anal sex will never result in a good time!Good luck.Jen<{POST_SNAPBACK}>I have to agree with Jen 100%. My advise is to use lots and lots of lube and maybe start with something for a few times, or for a few minutes at the start of your "Session" , that isn't as large as your guy. Experiment with some toys, Take your time and have fun. Some of the newer anal toys are not as large as some others. You might find that you have to work your way up in order to fit the "Big One!" in;) ........ Enjoy and have fun,,,Topshot Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Chris4u Posted April 27, 2005 Members Report Share Posted April 27, 2005 Not long ago my girlfriend and I started trying anal sex. Let me tell you, I was kind of nervous about tearing/scratching her in there. But if you use a good bit of anal lube you'll be fine. I'm no pro, but we find it best right now if I rub the lube on both my penis and in her rectum area. I can't stress this enough, be relaxed and don't do it doggy, not at first at least. Speaking of relaxation, the position should also be. That's why I wouldn't start off with doggy or you ontop, for too many muscles are being tensed. Spooning or face-to-face is great. You can look into his eyes and he can massage you, reenforcing the serine state of mind.Relaxation and lots of lube...that's essential Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Janet Posted April 27, 2005 Members Report Share Posted April 27, 2005 Be careful about what you use as anal lubrication. To be honest I wouldn't recommend that you try and numb the rectum. If numb the area you would not be able to feel if you have torn and scratched the rectum--which would be very painful. Anal sex is about relaxing and plenty of lubrication. You need to find a position that is comfortable for you and you need to feel very comfortable with your partner. Once you have established that than you need to make sure that you use plenty of lubrication ( a water based lube is the best). Take your time--rushing anal sex will never result in a good time!Good luck.Jen<{POST_SNAPBACK}>I agree with Jen here too - don't use a numbing agent - you won't know what is happening. The other suggestion to use smaller toys is a great idea. I used a tapered butt plug in the beginning and slowly eased it in until I got used to it. There are lots of toys you can use. Then when you are ready, and with LOTS of lube (I like KY), try it - slowly. Find the best position/angle. It could be a very erotic experience if done right. Good luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie topshot Posted May 2, 2005 Newbie Report Share Posted May 2, 2005 You are so right, Janet. The idea of toys and the fun of anal play together are just too exciting for words. There are new "Glass Toys" that feel just great when they are used with a gentle hand. K Y is the best too! Sounds like you could be a woman after my own heart. I like to take My wife and my love play really slow and make it last a long time, the longer the better. I hope Karla is taking this all in to become the best at anal a person can be. It is all very pleasureable when done slowly and with giving pleasure to your partner. Xs&Os Topshot. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Janet Posted May 2, 2005 Members Report Share Posted May 2, 2005 You are so right, Janet. The idea of toys and the fun of anal play together are just too exciting for words. There are new "Glass Toys" that feel just great when they are used with a gentle hand. K Y is the best too! Sounds like you could be a woman after my own heart. I like to take My wife and my love play really slow and make it last a long time, the longer the better. I hope Karla is taking this all in to become the best at anal a person can be. It is all very pleasureable when done slowly and with giving pleasure to your partner. Xs&Os Topshot.<{POST_SNAPBACK}>Right topshot - it's all about pleasure - not that porn pain stuff - but pleasure and taking care of your partner. Have fun Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Rayya Posted May 5, 2005 Members Report Share Posted May 5, 2005 My boyfriend and I just tried the anal sex thing about three weeks ago.... I, like I'm sure a few other ladies on here, was doing it mostly because I figured it would make my guy happy and he would enjoy himself.... but I was surprised to find that I liked it as well.I admit, it did hurt a little at first, but the lube makes a WORLD of difference, believe me. I cant imagine trying to have anal sex without lube... my ass hurts just thinking about it... lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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