Tyger Posted January 28, 2007 Report Share Posted January 28, 2007 Well, as the topic suggests, Has anyone ever made or tried to make you feel guilty for masturbating? If so, how did you handle it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mikayla1 Posted January 29, 2007 Members Report Share Posted January 29, 2007 Nope. My Mom walked in on me once in the bathtub - I was perched under the running water. She closed the door and when I came out - completely HORRIFIED - she told me that masturbation is normal, healthy and private. She talked to me about locking the doors and about being safe and not putting things inside me (I was 10). She also told me not to burn myself (lol)!No worries with my family!Mikayla Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members nosleepnmesa Posted January 29, 2007 Members Report Share Posted January 29, 2007 I have to say NO here to. I was caught by my dad at the age of 13, I was caught with my fingers. My father walked in and didn't say a word and walked out. I think he was just as shocked as me to tell you the truth. I was embarassed when I came out, my step mother said she would like to talk to me. I said I rather talk to my dad, she said that is fine and my father and I sat down and had a great conversation about masturbation and sex and all. He told me next time to hang a sign on the door that said, "Do not disturb." So no guilt here it is normal and healthy, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members telecom69 Posted January 30, 2007 Members Report Share Posted January 30, 2007 Well, as the topic suggests, Has anyone ever made or tried to make you feel guilty for masturbating? If so, how did you handle it?I once caught my then 16 yr old son jacking off in his room late at night. I saw a dim light on under his bedroom door when he should have been asleep. I opened the door to tell him to get to sleep and there he is doing his business. He actually looked at me and said "c'mon dad, do you mind"? I just looked at him and said "damn Jordan, keep the door locked". The next morning I told him I have no problem doing that and its normal. I told him I did it at his age to. Its still a funny subject for us to this day and he is 21.Telecom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members drnurse Posted January 30, 2007 Members Report Share Posted January 30, 2007 I can only orgasm during sex by maturbating...I was with a guy who was horrified when I did that and said" If I can't make you come, then you can't come at all". Well....I was embarressed. Thank heavens that relationship went kaputz and I now am married to a wonderful man who actually enjoys watching me make myslef come. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sexyblond6969 Posted February 2, 2007 Members Report Share Posted February 2, 2007 i got caucht masterbating when i was 17 yrs old my mom looked at me and left the room after i was done she told me it was natural and she went with me to buy a vibrator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyger Posted February 6, 2007 Author Report Share Posted February 6, 2007 To answer my own question, the answer is, thankfully, no. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sarahangel Posted February 27, 2007 Members Report Share Posted February 27, 2007 Hey Tyger, I can't answer yes or no lol... my thing is that I am always scared of getting caught so when I do masterbate its like boring...and if...thats a BIG IF..I have an orgasm it isn't all that strong.. I've even done the shower head thing..and the road to the Orgasm is way better then the orgasm itself.... the point is I haven't had an orgasm that is so explosive I start screaming loud enough to get anybody's atention....Hell i've been worried about my mom catching me but I am starting to think she might not even care.. I would love to talk to her about it and get her to see this website so she can re-discover herself as well because she hasn't had sex of any kind in almost 3 years now...at this point I would be so fucking happy to hear her masturbating because she needs it...she's always grumpy lol!! If I knew she was ok with it and she knew I was ok with it god it would be great!! anyways I haven;t got caught yet...if and when I do I'll let you know how it goes!!! lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members whiskeywoman Posted February 27, 2007 Members Report Share Posted February 27, 2007 Yes, I got caught when I was 13.I was using my fingers, my mom walked in and immediatly slapped my hands away, told me I was a filthy child and I was going to go to hell if I did anything like that again, then she told my grandmother, who ragged on me for months about it.I found my moms collection of vibrators and dildoes one day, I got the "Do as I say and not as I do" lecture.Anyways, thankfully I don't have to worry about it anymore. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members lynnzerben Posted May 4, 2007 Members Report Share Posted May 4, 2007 I've never been caught, but when I was 8 my mom told that there are 2 people who never have sex, your parents and your kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members admiraltolokus Posted May 4, 2007 Members Report Share Posted May 4, 2007 Well, as the topic suggests, Has anyone ever made or tried to make you feel guilty for masturbating? If so, how did you handle it?lmao haven't been caught masturbating, but was caught with my fricking massive collection of hentai manga i draw my dad just walked over to me while i was mowing the yard and said "thats some collection you got, hide it BETTER before your mom sees it"but....my mom already knew all about that art, she had seen my wallpapers on my laptop but she never told him.to this day, niether know a thing about what each other knows Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members *Mikayla's~Man* Posted May 4, 2007 Members Report Share Posted May 4, 2007 Actually, when I was 13 I broke into my stepdad's porn cabinet and watched a film while they were out. They came home and saw that the cabinet had been broken into. I NEVER lived it down. The "you know, your hands will get hairy if you masturbate too much" and the "I think you are getting cross-eyed" and all that. Then, when I brought Mikayla home to meet them it was AGAIN brought up at the dinner table. God bless my fiancee, she just smiled, took a sip of her water and said, "oh, is that all? I used to call sex lines that I thought were free and ammassed a $300.00 phone bill! Imagine my mom's surprise!"I thought they were all going to choke! I would have married her then and there if it wasn't that we were already planning the day!!'MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyger Posted May 5, 2007 Author Report Share Posted May 5, 2007 Actually, my ex husband TRIED to make me feel bad about it.....once. Until I caught him masturbating, and made a HUGE issue about it~to prove a point. He never gave me any more troulbe after that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ShyBear Posted May 5, 2007 Members Report Share Posted May 5, 2007 I have never been caught so no one has ever made me feel guilty. No one except myself that is. I guess because of how I was raised. I have begun feeling more and more comfortable with it though lately since I have been on this site reading and because I have male friends who tell me how cool they think it is that a woman does that. I was surprised. My guy told me he thinks it is great that a woman can feel comfortable pleasuring herself. If we don't get to see each other we sometimes end our phone conversations with sex talk and he will ask me if I am touching or playing with myself. So no, no one makes me feel guilty but me....I need to learn to relax and loosen up without the guilt that follows. ShyBear Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members clewing Posted May 6, 2007 Members Report Share Posted May 6, 2007 I missed this topic the first time around.I used to masturbate in the tub using the shower spray (we had a hand held one). My parents caught me one time and pitched a fit and I got the lecture of "You shouldn't be doing that," with no explanations as to why. I was fairly young, can't remember how old, but my parents were still married and we were still living in the house Daddy built, so I had to be younger than 12. I remember I was too young to realize why it felt so good, just knew that it did feel good. Then I guy I dated for four years before meeting and marrying my husband used to try and make me feel guilty about using my vibrator (the electric, massager type) telling me that it would desensitize me and I wouldn't be able to have an orgasm with him. I didn't believe him and kept right on using it, with or without him. In my opinion, it did NOT desensitize me but made me even more sensitive when making love and I think it is the reason I became able to have multiple orgasms.Fortunately my husband has always found it a turn on that I used that vibrator, and really loves it now that we have started shopping at TooTimid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members pink35 Posted August 14, 2007 Members Report Share Posted August 14, 2007 When I was real little, like 5-6, I would tickle myself with my fingers and it would make me red down there. My mom would spank me and tell me it was bad. I learned that I had to hide it but I didn't stop doing it because it felt so good and was fun. My husband loves to watch me tickle myself, but after going so many years of hiding it I've had a hard time getting used to being watched. I've gotten much better in the last year and have come out of my shell a lot, but still have a long ways to go after being told that it was wrong and bad and actually being spanked for doing that. But like I said, it didn't stop me, just made me do it in hiding. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members krisleightate Posted August 14, 2007 Members Report Share Posted August 14, 2007 I came home from work one day and my first husband had thrown away all my toys. He told me that if I needed sexual releif that I should come to him not my toys or my fingers. I told him that my masturbation time was my time to relax alone. Sometimes a woman just wants to touch herself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members eikoops Posted October 5, 2007 Members Report Share Posted October 5, 2007 when i was upset about my SO masturbating to porn without me (yeah i know im over it) i totally freaked cuz i thought he wanted to masturbate to those hot chicks instead of have sex with me (i always feel like i want more sex than him). i asked if he could ease off on the masturbation for a while till i felt it wasn't effecting how much he wanted me. BIG mistake! i saw a freshly used condom in the bathroom trash (we usually toss ours in the bedroom trash) when we hadn't had sex in a week. i thought 'shit! i made him feel guilty and now he's trying to hide it from me!!!' i asked if that’s what happened and he said yes. i feel so bad! i've told him it's ok, in fact i want him to enjoy that freedom. but he said he feels uncomfortable with it now. i said i was sorry. oh god i feel guilty now. he still wont do it, unless im on vacation. i wish i'd never asked him not to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyger Posted October 5, 2007 Author Report Share Posted October 5, 2007 It's unfortunate that you've helped make your BF feel guilty about something as natural as masturbating. This is a good example of what NOT to do in a relationship. You're young, and probably a bit insecure. Which is normal for people just learning to be in real relationships. Learn from it, and keep reassuring your BF that you're sorry. But don't keep calling more and more attention to it either. Maybe help him along one night by having a Masturbation Night, where the 2 of you just masturbate each other, no sex. Watch an adult movie WITH him. Porn is just another additive in sex. The only time one should worry, is if their partner, or themselves, watch porn to get off, and get addicted to it. People addicted to porn can't have sex with "real girls/guys" anymore. It doesn't sound as if your BF has this trouble. Men are VISUAL, they get turned on by what they SEE, hence why lingerie and porn is so popular. Remember not to make him self-conscious for being male. Maybe cruise some adult sites together, if he goes online to look at porn. Check it out, make it fun. Obviously, he cares for you, he's trying to be considerate of your feelings. He's able to have sex with YOU. Sex and being sexual with your partner is suppose to be fun and flirty, be kind to each other, and have fun! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members lxixboy Posted October 8, 2007 Members Report Share Posted October 8, 2007 my GF used to make me feel bad every once in a while, nothing that i ever took too seriously. that lasted up until a few months ago when i caught her masturbating on the couch while i was in the shower. apparently she didnt hear the water shut off like she usually does. her only argument now is that she can masturbate to a Cosmo mag and i have videos that i watch. eh.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyger Posted October 8, 2007 Author Report Share Posted October 8, 2007 It's great that your husband was able to speak to his brother about that. Some people are so sheltered, you wonder if they really enjoy sex or not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Kinky Twinkie Posted October 9, 2007 Members Report Share Posted October 9, 2007 Actually, when I was 13 I broke into my stepdad's porn cabinet and watched a film while they were out. They came home and saw that the cabinet had been broken into. I NEVER lived it down. The "you know, your hands will get hairy if you masturbate too much" and the "I think you are getting cross-eyed" and all that. Then, when I brought Mikayla home to meet them it was AGAIN brought up at the dinner table. God bless my fiancee, she just smiled, took a sip of her water and said, "oh, is that all? I used to call sex lines that I thought were free and ammassed a $300.00 phone bill! Imagine my mom's surprise!"I thought they were all going to choke! I would have married her then and there if it wasn't that we were already planning the day!!'MMLol I forgot about those, I did that also but I guess it was forgotten after I did something else. Not sure what it was I did but it was bad enough to have them forget about them phone bills.Glenn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ToyQueen Posted October 9, 2007 Members Report Share Posted October 9, 2007 I have masturbated since I was very young, even though I didn't know what it was called, or even why I did it.Not only did my mother make me feel guilty about it for as long as I can remember, she told one of my teachers about it so the teacher could watch me. The other kids who sat around me also somehow knew that this was an issue and would tell the teacher.One of the biggest problems with this? I was in college when I finally realized that that was what I had been doing all those years. Yes, I was very naive.Of course, my mother would be very upset if she knew I continue to masturbate, have toys, and even that I am on this site regularly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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