My husband wants me to be with other men

[openmindedmom]

Hi, I am a 36 year old married mom of two in the Midwest.

My husband and I have been married for 12 years and a few months ago he told me that he knows he does not satisfy me sexually and expressed his desire for me to be with other men.

I have never given him any reason to think he doesn’t satisfy and while it is true I am super sensitive to his insecurities (particularly around how small he is) so have never said anything about it or the lack of excitement sexually.

Needless to say it caught me by surprise when he mentioned it, I was angry and upset at first but the more we have spoken about it the more it seems to be coming from a sincere place.  I am terribly torn, part of me wants to, but another part is hesitant for sure.

Would love to hear others thoughts about this, and just help thinking through all of this.  Thank you so much!!

[Rio]

That is something to really think carefully about I would think. Sorry I can't be a more help, never being in that situation.

[Rob7160]

On 11/18/2024 at 7:48 AM, openmindedmom said:

Hi, I am a 36 year old married mom of two in the Midwest.

My husband and I have been married for 12 years and a few months ago he told me that he knows he does not satisfy me sexually and expressed his desire for me to be with other men.

I have never given him any reason to think he doesn’t satisfy and while it is true I am super sensitive to his insecurities (particularly around how small he is) so have never said anything about it or the lack of excitement sexually.

Needless to say it caught me by surprise when he mentioned it, I was angry and upset at first but the more we have spoken about it the more it seems to be coming from a sincere place.  I am terribly torn, part of me wants to, but another part is hesitant for sure.

Would love to hear others thoughts about this, and just help thinking through all of this.  Thank you so much!!

How do you feel about other men fucking you in front of him. Once you do this there's no taking it back. I cannot satisfy my wife how our surrogate husband can because of my non functioning micropenis. The whole thing was awkward at first but after a few years we both love this lifestyle. Start out slow maybe dance with a guy at a club or go online  on a site and watch a guy jerk off and see how you both feel about this. Has he ever used a realistic porn star dildo on you to roleplay another man inside you? There's lots of things you can do to "test the waters"

[openmindedmom]

Well my husband actually said, to start at least, he thinks it would be better for me to do it alone and tell him about it afterwards 

And no, I do not own a dildo or any toys but maybe that is something to consider for sure 

[Rob7160]

8 minutes ago, openmindedmom said:

Well my husband actually said, to start at least, he thinks it would be better for me to do it alone and tell him about it afterwards 

And no, I do not own a dildo or any toys but maybe that is something to consider for sure 

You have to want this too

[openmindedmom]

2 minutes ago, Rob7160 said:

You have to want this too

For sure, it took a while but I definitely came around to it after lots of conversation with my husband 

[Rob7160]

Maybe he could purchase a Strap on dildo or something like the Vixen Creations Maverick dildo in a pair of " Rodeo" brief harnesses. He will feel like he's fucking and satisfying you and will see you being satisfied as well. As men we are wired to please our wives. 

[openmindedmom]

That is an interesting idea as well, will definitely consider that

Thank you for sharing that

[Rob7160]

1 minute ago, openmindedmom said:

That is an interesting idea as well, will definitely consider that

Thank you for sharing that

Your welcum

[bobbie63]

maybe give it a try, see if he wants to be in the same room  maybe helping with a toy or holding you, and if your into video taping he could help , then both could watch later to help him get turned on,

[openmindedmom]

That is an idea to explore too.  I’ve asked him a number of times if he wants to be there and he insists he doesn’t want to, at least to start out 

[Rob7160]

On 11/19/2024 at 8:10 PM, openmindedmom said:

That is an idea to explore too.  I’ve asked him a number of times if he wants to be there and he insists he doesn’t want to, at least to start out 

When he smells the sex on you he will want to see you get creampied guaranteed. I love to dip my fingers into Kim's freshly fucked pussy and ladle his cum into her mouth and watch her lick my fingers off. So fun!

[Jammer]

Sad, is your husband ok or did he have an accident that has left him unable or dis functional?

[openmindedmom]

He is ok, it is all mental for him

[SoccerPro08]

I only know what you have given, but I would recommend toys. Get a dildo and a vib. I use them on my wife to warm her up. And it has helped us climax together. Give how he said it I'm inclined to think he wasn't to please you but knows he is falling short. Not sure I he goes down on you either? My wife gets off hard when I can bring her to orgasm orally.

[openmindedmom]

He does go down on me but does not take feedback, I’ll need to aid with my fingers to get off unfortunately 

[SoccerPro08]

There are many ways to satisfy a women. Get some toys and maybe talk more or at least make sure he knows what feels good when he is down on you.

But I am biased because my wife is the only one I want and the only one I've been with. 

[SexMaster]

This is a delicate situation. I am sure this wasn't an easy conclusion for him, and hearing your response it wasn't easy for you too. 

Rob had a great idea that you should explore with your husband. Don't dive straight into a big dildo as he will likely feel like (I knew it). But something slightly bigger than him. 

How big of a member is he working with? They have penile shots that can make him girthy. If he would like to explore that route. 

 

[tiptaste]

I have two friends who are in different stages of doing what you're describing. One is quite a bit along and she actively sees other men and her husband gets all the details when she gets home. They both enjoy him going down on her if she's just been done so he can taste and he gets hard when she gives him the details. In some ways, it's helped their own sex life a lot. My other friend has a husband who has lost interest in her. She thinkgs it's job stress but I think she's trying to convince herself that it's not her. She's young...in her 40's and he has asked her to find a partner to please her. She is embarrassed to own toys and is taking baby steps to get satisfied. She initiallly just wants to give and get oral and her husband would prefer that she tell him what she did and how it felt. 

You're definitely not alone. 

[Rob7160]

On 11/30/2024 at 5:27 AM, tiptaste said:

I have two friends who are in different stages of doing what you're describing. One is quite a bit along and she actively sees other men and her husband gets all the details when she gets home. They both enjoy him going down on her if she's just been done so he can taste and he gets hard when she gives him the details. In some ways, it's helped their own sex life a lot. My other friend has a husband who has lost interest in her. She thinkgs it's job stress but I think she's trying to convince herself that it's not her. She's young...in her 40's and he has asked her to find a partner to please her. She is embarrassed to own toys and is taking baby steps to get satisfied. She initiallly just wants to give and get oral and her husband would prefer that she tell him what she did and how it felt. 

You're definitely not alone. 

Having a non functioning micropenis had always been an issue for me.  I had always taken care of my wife orally and with toys but I couldn't give her the feeling of a  warm flesh and blood cock spurting hot cum inside her while having a warm body bring her to ecstacy. Seeing Jason make love to my wife has definitely increased my desires for my wife.