Newbie sunshine82 Posted July 7, 2007 Newbie Report Share Posted July 7, 2007 OK, I am a little embarrassed by this, but my husband and I have been married for a while and we are stuck in a sexual rut. I am willing to try new things, but am so unsure of myself. I was always made to feel growing up that BJ's were wrong and nasty. The other day, I ended up just "slipping" and kissing my hubby there and I could not believe the reaction. I have read a little on this site and am trying to figure out where to go from here. I am willing to learn and try the things I have read about, but am so unsure of myself. I want to make my hubbie happy, and I think I could get used to watching those kinds of reactions, especially after the years of the reactions fading into nothing more than a "thanks hon".I guess the gist of this is what is the best start for a beginer to all of this whole oral sex world?Thanks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ToyQueen Posted July 8, 2007 Members Report Share Posted July 8, 2007 Hi, Sunshine. Welcome!I was much like you. My first husband LOVED blow jobs, but I had been raised that straight vaginal, missionary position sex was the only appropriate thing to do. I did get to a point that I would give him a BJ, but not very often. I truly didn't like it.I NEVER gave my second hubby a BJ. Sorry guys. However, this is what I have learned.Ask him what he would like. Ask him to guide you verbally through the whole thing. He can tell you what to do. That way you learn exactly what he likes. Watch or listen to his reactions. If there is a positive reaction, you know that would be a good thing to repeat.I'm sure you will get lots of responses, but maybe this will be a start.Good luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members thurisas Posted July 8, 2007 Members Report Share Posted July 8, 2007 I have to agree, communication is the key but first, you have to have the courage to do that much. Talking to your partner is the only way to find out what they like and to let them know what you like. As far as a good place to start, you might go with a hand-job. This is probably the action your husband knows best as to how to get himself off. After he teaches you how to do that properly you're setting up a pattern of success. The more success, the more confidence, the more confidence, the more expirimentation. Above all, though, don't be afraid to make mistakes. Chances are you're going to be fairly careful while you're playing down there so it isn't likely that you'll be hurting him, you just have to pay attention to what is getting the good reactions and what isn't. Paying attention and listening to both the verbal and non-verbal communication is essential.Thurisas. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie Bigbee Posted July 8, 2007 Newbie Report Share Posted July 8, 2007 Yes sweet heart, start off slow, a champion cock sucker over night will not happen, but as long as you take your time, and listen to his reactions, if there is something that I have learned is that as long as your doing it right you will never have any complaints from him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie sunshine82 Posted July 9, 2007 Author Newbie Report Share Posted July 9, 2007 Thank you all for your encouragement and advice. I will do my best to muster up the courage I need and have a heart to heart with my hubbie. That way we can really talk all this out and then go from there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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