Members hotamales Posted October 2, 2007 Members Report Share Posted October 2, 2007 My child is 12 years old , and even do she is not asking yet but her eyes look like she have some questions about sexhow can i talk to her about it ; and also how to said it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members joey9817 Posted October 2, 2007 Members Report Share Posted October 2, 2007 My child is 12 years old , and even do she is not asking yet but her eyes look like she have some questions about sexhow can i talk to her about it ; and also how to said it? Open and honest........Not descriptive but just honest.....Dont force the talk but do encourage it and just be supportive and as honest as you can be. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members thurisas Posted October 2, 2007 Members Report Share Posted October 2, 2007 While I was never a 12 year old girl, I was a 12 year old boy and able to talk openly about sex with my parents at that age. They always made it known and understood that if I had any questions about anything, that I was able to ask without fear of them not taking me seriously or without fear of being brushed off. All it takes is courage and encouragement on your part. You also have to be calm when you talk to your child about these sorts of things no matter how much you might be railing at the idea that they are starting to think about sex. You don't want to chase her away to the place where most children get their information...from their friends and on the schoolyard... and I think we all know how messed up information from those sources can be.Thurisas. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mikayla1 Posted October 2, 2007 Members Report Share Posted October 2, 2007 Honestly, she probably knows quite a bit already - but is her information "accurate?" I would suggest just sitting down with her in private, maybe over some cookies and milk or something low key. Tell her that she is of the age where sex might become a topic she has questions about. Tell her sex is normal, healthy and a part of life. Explain what your beliefs are (waiting until marriage, waiting until the right man, etc.) and explain how pregnancy happens and the severe risks of STDs. Talk about monogamy, being careful, birth control and the like. Also, explain how many boys just want to "get into her pants" and that sex is something special.The best way to attack this is in an honest, open and non-judgmental manner. She has to know not only the facts and figures but also the emotional stuff that goes along wtih sex. Ask if she has questions of you - and reinforce that she can come to you at any time with questions about sex, boys, etc.Also, this is very, very important - discuss ORAL sex. Some boys nowadays are telling young girls that oral sex is NOT sex - and as we know, it IS. Explain the risk of STDs with oral sex. Be thorough in your explanations.The best defense is knowlege and as a parent, it is your resonsibility to give it all to her so she can make informed decisions while feeling like she can talk to her mom about it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members hotamales Posted October 2, 2007 Author Members Report Share Posted October 2, 2007 thank you all for you help i will talk to her this evenining. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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