Helpppp - Anal Sex

[starinajar]

My boyfriend of over a year and I have started having sex a few months ago. We are both each others' first sexual partners. He has always been turned on by anal sex, which we're tried once or twice but it feels extremely awkward for me (as gross as this might sound, it actually feels like I need to 'expel' something from my body when he's in there). I want to please him.... should I stand my ground or give in? And if I do decide to try it again any tips for making it feel unawkward?

Thank you!

[Mikayla1]

First, WELCOME to the forum! I am sure that you will find many answers to many questions here with all the helpful posters we have, as well as some new information that you didn't even know you were looking for!

As far as the feeling you are experiencing -it is 100% normal. The rectal canal is typically an "exit only" type thing, so when something goes UP your body's natural response is that it should be going OUT. That is where the feeling comes in. For first time anal players, this is hard to ignore. Second, when you get more relaxed with it your body will not have such a strong reaction to this. You will be able to accept and enjoy the sensation of being anally penetrated. Thirdly, make sure you are always using enough lube. The major rule to anal play is you can never have enough lube. The slicker the entrance the less resistance. Add more as you go.

Of course it is nice of you to want to please your lover by engaging in anal play, but if you are totally against it, and do not want to try it, then you will not be relaxed and therefore, it will not be pleasurable. So, please, if you absolutely hate it, then be honest with him about it. Otherwise, it will never be a good experience for you!

Now, for the best tips on how to become comfortable with it, read my article in the sex ed section on everything anal - I am sure you will have most of your answers there.

Good luck and remember - always have FUN!

[jennycherie]

He has always been turned on by anal sex, which we're tried once or twice but it feels extremely awkward for me (as gross as this might sound, it actually feels like I need to 'expel' something from my body when he's in there). I want to please him.... should I stand my ground or give in? And if I do decide to try it again any tips for making it feel unawkward?

have you tried just some anal play to start with? I was opposed to this until one time, when he was fingering me, my husband let one of his fingers kind of drag behind so while his fingers were going in and out of my vagina, another finger was kind of dragging across my tush. It was such a turn on that it occurred to me that anal sex might be enjoyable as opposed to something to endure so my husband could enjoy it. If you try anal play (just like touching on the outside and maybe inserting a well-lubed finger or small toy) and enjoy it, chances are you will enjoy anal sex as well. Read Mikayla's article! It is great!