Cheating On My Husband

[Princess25]

I have been dating/married to the same guy for 10 years. He's actually the only guy that I have had sex with (I was 15 when we started dating) until 3 weeks ago when a "freak" encounter with an old friend made him the 2nd guy that I've had sex with. I hadn't seen this guy in 3 years, and we talked for 5 min and the next thing I know we're getting it on. I haven't had good sex in YEARS until that moment. we've gotten together a couple of times since then, but it's ALL i can think about. He's a lot more experienced than I am and I'm afraid that I'm a little rusty on my techniques. Anyway, my husband is going to be out of town next week, and that will give me plenty of time to have lots of animal sex. How can I leave him wanting more???? Being married, and knowing that I don't have to impress him that much has made me really confident in a very sexy sort of way, but I want to know more. What does a single 25 year old man want? HELP!!!!!!!!

[pappyld04]

Wow Princess! Talk about jumping in with both feet. First I'll say welcome to the board! Now to the question at hand I am left to wonder what your intentions are here. Are you looking to get out of what appears to be an unhappy marriage? Is this other man able to give you everything that you need to be happy? Does he work and if so is it enough to support two people? I guess I should ask what his frame of mind is also? I'm really surprised that it took 5 minutes for you to ditch all that you had and jump into bed with another man. There must to be some real problems to do that. I would chalk it up to youth but to make it 10 years I wonder if you may be thinking that you are missing out on something. Obviously being with only 1 man and marrying so young does tend to create this situation many times. Although most do not wait 10 years. Perhaps the best thing I could suggest to you is to talk to this man and get to know his likes/dislikes, his feelings on the matter and that may get you prepared for the serious talk that must really take place between you and your husband! You must figure out why this happened and learn how to choose your path should it happen again. Until you figure out what caused this disaster you are destined to repeat it if you don't change things. I wish you the best of luck and I hope you will be happy regardless of which direction you choose to go!!!

[thurisas]

Seems like you may have put yourself into a tough situation here. Of course, any man is going to like something along the lines of what Howard mentioned, but you are going to have to find that out for yourself. You actually need to talk about sex with any partner to find out likes, dislikes, etc. Perhaps this is something you did or didn't do in your marriage, I don't know, but it seems to be a hanging point for you.

As far as sex outside of your marriage, you seem rather non-chalant about it. Did you and your husband agree to an open marriage? If not, then you're most likely going to run into some troubles in the near future. Even if you think you're hiding everything from your husband, there will be tell-tale signs that are going to give you away. One thing you should really consider is that you've now got multiple partners, one of those partners obviously isn't adverse to a hookup after a 5 minute meeting, and you have no way of knowing if you're the only one. So, that means you're effectively sleeping with all of his past and present partners and have access to a wide variety of possible infections that you can pass on to an unsuspecting party...your husband. Do the right thing and try to communicate and save your marriage or let it go so you and your husband can start with new, separate lives. At the very least, see your doctor.

Thurisas.

[niecee_72]

I have been dating/married to the same guy for 10 years. He's actually the only guy that I have had sex with (I was 15 when we started dating) until 3 weeks ago when a "freak" encounter with an old friend made him the 2nd guy that I've had sex with. I hadn't seen this guy in 3 years, and we talked for 5 min and the next thing I know we're getting it on. I haven't had good sex in YEARS until that moment. we've gotten together a couple of times since then, but it's ALL i can think about. He's a lot more experienced than I am and I'm afraid that I'm a little rusty on my techniques. Anyway, my husband is going to be out of town next week, and that will give me plenty of time to have lots of animal sex. How can I leave him wanting more???? Being married, and knowing that I don't have to impress him that much has made me really confident in a very sexy sort of way, but I want to know more. What does a single 25 year old man want? HELP!!!!!!!!

I know I'm new here but wow. They are right you need to decide single or married. Sooner or later its going to come back and bite you in the ass. And if you decice you and they other guy are going to try to be together remember you now have cheated on your husband after awhile I'm sure the other guy will start wondering if your cheating on him.

I've been with my guy for 17 years now. No cheating or anything. I no are sex life sucks right now and I don't know what I'm going to do because I totally check out other guys and think I want to do them BUT I stop and think do I want to throw away 17 years of my life for what good sex? Are sex is boring BUT it's my fault to. I know I have to comeout of my shell and say what I want and how I want it. And I know I'll get but until I get over my own timid shy crab I have to deal. So what I'm saying is maybe you need to talk to your husband about what you want in bed.

[pappyld04]

I know I'm new here but wow. They are right you need to decide single or married. Sooner or later its going to come back and bite you in the ass. And if you decice you and they other guy are going to try to be together remember you now have cheated on your husband after awhile I'm sure the other guy will start wondering if your cheating on him.

I've been with my guy for 17 years now. No cheating or anything. I no are sex life sucks right now and I don't know what I'm going to do because I totally check out other guys and think I want to do them BUT I stop and think do I want to throw away 17 years of my life for what good sex? Are sex is boring BUT it's my fault to. I know I have to comeout of my shell and say what I want and how I want it. And I know I'll get but until I get over my own timid shy crab I have to deal. So what I'm saying is maybe you need to talk to your husband about what you want in bed.

Hello shy! It's always good to have new people who join in. Just wanted to say that the hardest part of fixing a problem is to recognize that there is one! You are in the right area here. You will find all kinds of advice for just about everything. Hope it helps.