How Do I Get Husband More Open

[ashlestyle]

Well first of all I have a fascination about the male "g-spot" I don't know if its because my husband has deemed it "will never go there" or because I know how much I like my g-spot I want him to have that kind of pleasure. I have slowly tried to get him more interested in toys. He really like the cock rings especially the ones that have the nub on the top that stimulates my clit at the same time. But I want to go further with him then just those. Is there any way to help him realize that its ok for him to have anal stimulation. Every time I bring it up he shuts me down and says NO never. He has no problems having anal sex with me though. His is just off limits. is there a way to kind of show him without him freaking out on me? Or is this just something that I might have to put in the never gonna do with hubby book, lol.

[thurisas]

Obviously you know your husband better than anyone but I would guess that he's of the mind that his behind is one-way only and that anything else might make him less of a man. The fact is that in todays world the more open and worldly men understand that any type of anal stimulation is just another pleasure point. Unless your husband WANTS to try to open up to this idea, you're going to continue to hit brick walls.

You may get the advice to slowly try to ease into it with a ton of lube and a finger during oral on your husband. Personally I don't like this idea as it is a violation of trust and that is something that no relationship can live without. My suggestion is that you do as much research on it as you possibly can. The more you know the more you can counter his objections. You might be able to win him over when you've countered his every argument with logic, statistics, and testimonials from others who are experienced. The biggest thing about this is that you need to sit and talk with him about it in a neutral setting where there is no imminent sex, no pressure, and no accusations.

Good luck

Thurisas.

[ashlestyle]

I am not sure if I am comfortable with going straight for the kill. He is a bit on the macho man side. It took awhile just to get him to be more open about sex with me. I am very sexual and he is a little bit of a prude. I was thinking more along the lines of maybe first starting off with a bullet and "accidentally" having it fall in that general area. Something like that. I just don't want him to think I am forcing anything on him. I feel like the man trying to get the female into anal lol. Come on baby it wont hurt! I promise you will like it!

[Bret]

Just work the bullet around his balls and on the MDS between his anus and balls.

He will slowly begin to like you playing in this area.

It does take some people some time to get over the "gay" or "morally" wrong feelings.

My wife took a long time before she would let me play in this area, we haven't had anal intercourse yet.

Thats fine with me, its her decision if and/or when it happens.

Just keep working on him slowly, he just might surprise you sometime and tell you to stick your finger up him.

[moondawg]

There is also the chance that this will be a no go zone forever. My girlfriend and I love anal play, but in our circle of friends(which talks a lot) there are guys that just won't try it. They aren't homophobic or really concerned about it being "TABOO" or "AGAINST GOD"(which they don't feel it is) or whatever kind of weird label you want to put on it, but they just have no desire to do it. I guess you could say it's like other worldly pleasures. Some people like alcohol, some people don't. Some people like sweets, some people don't. Even though, You can always have an open talk about it, and see where it goes from there. You may just have to accept that it is a black and white situation with no grey area. I could be wrong though.

[blackcard]

Just work the bullet around his balls and on the MDS between his anus and balls.

He will slowly begin to like you playing in this area.

It does take some people some time to get over the "gay" or "morally" wrong feelings.

My wife took a long time before she would let me play in this area, we haven't had anal intercourse yet.

Thats fine with me, its her decision if and/or when it happens.

Just keep working on him slowly, he just might surprise you sometime and tell you to stick your finger up him.

i agree with brets comment. this is one of those subjects where u have to take it really slow. if u try it like how howard said there could be some really bad responcee, plus there could be damage if not careful u could hit the wrong spot and hurt him. since hes not that in to, and has said that he dosent want anything like that i wouldnt recomend howards advice (no offence).

i would sit him down and talk about it and let him know ur intentions (if u havent already) and tell him ur opening comment to the fourm, and to be OPEN MINDED to all comment.

[12GAUGE]

69 may be a place to start. I agree with Howard though on the part about age having something to do with it. He may think you want to use something really big (may be something as silly as that). If a woman is willing to try anal for her husband's pleasure then what makes it wrong for the husband to take it like a man. We haven't had anal sex (vagina fells soooo much better) much but if the wife is randy and wants to play, my only question would be "Lemme see those nails" ?

Well what I am about to say is more of a response to Tangos answer. I am a 90% straight guy with a 10% curiousity that could easily morph into a 95% willingness to experiment with the right guy. I was with a guy about 10 months ago. We had a great time and we kept it pretty basic with mutual blowjobs. I wanted more but I still have inner conflicts with my bi ness. (I grew up in a somewhat dysfunctional family that fucked my head up pretty good.) Before me and my last gf broke up I confided to her my need of assplay. We talked about it when ever I got the chance cuz I wanted her to strapon fuck me. Well one day we were giving each other some fine oral. Out of the blue she slipped a finger in my ass. My ass was more than ready cuz her finger went all the way in one push. Now she continued to suck my cock while she wormed that finger in me butt good. My Sweetie always gave me toe curling hummers and she always swallowed my load. I seriously doubt I lasted another 5 minutes. I was flopping around like a fish out of the water...only it wasn't fear...I stopped eating her pussy. I couldn't help it she was giving me such exquisite joy all I could concentrate on was my own pleasure. She 'pegged' me for about 20 minutes. I was in LA LA land. When she finally pulled her finger out I was drenched in sweat and felt like I was shaking from head to toe...and I probably was. That one time element of lovemaking was in the Top 5 Best Sex Experiences of My Life in My Lifetime. And that was just a finger. We broke up before I was able to live out all my fantasies. But they're still floatin' around in that twisted mind of mine. I think what really nailed my love of bottoming is the fact that I had my first Prostate O about 3.5 years ago. Since then I've been close to cumming numerous times with an assgasm but I can't get myself there without a partner to drive me over the edge. Alone I have been to the brink many times. ..Thou it ain't for a lack of trying ffolks. It's kinda sneaky.....the next time you're sucking him and you think hes about to blow just wiggle a wet finger in his rosebud to the first knuckle or less. I hope you've read up on the P gland. Cuz its like 1 to 2 inches in. When you 'peg' him place your right hand palm down and use your "social" finger. If you draw your finger in a "come hither" fashion you will be right on his prostate gland. If it feels spongy and it feels like its an inch long or so YOU ARE IN THE RIGHT SPOT-HIS G SPOT!! If he's a typical red blooded manly man as you say here's what will undubilitibly happen: His cock will feel like it's longer and harder as he begins to unleash rope after rope after rope of man cream while his heavy balls twitch and shuffle as the toes curl and both of his legs cramp up simultaneously cock throbbing and flopping as the last ribbons of cum fling out of his purple helmet. He may very well lose his balance if standing so if he starts to fall aim him for the bed as you magically disengage your finger from his new found love button. Mind you now he might get mad at you for ambushing him. He may continue to deny you of your goal for enlightenment of his sexual self. Prude or not if your Man is a man of strength and character like Howard4570, Pappy, Glen Baker, iha or Thurias tho reluctant or not he will own up to you the exquisite pleasure you gave him. He may surprise himself and beg you to strapon fuck him. Some guys are slow learners. You might PM Mikayla for some tips here...I believe Mikaylas Man was reluctant as your bf is now and he turned around. Good luck kiddo