Members Mikayla1 Posted January 12, 2008 Members Report Share Posted January 12, 2008 Hi Guys. I had a revelation of sorts last night, and I have to share with you because it was a learning experience of sorts. On forum, particularly in the 'Ask a Sexpert' section, we get asked all the time about keeping sex new, interesting and particularly, how to get into sex when you are stressed, tired, not 'horny' or what not.As a 'Sexpert' here, I often cite many things and suggest that people read my articles. In my articles I often say that many people go through the ups and downs of life, stress, exhaustion, responsibility - and as a result, sex may not be on the forefront of the mind or 'to do' list. This results in a sexual breakdown and a lack of attention to the sex life as a whole. I almost always suggest that people should try to enjoy sex for sex's sake, and for stress relief and such.So, last night I was lying in bed reading and my hubby came in to rub my neck. I had a long, hard day and was really, really tired and NOT feeling at all like 'sex.' His neck rub led to a gentle nipple caress. I was still not feeling it, and was ready to say the words I rarely say, "not tonight honey" when I thought about what I always say here. How sex can be a stress reliever, and how people should try to have it even when they are not in the mood, etc.So, I went with the punches and my body was turned on before my mind, so I turned that around. An hour later, after a leisurely 'romp' and some orgasms, I fell blissfully asleep and probably slept better than I would have had I went to bed stewing about my bad day!I wanted to share this because it drives home two points: (1) we (I) am a real person, with real life, kids, jobs, etc. We all have real experiences and have bad days too. (2) I did practice what I preach here on forum, and it did what I say it did - it relaxed me and gratified me, and it brought my husband and I closerSo, everyone, just know that I practice what I preach -shouldn't we ALL do that??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ToyQueen Posted January 12, 2008 Members Report Share Posted January 12, 2008 Very nicely put Mikayla. And I think some of need to be reminded that even "sexperts" are people too.Thanks! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members pappyld04 Posted January 12, 2008 Members Report Share Posted January 12, 2008 Mikayla it may be a good thing to share with others the stresses you are speaking of here. I know of a few from our IMs the other day but if you would share those with others here it may show just the convictions you are speaking of! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mikayla1 Posted January 13, 2008 Author Members Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 What stresses huh? Well, I have two children to start with - a 6 year old and a 5 month old! That alone will exhaust anyone! I am always saying that having children doesn't mean the death of your sex life! Lately, my children have been sick - had the flu first (we all had that - sorry, no sex during flu week!) and then my youngest got RSV (a bronchial infection) and he wasn't sleeping and coughed all night for a week straight. Therefore, I was TOTALLY exhausted last night when my hubby came to rub my neck. My son was finally sleeping somewhat soundly, we all felt "better" and I was just totally spent. That, along with the new school semester starting, illustrators needing my attention, and things here on TT - yeah, I have life stress!Does that help explain things?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members pappyld04 Posted January 13, 2008 Members Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 Sorry Mikayla. I hated to put you on the spot so to speak. Just thought that they should see that you were really not up for this situation but followed your own advice! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Valntyn Posted January 14, 2008 Members Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 I'm glad your night ended better than it started!! Yay you for following your own advice. Thanks for sharing! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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