Members becca011906 Posted February 19, 2008 Members Report Share Posted February 19, 2008 Ok i know the easiest thing is to just come right out and tell him, but that's not like me at all and he knows that I'm more of a suddle hints, and along thoes lines. I'm not sure what's happening to my sex drive over the past month or so but it seems to be higher then it was when we first met (9 years ago). Is it normal for a womens sex drive to hype up some in their mid 20's?? He use to try to introduce things into the bedroom be that toys, games, trying differant things but just for a short time and then back to same old, same old... i think he's lines of think were if we keep the toys, ect around to much that I wouldn't be happy with just him alone. I'd love to try new things actully a lot of new things after reading so many of the articals in the ed section! WOW have we been missing out on some stuff. So are there ways to ease into the differant ideas or do i just need to get over it and sit him down and tell him???? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ManofHerdreams Posted February 19, 2008 Members Report Share Posted February 19, 2008 Sit him down and tell him. It's the simple and most effective way. You'll probably be surprised at how receptive he is to your thoughts and desires once he understands that you are not looking to replace him but instead liven things up for the two of you.It took my wife and I a long time to stumble around trying to give subtle hints when it would have been much better to just sit down and discuss it openly.MOHD Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyger Posted February 19, 2008 Report Share Posted February 19, 2008 I know that it's easy for us to say "Just sit down and talk with him". But, it is hard to do so, even after being married so long. You're worried about how you're going to come across, if his feelings/ego will get hurt, how he'll take this.....yadda yadda yadda. Well, you've got a couple great things going for you:You've been married for a while now, so you should hopefully have an open communication with that bond.And that he's tried new things before.Why not suggest a revisitation to the new stuff, or, surprise him one night with a sexy lingerie getup, candles, and maybe a new toy, like a cockring. Or suggest that you go out to dinner, without the kids, and then make a trip to a local sex toy shop. Get a DVD, toy, or just peruse thru the store. Maybe have him sit down with you one night, while on the computer, and show him the shopping area here at TooTimid. That can be lots of fun!There are different ways to get the flow going, however only you will know how to approach him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie True2me Posted February 19, 2008 Newbie Report Share Posted February 19, 2008 I know that it's easy for us to say "Just sit down and talk with him". But, it is hard to do so, even after being married so long. You're worried about how you're going to come across, if his feelings/ego will get hurt, how he'll take this.....yadda yadda yadda. Well, you've got a couple great things going for you:You've been married for a while now, so you should hopefully have an open communication with that bond.And that he's tried new things before.Why not suggest a revisitation to the new stuff, or, surprise him one night with a sexy lingerie getup, candles, and maybe a new toy, like a cockring. Or suggest that you go out to dinner, without the kids, and then make a trip to a local sex toy shop. Get a DVD, toy, or just peruse thru the store. Maybe have him sit down with you one night, while on the computer, and show him the shopping area here at TooTimid. That can be lots of fun!There are different ways to get the flow going, however only you will know how to approach him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members becca011906 Posted February 19, 2008 Author Members Report Share Posted February 19, 2008 I know that it's easy for us to say "Just sit down and talk with him". But, it is hard to do so, even after being married so long. You're worried about how you're going to come across, if his feelings/ego will get hurt, how he'll take this.....yadda yadda yadda. Exactly you hit it head on. I'm very worried about his ego and feelings both. he usally is the one to suggest things and ideas, often it the anal topics which is a whole nother post in it's self... but he's ALWAYS has a .... hum i guess it's like a little self consience (sp?) about his self esteem NOT low slef esteem but just kinda shady i guess??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members froggystyle1977 Posted February 20, 2008 Members Report Share Posted February 20, 2008 I agree with whats been said above, he has tried to use things before so may not be souptight as others might be or as upset. I would just show him something you want on this site, good luck!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members pappyld04 Posted February 25, 2008 Members Report Share Posted February 25, 2008 You may think it is difficult to come right out with your desires but I promise you beating around the bush will get less results than coming out and telling him what you want!!!!!!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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