Newbie romanceaddiction Posted May 4, 2008 Newbie Report Share Posted May 4, 2008 So, I'm new to sex and I have a question for (well anyone who's willing to answer it really)I've heard the expression 'tight like a virgin' and I get that for some virgins the first couple times are ... well tight - but has anyone ever had the experience where you're litterally to small for a guy to fit into?... I mean really and truely? I'm not really sure how to 'fix' this which is extremely unfortunately because I'm pretty sure I'd really love sex if it didn't feel like someone was trying to rip out my insides... any suggestions?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Amylynn920 Posted May 5, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 5, 2008 My advice is go slow, and lots and lots of lube, even if you think you don't need it, you will get accustomed to the girth issue. It takes time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members angelkisses98 Posted May 5, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 5, 2008 My advice is go slow, and lots and lots of lube, even if you think you don't need it, you will get accustomed to the girth issue. It takes time. i second that!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members cmwise1 Posted May 5, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 5, 2008 That 'something else' could be 'vaginismus'. This can occur when your anxiety is high and you have lack of sufficient arousal (and desire), and it results in your vagina literally tightening up so tight that penetration by a penis or even a finger is at least uncomfortable, and maybe impossible. To see if this is the case, you can, when you are alone and relaxed, try to become aroused (use lubrication, too) and slowly and gently insert first one, then two, then three fingers into your vagina. If you can do this, and it feels nice, then you just may be having a 'clenching' reaction to when you try and have intercourse with your man. If you can not do this without discomfort, than you should make an appointment with your GYN to ascertain if there is some other problem.Can you wear tampons without discomfort? During your last GYN exam did the doctor have trouble putting in the speculum? If no, then what iha says makes great sense...try alone to work up to 3 fingers. It's a relaxation thing. If nothing else helps, you can talk to your GYN about vaginal dilators. But usually it's just about relaxation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie romanceaddiction Posted May 5, 2008 Author Newbie Report Share Posted May 5, 2008 can I just say that it's really nice to be able to talk to someone without feeling like I'm weird lolAs for the questions - I think you may be right in saying its a reaction (being anxious/unaroused) because tampons are fine and I'm usually ok by myself - I tend to worry about making it good for the guy... so maybe I need to work on that a little! gracias for all the comments! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members cmwise1 Posted May 5, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 5, 2008 can I just say that it's really nice to be able to talk to someone without feeling like I'm weird lolAs for the questions - I think you may be right in saying its a reaction (being anxious/unaroused) because tampons are fine and I'm usually ok by myself - I tend to worry about making it good for the guy... so maybe I need to work on that a little! gracias for all the comments!Good luck and keep us posted on your progress...we like success stories! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sun_flower969 Posted May 5, 2008 Members Report Share Posted May 5, 2008 I think lots of foreplay helps. You will loosen up a bit and most likely be more aroused. I remember my first few times. I even had slight bleeding after. It is normal at first to feel discomfort but after awhile when you get more experience and practice. OOOOHHHH BABY!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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