Unfaithful?

[916mary]

I think my husband is having an affair. Usually after we have sex you can tell there's been some action from his underwear. On the night that we did not make love and I see their has been some sort of stain I wonder. Tell me guys, is there a way of telling if you just had sex. He is not circumcise. Would his skin be pulled back if he did have sex??? some advise

[jj53]

How strong is your relationship? If the answer is very strong I'd suggest the old fashioned way, ask him.

[Amylynn920]

Maybe he's masturbating or leaking.

If I suspected something I'd ask my husband. I wouldn't be checking his boxers.

[nosleepnmesa]

I would come out and ask. I recently found out that after many years of marriage, that my husband was cheating with a women alot younger then both of us for about a year. Our marriage yes has had it's up and downs and some of my fellow posters here can tell you it has been a hard struggle for my marriage. Honestly I never saw any signs as far as in his underwear etc.. I do agree with Iha in some ways. Although my husband never was distant or cold at all. He was always loving and "into it".

I think that is you have a great communication with him, strong relationship, just come out and ask him. If he is then be prepared to feel hurt and disbelief, but don't blame yourself which is one thing I tried to do. If he isn't then express your feelings to him, why you felt like he was etc.. There must be some sort of a trust issue going on in your relationship to since you are checking his undrwear etc. Here is a question for you to, why are you checking his underwear? Has he honestly done anything to make you distrust him?

Anyway I wish you the best!