Spit Or Swallow

[Jen]

Spit or swallow? Well the answer is obvious. Lady's choice. And if the lady chooses not to swallow than we're not going to bag on her.

I'm going to give a woman the credit for actually giving the blow job in the first place--so many women won't even THINK about heading down south on their man. You need to ease into the whole cum swallowing adventure slowly. Lord, the first time I swallowed I was afraid to even kiss someone on the cheek for weeks afterwards (I had the high school stupids) because I felt dirty.

So let's ease up on women spitters--ever think that maybe spitting is foreplay for some?

Jen

PS: I'm a swallower...just need to defend.

[Mikayla1]

I agree - it should be lady's choice - however, my only problem in the whole realm of "spit or swallow" is some of the - IN MY OPINION - irrational reasons to spit.

1) It tastes bad - OK, does cum taste like chocolate? No, but it could! Use Sex Tarts lube, chocolate sauce, or anything else to spice up the BJ and the cum will taste better! Or, encourage your man to eat some sugar and cinamon and he will taste better from the INSIDE out. Tasting bad, IMO, should not be a reason not to swallow.

2) Texture - there is not really a "texture" with cum - if your man's cum is really chunky, I woud be looking into that! I have seen A LOT of cum, and have never seen cum that is much more than of a creamy substance. There are ways to get around this too - if your man ejacualtes before (masturbates) then he will have less cum for you to swallow during the BJ stage. The bad point, he will last LONGER, so your jaw may ache!

3) I WILL GAG - oh my favorite! What is that addage - anything worth doing is worth doing right! Take the time to learn how to do it so you won't gag! Read "Tickle His Pickle" by Sadie Alison, figure out how to make oral sex a treat for YOU and a treat for HIM. You won't gag when you swallow if you look at it as a pleasure thing.

FInally, f you don't hold the cum in your mouth, swishing it around for 10 minutes tyin to decide if you are going to spit or swallow then you won't taste, gag or notice the texture at all! Just swallow it down like you would "bad medicine" - sorry guys - until you can get past whatever is holding you back! Soon, you will realize how much JOY and PLEASURE your man gets from it and it will be a great experience for you too!

That is my view and I am sticking to it!

Now, if after all that you still want to spit - foreplay, whatever - then SPIT - just don't make your man feel like his cum is "icky" or "gross" - he won't appreciate that at all!

Mikayla

[Jen]

We are all allowed to have our own opinions. What I am trying to do is reply for the woman who is not experienced (and let's be honest here people, most of you who post often are VERY experienced. And while experience is a wonderful learning tool, for the timid it can be very intimidating).

Mikayla, thank you for explaining and giving examples for those who might need them. I'm sure someone will find them more than helpful.

Jen

[madison]

Must admit, at almost 43 I have never even tasted it. Never wanted to until recently, but figured I would wait for someone I am into first, any pointers? How does it taste anyway?

Ok All You Ladies- I was having a discussion with one of my good friends last night over dinner and I was APPALLED to learn that she DOES NOT SWALLOW her boyfriend's cum!

I thought that this was something that I had coached all my female friends on - apparently she missed the seminar on cock sucking!

She, of course, defended her actions with the whole "It tastes bad...blah, blah, blah...." argument, that I only half listened to and then cut her off with "WHOA.....no friend of mine is going to blabber that crap!"

So, ladies, what I want to know from you - and I want to know from all of you who are looking at the site and don't post much too - what do you do with your man's cum - SPIT or SWALLOW - and WHY?????

I promise to all the "spitters" to not yell at you....I will simply defend my argument on swallowing in a non-argumentative and sensible manner!

So what is it - SPIT OR SWALLOW???

Mikayla

[babya2006]

The first time I did it, it wasnt planned or anything. So I just kind of went for it, and in the middle he asked if I wanted to be warned so I said yes(stoppping of course..I'm sure it was a mood killer ) and said yeah...but he kind of forgot to warn me, lol. I figured he was about to cum though, because I could feel it working its way up, and before I knew it, it was in my mouth, so I just swallowed. I've only ever done it once since then (this all only happend a couple weeks ago) and he warned me, but I swallowed again. The taste isnt horrible, and I'm sure he likes it that I swallow. My only issue is that it feels like it coats my throat and stays there until I drink soda or something. I never thought I'd like giving BJs, but it's great, because he's so quiet with other things, and he actually will moan with a BJ. Kinda getting off topic now lol

[12GAUGE]

HELLO EVERYONE...LONG TIME NO SEE. MY PC TOOK A NOSEDIVE AND I JUST GOT IT BACK TODAY. IT WAS SO SICK FRANKLY I AM SURPRISED IT WAS FIXABLE. I SAW SOMETHING HERE AWHILE BACK ABOUT SHARING CUM BETWEEN LOVERS. I MENTIONED IT AT THE TIME TO MY GF WHO AT HER FIRST OPPORTUNITY TOOK MY CUM AND GAVE IT BACK TO ME FRENCH KISS STYLE. NOW I GOTTA SAY I LOVE IT WHEN SHE SWALLOWS MY CUM...AND FAR BE IT FROM ME TO RUIN IT FOR ALL THE OTHER GUYS OUT HERE BUT BOTH TIMES MY CUM WAS NASTY. JUST PLAIN ICKY AND KIND OF OILY TASTING. BUT I DRINK ALOT OF COFFEE AND POP AND LOTS OF GARLIC AND ONIONS TOO. MY GF TAKES VERY GOOD CARE OF MY NEEDS AND I AGREE IN THAT IT WOULD BE A TURNOFF FOR HER TO SPIT IT OUT. I SWALLOWED BOTH TIMES AS FAST AS I COULD AND WOULD HAVE GLADLY TAKEN A SHOT OF WHISKY OR POP HAD I HAD SOME... I MUST SAY I AM GLAD TO SEE THAT THE ADMINISTRATORS HAVE RETURNED TO THE ORIGINAL FORMAT OF QUESTIONS AND COMMENTS/ANSWERS....CHANGES ARE NOT ALWAYS BETTER...

[catapultlaunch]

I personally have always swallowed. my first oral sex experience was very educational, as the guy knew it was my first time. he gave me a lot of tips and suggestions, but in the end, it was my decision to swallow. i find that whenever i am with a new fellow, he gets quite excited that i swallow.

also, i don't see what the big deal is with the taste, its not that bad and it's in your mouth anyway....

[promiscuouseuphoria]

This question came up with a friend of mine recently. She has a boyfriend again after almost three years single and celibate, and so is very excited about doing things he finds arousing. She's still working on swallowing though - there's a mental block there she just can't get past. When she brought this up to her boyfriend, he asked her an odd (in my opinion) question - do you like orange juice with or without pulp?

Now, she likes it without pulp. I like to feel like I'm drinking an orange. We asked a few other people, and intriguingly enough, all the girls who said they liked pulp in their orange juice also said they swallowed.

[curvacious_lust]

How funny....cause I swallow (love it!) and I also love OJ with the pulp in it!!

[receptivehusband]

That is kinda funny. I personally prefer OJ w/ pulp, but I don't give BJ's. I'll swallow when tongue teasing my wife though. It never really bothered me.

She, on the other hand, doesn't even want my cum in her mouth. She says she doesn't like the taste (I do eat too much garlic, and not enough pineapple juice... but now I'm a little more conscientious of that). I think there may be a little more to it too, but in the end it's her choice. Although I'd love receiving oral to orgasm, I've never really wanted to cum into her mouth or on her face anyway, as it seems a little degrading. I wouldn't mind if she wanted to do it, but it's not in my fantasy world. Instead, she found a million other ways of pleasing me You'll have to ask her yourself if she prefers pulp or not...

[Mikayla1]

That whole "pulp" thing is funny. I LOOOOVVEEE TO swallow! LOVE IT! However, sorry to blow your theory. but I HATE, HATE, HATE PULP! I do not want to drink "chunky" things! ICK! I do not see a comparison between semen and pulpy OJ - at least not the men I have swallowed....and there have been a few!

Now, receptivehusband....I am a little concerned about something you said:

"I've never really wanted to cum into her mouth or on her face anyway, as it seems a little degrading."

I am concerned about this image not only for you, but for other readers who may see this post! First, cumming in a woman's mouth is IN NO WAY DEGRADING! Let us get this straight. It is her choice if she wants to swallow or not - and I realize it is your opinion that you find it degrading, however there are many impressionable people here so we want to make sure they are not worried about this action. I also wonder why it is that YOU find it degrading? It is natural and healthy, it will NOT harm your wife, and can be erotic, sensual and more intimate than sex - so how could that be degrading? Unless you are holding her down and stuffing her dick down her throat to feed it to her while she is refusing, that may be degrading!

As for the cumming on the face, many women and men find that degrading. It is an acquired action. I personally don't mind it - because I know my partner loves me and is not doing it to degrade me or to use me as a depository for his sperm. It is erotic and sensual to see the fruits of your lovemaking "out there" in plain sight....sometimes on the face is just HOT. Again, your choice and your wife...but not necessarily degrading.

I think that sometimes the porn industry has done a great injustice to us in our private bedrooms with these "money shots" and some of the dirty things they say to the women when they cum on them - making it look degrading, and making us feel like they are being degraded! I make my own rules and choices in my bedroom - and if it is done with love - even if it is, let's say my hubby cumming on my face while pulling my hair back - then I know it is OK - cause we love each other, and when our clothes are back on - I have his respect!

I'll get off my soapbox now!

Mikayla

[meanderson18]

I love pulp in orange juice the best, but I hate to swallow, in fact, I hate to have semen in my mouth (or on my face) period. Sorry, I just don't like warm, slimy, salty tasting things in my mouth, especially when I know they are wriggling around with their little tails trying to find something to penetrate. It kind of ranks right up there with swallowing a goldfish for me. It took me a long time just to adjust to precum when giving oral sex. Luckily my husband understands and respects my strange nuances (and I have many). Of course, none of this means that I don't enjoy giving oral sex, I love it, I just only love it up to a point...

Now, if other people feel differently about that, great. If something gives you pleasure, go for it (as long as it doesn't hurt someone else).

*EDIT* After going back and reading this discussion more thoroughly from the very beginning, I frankly feel very offended by many of the assumptions made...not to pick on anyone in particular but these types of things were repeated a lot:

"I agree - it should be lady's choice - however, my only problem in the whole realm of "spit or swallow" is some of the - IN MY OPINION - irrational reasons to spit.

1) It tastes bad - OK, does cum taste like chocolate? No, but it could! Use Sex Tarts lube, chocolate sauce, or anything else to spice up the BJ and the cum will taste better! Or, encourage your man to eat some sugar and cinamon and he will taste better from the INSIDE out. Tasting bad, IMO, should not be a reason not to swallow.

2) Texture - there is not really a "texture" with cum - if your man's cum is really chunky, I woud be looking into that! I have seen A LOT of cum, and have never seen cum that is much more than of a creamy substance. There are ways to get around this too - if your man ejacualtes before (masturbates) then he will have less cum for you to swallow during the BJ stage. The bad point, he will last LONGER, so your jaw may ache!

3) I WILL GAG - oh my favorite! What is that addage - anything worth doing is worth doing right! Take the time to learn how to do it so you won't gag! Read "Tickle His Pickle" by Sadie Alison, figure out how to make oral sex a treat for YOU and a treat for HIM. You won't gag when you swallow if you look at it as a pleasure thing."

You may think that I'm being closed-minded about not wanting to swallow, but you are likewise being closed-minded in "picking on" the reasons many women give for not wanting to swallow. It's a personal choice that I, and other women, have every right to make without having to have our reasons dissected. I resent that you are unable to see not liking the taste, texture, or gagging as reasonable reasons (NOT EXCUSES) for not swallowing. Are reasons for not liking pulp orange juice "irrational"? I imagine they are very similar to some of the reasons given for not liking cum. I think everyone here has a right to have their preferences respected and not to feel that there is something wrong or "appauling" with them for feeling uncomfortable with something. To me, that defeats the purpose of this forum, which is helping people to feel comfortable with their sexuality, whether it be their likes or dislikes. Beyond that, I appreciate the advice that has been given to people who do want to try it but want to minimize some of the "unpleasant" aspects (ie: pineapple juice, pre-ejaculating, etc). I love the advice given on this forum and the openness to the less mainstream aspects of sexuality.

(In case anyone has wondered, yes, I have tried swallowing, so I legitimately don't like it personally. I did only try it once, but so what? I only had to try salami or summer sausage once to know I don't like those either. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH ME!)

[receptivehusband]

I find it degrading for a couple reasons. One is because I simply don't see it as being any fun, and don't really understand much why most people would. But, if other guys need to do it and their partner doesn't mind, go for it. Secondly, I find it degrading because it seems more like something women do because they are pressured into doing it rather than because it is a personal choice they make between themselves and their lover. My wife doesnt' want my semen in her mouth. I find that choice perfectly acceptable, and I'll honor it as long as she feels that way. I'm not going to pressure her to change her mind, I don't want her to do it out of any guilt, and I'm not going to find a prostitute just so I can have someone swallow my ejaculate. It's not that I find it a dirty or obscene practice. If she had chosen to take my semen, spit or swallow, I would have accepted that too. It doesn't mean it's degrading in all cases, but I sure as hell want to make sure my wife doesn't find something to be demeaning before I ask her to participate in it.

Secondly, I personally wouldn't want semen all over my face. That being the case, I can understand why any woman I may be with wouldn't want it either. I don't really see my semen as being the fruits of my lovemaking. Instead, I tend to go with the pleasure we both have, and the bond we strengthen as we give each other these many pleasures (in many ways). Although my semen may feel great on her body as it makes her slippery, I personally prefer regular lubricants and massage oils where I get a better choice over the tastes and smells. That's just my preference. You can obviously have your own.

Yes, the porn industry does cause a lot of these actions to seem demeaning with their 'money shots' and by advertising sex as power. The problem with that is that it allows these actions to be accepted into some of the real relationships of real people. People coerce and drug (alcohol included) other people into having sex and think it's acceptable. I'm just tired of seeing all the crap, whether in pornographic material, or in media that is more available to our younger society members, that promotes sex as an acceptable means of showing off power or gender superiority. Does this mean I don't like porn? No. I and my wife both enjoy it, we just tend to stick to material where all parties involved seem to be enjoying themselves, instead of scenes where a woman is cringing as a guy sprays her face.

I don't care what choice each person makes in their own situations as long as it is they get the chance to make their own choice. I don't want my partner to ever think that she isn't my equal. So, I like to make sure she's ok with everything before we try it, and after we try it. We're both very open as far as our sexuality goes, and will try a lot of things, talk about them, and decide together whether or not we'd like to try it again. If something completely blows my mind, she'll probably want to try it again just as much as I will, and vice versa when something takes her to a new level of pleasure.

Neither of us found her taking my cum into her mouth, spit or swallow, to be very appealing. We tried it, we decided it wasn't for us, and we're happy to

defend my argument on [neither spitting nor] swallowing in a non-argumentative and sensible manner!

[meanderson18]

My reasons for not swallowing are simple…I don’t like it…now find me a man who squirts chocolate and I’ll suck him off every day. I’m not a sexually repressed person by any stretch of the imagination. I come from a generation that is fully accepting of oral sex, in fact, it is practically a right of passage. Nothing about what Bill Clinton did even surprised me. I don’t look down on women who like to swallow (aka: I don’t think I’m better or purer than them). If they enjoy it, great for them! It’s just not my cup of tea, and I don’t think I should be made to feel inadequate because of that or that I’m not being honest (or rational/sensible) about my reasoning. Why isn’t it ok for a woman to just say, “I don’t like the taste” or “I don’t like the feeling in my mouth”? Everyone has things about sex that they don’t like because they don’t feel good for them or they don’t turn them on.

What I really don’t get (and I hope someone here will explain) is why swallowing is such a bid deal anyway? What is it about a woman's swallowing cum (or cumming on a woman’s face) that turns men on so much? What is the mystique? It doesn’t add any extra physical sensation for the man (ie: like anal stimulation would), so it’s not that it just feels good. It has to be more of a psychological effect. Can someone explain??

[Mikayla1]

This has always been a hot-button issue - to swallow or not to swallow. As I have said before, and as I will say again - it is ALWAYS A WOMAN'S CHOICE! I never condone anybody swallowing just because they feel they have to - but I will say this - I PERSONALLY believe that it is better for the man, that it is something that adds to the blowjob, and that some women don't give it a shot because of psychological mind blocks.

I laughed really hard when I read that Receptivewife didn't want "warm, slimy, salty tasting things in my mouth, especially when I know they are wriggling around with their little tails trying to find something to penetrate. "

That is hilarious to me! Since we are all adults here and KNOW that sperm are microscopic and you couldn't possibly FEEL them wiggling around in your mouth - this is definitely a psychological issue! Also, I have to ask, how long are you holding this sperm in your mouth? When I swallow my hubby cums as I swallow, so I never really feel or taste much of anything!

I have A LOT of male friends, and when I surveyed them they all said - they preferred that their woman swallow their load! The reasons given were:

the final sensation (i.e. like having sex and having to stop right before sex to put on a condom) ; better overall orgasm ; felt more loved (ohhhh, how sweet!) ; knew the woman knew what she was doing ; made them hornier to know they didn't have to pull out or she wasn't going to spit

Now, those are just my friends, but I would assume that it might be a pretty accurate consensus! I am sure there are many men (like your hubby) who doesn't care about the swallowing, but many, many more who do.

I asked my hubby about swallowing and what he would think if I suddenly "stopped" doing it. His answer was simple, "fuck no...it feels toooo good!" So, obviously for US, it wouldn't work.

I know receptivewife said she tried it, it was not for her. I am not going to try to persuade her to change her opinion. Obviously, her receptivehubby is fine with her choice and that is the goal of a good sex life - to be happy!

However, I have to say....comparing not liking sperm to not liking summer sausage is a false analogy! Food, i.e. sausage, is meant to be tasted. You choose your food based on taste, smell, texture. You are meant to savor it, enjoy it, hold it in your mouth and CHEW IT. Semen is not a food. It is not something meant while swallowing to hold in your mouth, chew and savor (unless you want to) so the analogy doesn't quite work for me there!

I suggest for all those women whose hubby's or boyfriends want them to swallow and they have issues - just swallow - don't hold it in your mouth and swish it around! It is 2 seconds of your life - it will be worth it to the guy - he will love you for it!

Mikayla

[69Sex]

As a Bi male I have always swallowed due to liking the taste but also because it adds so much to my partners orgasm.

[Mikayla1]

Thanks for the man's view 69Sex....you have confirmed that it does add to the partner's orgasm. Do you like your sperm swallowed as well then?

Mikayla

[jhmorgan]

Hey! i'm new so I don't quite know how to post new topic....here it goes....My new BF is 52 and he has no problem with an erection(huge), but he does not come.....he goes for hours with out....I ask him and he says it comes with age....HELP!

Thanks

[meanderson18]

First, I would like to thank Howard for his response to my question, it definitely made things a lot clearer!

But to Mikayla, you missed the point of my post. I don't want you to psycho-babble me about mind blocks, I want you to be respectful of women's reasons for not liking things rather than calling them appalling and irrational as you just did one more time. Go ahead and tell women how wonderful swallowing can be for both partners and how the experience can be enhanced (that's great!) but please don't disregard those of us who don't like it because you don't feel our reasons are good enough. If you say you respect women's right to choose, then also respect women's reasons for those choices, otherwise you're just paying it lip-service. Laugh all you want at my responses but know that it has caused you the loss of one reader/member.

P.S. I have a bachelor's degree in psychology...poor attempts at behavior analysis don't fool me

[Mikayla1]

I know receptivewife said she tried it, it was not for her. I am not going to try to persuade her to change her opinion. Obviously, her receptivehubby is fine with her choice and that is the goal of a good sex life - to be happy!

However, I have to say....comparing not liking sperm to not liking summer sausage is a false analogy! Food, i.e. sausage, is meant to be tasted. You choose your food based on taste, smell, texture. You are meant to savor it, enjoy it, hold it in your mouth and CHEW IT. Semen is not a food. It is not something meant while swallowing to hold in your mouth, chew and savor (unless you want to) so the analogy doesn't quite work for me there!

I suggest for all those women whose hubby's or boyfriends want them to swallow and they have issues - just swallow - don't hold it in your mouth and swish it around! It is 2 seconds of your life - it will be worth it to the guy - he will love you for it!

Mikayla

REceptivewife - Ok, I really hope you come back to read this post - PLEASE don't leave over this little "spat" as Howard calls it! What would the point? You have your side - elloquently defended - I have mine. I am a law student - and sometimes my desire to "win at all costs" gets in the way. That is the problem with me and Howard when there is something we disagree on - Lawyer against Law Student - never a good scene!

Anyway, I want you to read the above quote from my post - in it I clearly state - DO WHAT YOU WANT - if you are having GOOD SEX - then that it great for you! If other posters can see that you have a great sex life with your hubby and you don't swallow, then those gals that don't want to swallow can take solice in that fact.

I also dissect your analogy - why? My other passion is English and between the logic I learn in Law School and what I learned getting my Master's in English - I just couldn't let it be! You have to admit that is a good refute to your analogy???

Thirdly, I also close by saying that for women who have issues with swallowing, but who have men who want them to - WHICH WOULD NOT BE YOU....YOUR HUBBY DOESN'T CARE .....then just try it and do it.....

I don't think that anyone who is adamantly a non-swallower is going to suddenly change their view because of that! Conversely, if a woman who is already a non-swallower reads your post, she would definitely feel better about her choice to NOT-swallow!

So, please stay...we need differences of opinion here and yours is a valued one!

Mikayla

[69Sex]

Thanks for the man's view 69Sex....you have confirmed that it does add to the partner's orgasm. Do you like your sperm swallowed as well then?

Mikayla

Yes I do like it done to me also and for the man to swallow.. It helps as you cum if the partner sucks on the tip OMG... huge "O"

[blofish]

hi i have swallowed but its hard for me to do what can i do to make it easier

[nosleepnmesa]

SWALLOW of Course. I love it and the taste is awesome I do not find it repolsive in the least. Just my opion I think spitting is ewwwww sry it is just my opion and what a waste. I have learned something it could just be my hb or I am not sure but when he has eaten sweet stuff like pineapples,peaches ect and I give him a blowjob his cum seems to be sweet, not sure if it is just in my head or if what men eat during the day really change the taste.

For women that say the taste is ewww or blah blah blah I have to say that if they deep throat you really dont get a taste, but me I like it and it doesnt affect me at all but the thought of spitting it makes my tummy turn.

So here is a question-Does what your man or any man eat threw out the day change the taste of his semen or is it just me Exsample:pineapple and peaches sweeter , high salt content during the day very salty it could just be in my head not sure so I will wait to see what you all think or have researched

[cdog]

well normally I am a die hard swallower but the guy I am dating now, well to be honest his tastes different then the other guys I have...swallowed. His tastes thicker and saltier??? So I swallow for him now and then to give him the grande finale but usually I very seductively slowly let it leak out of my mouth and down his member he likes that, too. He said he read somewhere what a man eats has something to do with the way his cum tastes. True or not I don't know but his does taste different to me.

[sonnyeyed]

Ok All You Ladies- I was having a discussion with one of my good friends last night over dinner and I was APPALLED to learn that she DOES NOT SWALLOW her boyfriend's cum!

I thought that this was something that I had coached all my female friends on - apparently she missed the seminar on cock sucking!

She, of course, defended her actions with the whole "It tastes bad...blah, blah, blah...." argument, that I only half listened to and then cut her off with "WHOA.....no friend of mine is going to blabber that crap!"

So, ladies, what I want to know from you - and I want to know from all of you who are looking at the site and don't post much too - what do you do with your man's cum - SPIT or SWALLOW - and WHY?????

I promise to all the "spitters" to not yell at you....I will simply defend my argument on swallowing in a non-argumentative and sensible manner!

So what is it - SPIT OR SWALLOW???

Mikayla [/font

I definatly swallow. I do think it is an acquired taste though. When I first got with my husband I was only 16 and although he begged me to go down on him and I refused. The reason being I had no idea what to do once I got down there (unfortunatly 20 years ago this site wasn't available). I mean they call it a blowjob but I don't spend much time blowing. Thanks to my best freind, who when told my problem, took my finger in her mouth and gave it a blowjob. After that I started sucking on his cock occasionally but I asked him to pull it out before he came. Eventually I let him come in my mouth and I didn't really spit but just kind of let it ooze out while I finished. After becoming pregnant with our twins I was told not to have sex because of the risks of premature birth. Well I felt guilty and I knew I pressure had to be relieved. I wanted to satisfy him so I choked it down. Nowdays I love to suck on his big hard cock and I love to swallow. Too bad it took me so long to try it.