Gviejo

Here I am again. This time I have something that really perplexes me. My lover and I can do everything together as in anal, oral and slight body contact. But he is really against me touching him too much, hugging him, kissing him or trying to get more skin to skin contact. I do not get it. Also, it's perfectly fine for him to give me oral and even swallow. But when I want to give him oral, there's always an excuse or he won't finish. He says he doesn't feel right cumming in my mouth. Again, I do not get it. It's seems like he really only wants to do what he wants which is kind of bumming me out. Yes this is the same guy I've been seeing since 2000. He was married, has grown kids and now has a new girl and a new baby. Any suggestions?

I started it because I had no libido and the morning wood was gone. Now it seems to be back plus more.

Dear Sexpert, At 56, I have been on Testosterone replacement therapy for 16 weeks. I have become increasingly horny all the time and have been either masturbating or finding a bro for mutual bj's almost on a daily basis. My question is. "It is safe to have an orgasm multiple times everyday for weeks at a time?" When I'm not having sex, I'm thinking of the next get together. I practice safe sex and have been tested recently and all was clear.

Thank you, I began yesterday after he left. He also said that he went off on me in that text. But I told him it was all true and thanks for the wake up call. I am making an effort to be more positive today. It's hard, I've been through so many things in the last 16 years that have really brought me down. He has also been through some really rough times and now seems to be strong in his job, fatherhood and responsibilities. I'll keep working on it and thanks for the advice.

Well he just left, we talked and worked it all out. Chalked it up to us both being irrational at times. Then we had a mutual good time. Agreed to disagree. I'm making a concerted effort to be more positive and nice. I'm usually an ass. I will explain why i'm this way tomorrow. It will take a lengthy explanation. I so appreciate all of you taking time to comment. I have no one here that I can discuss this with. I'm single, an only child and live alone. Most all of my relatives are deceased and all of my past friends went away after I stopped partying.

Well, my lover as we have discussed, came by three times last week. Then yesterday He was texting me and I was in one of my "moods' and said some hateful things to him to make him see how I feel. Well, he is a man of few words..

Thank you

Thanks

Been seeing him 16 years and I'm watching closely.

I have been ignoring his texts most of the time. I keep a close eye on his behavior and can notice subtle differences sometimes. I have cut down our visits to the very minimum.

Well since I'm here I'll share a fact that bothers me. Most of my relationships are with married men that only need me to please them or if they have an urge to try cock, I provide the tool, lol It's hard for me to keep it strictly about sex. A couple are so damn freaking handsome and masculine that I feel some emotion. I often wonder why they come to me, an old white man to please them. I assume that their wives don't fulfill their needs or they just want to try something else. One thing is that I test for STD's and aids all the time. Although we only do oral with an occasional anal experience. And yes, I feel like bad for doing this sometimes. If anyone has any questions about any of this please ask. I see a multitude of married men on Craigslist looking to give and receive oral or anal. This down low thing has been taking off in the recent years.

Thanks, I agree that it's good to provide another view. I really don't consider myself to be gay. Denial I guess. I do love woman but it's easier to call up a guy if I'm horny as I don't need to wine and dine them. It's strictly about getting off for both of us. That sounds bad I know.

Lol, no I'm the older one, 56, he's 45 now. I don't know if he uses but said he has tried. I found the reason that he disappeared was that his girlfriends mother passed away. I verified this so I know he didn't lie.

WOW, thank you for the heartfelt response. You nailed it on several issues. And as you said. It is hard to change. I appreciate you taking the time to give me advice. Actually I have not let him come back over in two weeks, since I've been thinking of how he treats me. I have many others that like me so I will pursue them at this point. He did text me and I said I was not feeling well. You know when you like someone and they don't reciprocate, it takes time to realize it. Thank You again, Wes

Well, he hasn't been back since I told him I was very disappointed about his meth use. I wish he hadn't told me. It ruined my opinion of him. Oh well, I can't deal with druggies. Been there done that.