[Erectile Disfunction]

Thanks to you and ladylove. We are better now, making a lil progress which is good. thanks so much for your view points, I am usually hornier than he is, I guess i kinda forgot about the whole libido thing, which is why im thankful for your post. I haven't tried anything topical yet. Im jus gonna take it slow and stand behind my man. Thanks again!! =

The other possibility is that there is more than just diabetes going on; he may be the lower desire partner for sex. "Low desire-High desire' are relative positions in all coupled relationship (the distance between 'high' and 'low'' varies between couples). IF the gap between desire is moderately wide, High desire partners often spend years, if not decades, trying to turn their low desire partner into a high desire partner. And that just cannot be done.

Most couples have 'just good enough' sex; that is, they do just what is needed for both to orgasm, and get into a pattern of doing this for many years. Most couples do not really work at or develop their sexuality together, which is needed for it to be resilient. It only then takes a bump in the road like diabetes to derail their sex lives.

So: before his diabetes created erection problems, was his desire higher or lower than yours? If his desire has always been lower than yours, you may have a 'double whammy'. If this is the case (or even if he was high desire), I would suggest you seek some couple counseling. If he refuses to go, then you go alone. The problem is not likely to just vanish.

[Sexual Confusion....help...questions....]

I have had a dream about making out with a girl before and when I was little I had crushes on girls and boys. I have never considered myself to be bi since I have never touched a girl. Is that weird?

I don't think it is crazy. I have said here before, that I am a boob-girl. I love mine, love to play with them and even occasionally suck them. (Down boys! )

The other parts of a woman are not that interesting to me, although I recently had my first girl-on-girl dream the other night (I was giving her oral) and I woke up very aroused. I admit to being curious but even that is a recent development, so who knows? Like the others said, do what you like. As long as it doesn't hurt anyone else, its all good!

[Erectile Disfunction]

Ok my husband has diabetes and now he has erectile disfunction. A doctor told him that his diabetes is making his testosterone is low and he does'nt want to take anymore medicine, which I can understand. We have not had intercourse in a year!! My patience is running out. I don't want to cheat or leave him, how do I help or is there anything I can do?? I love my toys but sometimes a girl wants the real thing ya know!!