[Could I get some advice, please?]

3 hours ago, Bigirlhaggen said:

May I ask you what you fantasize about while you're masturbing? 

Bit of everything I guess? Within safe, consensual guidelines👍 My fantasizes can involve me, people I know, celebrities, or characters  

Porn wise I lean towards (male/female/non-specific): pussy play, masturbation, hentai, light bdsm, spanking, and dirty talk

 

[Could I get some advice, please?]

9 hours ago, twin spirits said:

If I understand correctly you are a virgin? That in itself may be why you are having difficulty with another person. Plus you have isolated yourself (a good thing in this time) and are trying to satisfy your sexual needs by masturbating. Identifying as a pan sexual would seem to make finding a sexual partner easier but for whatever reason it’s not. It could be as simple that you just haven’t met the person yet. I like to have an emotional connection with the person before I have a sexual connection with them. So, I don’t think its just you but relationships are always complicated... even if its just a one night stand. I hope this helps in some small way.

Oh no! Your input is really helpful! But I realize I didn’t mention that I also identify as demi-romantic as well😅

I find the concept of virginity to be pretty subjective, but yeah in simplest terms I am a virgin. I guess personally the concern I had was if it really even mattered? There’s this grey area between “emotionally fulfilling relationship” and “no strings attached” that I wish was easier to get to? Maybe I should put in more work to figure it out lol 🙃

[Could I get some advice, please?]

So I feel I have an uncommon relationship with sex in general.🤔

I consider myself to be pansexual; I am attracted to people physically; and I have dated before. But if it comes up where sex is a real opportunity in that moment, I feel kind of uneasy?

Like it’s not a body image thing or an abstinence thing, it just feels off. I’m not against sex in any way, and I feel like I have been with people I would want to have sex with. I masturbate a fairly normal amount, but once another person is thrown in there, I just don’t know why I feel that way? And I want to be able to have sex, but there’s just something stopping me from seeing it through. 

[Hi 👋]

I’m pretty new to the forums, but I’ve been browsing TooTimid for years picking up new things once in a while😊