[Genital pics]

Open to hear any thoughts on these. 

[New here just to see what it's all about]

7 minutes ago, Tyger said:

Wow. That's pretty heavy stuff. 

I can understand the not wanting physical touch after having kids......to a degree. Especially if she breastfed them. That's a lot of touching. For years, I felt that my breast were no longer sexual, but part of being a mom, so I wasn't comfortable with them being touched. I sometimes still have issues with it, honestly, and my kiddo is 17. LOL However, not wanting to be touched at all is not normal, especially if you love your significant other. Touch is one of the most basic of human needs. Humans crave the touch of other humans, just to feel like they're a part of something.

As far as her "getting off" by withholding physical affection, that's just cruel to do. No matter what you did in your past, if she loves you and wants to be with you, that is a form of abuse. (FYI, I believe the word abuse is kinda over-used, as is the word bullying, so I don't use those loosely.)

I don't blame you for seeming like maybe who you use to be may get you what you want, since it did in the past. Since, this new, improved you hasn't helped you in the intimacy area. However, is it the person YOU are, or the person SHE is that you're having issues with, because it sounds like the latter.

 

I am grateful to be the person I have become and love the person she is minus what we've become together. The only thing I can think of to force the situation to be addressed is to get my needs fulfilled by someone else. I'm wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation and how it played out for them. The only options I see is to get my needs met or wait. I think waiting may be worse because waiting has a plethora of variables. Wait until I mess seek out other females? Wait until the kids are grown just to call it quits? Wait until someone else replaces me? This is the challenge.

43 minutes ago, Tyger said:

Is there a reason your relationship is sexless that you're willing to share with us?

She doesn't crave any physical touch after having children, multiple medical interventions have failed to produce any positive results. I have a dark past which is no secret which she witnessed and was by my side through it all. I was not always the man I am today and with all medical options explored, I'm beginning to think that guilt/shame for staying with me through dark years is manifesting as her "getting off" by withholding the physical part I need. We have always been polar opposites, but without intimacy, the man I used to be is starting to seem much more appealing than the good man I am. Since "I was always the problem" it feels like she's creating the chaos that no longer is created by me. 

[New here just to see what it's all about]

18 minutes ago, Tyger said:

Is there a reason your relationship is sexless that you're willing to share with us?

She doesn't crave any physical touch after having children, multiple medical interventions have failed to produce any positive results. I have a dark past which is no secret which she witnessed and was by my side through it all. I was not always the man I am today and with all medical options explored, I'm beginning to think that guilt/shame for staying with me through dark years is manifesting as her "getting off" by withholding the physical part I need. We have always been polar opposites, but without intimacy, the man I used to be is starting to seem much more appealing than the good man I am. Since "I was always the problem" it feels like she's creating the chaos that no longer is created by me. 

[Let's Have A Boob Challenge! (my Pic Added)]

On 12/5/2019 at 8:12 AM, 69kola69 said:

That's to die for GREAT ASS !

You got that curve!

[Let's Have A Boob Challenge! (my Pic Added)]

On 10/29/2019 at 3:58 AM, Lady lover said:

WOW very nice!!! Sweet thanks 

Very nice chesticles. 

[Ladies, How Often Do You Preform Oral? (or Men How Often Do U Get It?)]

I'd love to perform it daily and crave to receive it daily... Only once in a blood moon does it ever seem to take place. 

[Sex more often than 1x every two weeks]

Same thing as well except I'm a male. 

[KIK anyone?]

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[Saturday morning self-care ritual]

Should be part of a daily routine. Yet I do not make time for this as circumstances present as more important than self-care during this season in life. What are your self-care rituals and/or routines?

[What do you think?]

Just wondering what people think about this. It's underutilized in my relationship so I've been the only one who "appreciates" what I have to offer. Please give honest feedback, I'm not made of glass. 

[How you like your large breasts]

On 10/15/2019 at 7:12 AM, RedKatana79 said:

I can only imagine. Thanks for the perspective on another post where you stated that men notice these instead of your eyes. I'm always conscience in my professional setting to focus on eyes. Maybe I'll focus on them as well while not in a professional setting. 

[New here just to see what it's all about]

New here. In a sexless relationship, going on 8 years married for 6, not looking to replace anyone, but at a loss. Open to chat about anything, hoping for advice, and open to anything that possibly gives insight to bringing change or new perspective. Kik is same username.