[Introducing Vibrations]

I am not new to vibrators, but I will weigh in here if it is OK.

I think surprising her with it is a great idea - if by surprising her you mean getting to be and showing it to her - not shoving it in her pussy without her knowing! I say that only because someone did that to me once....it ended up OK, but it was a bit of a shocker!

I think getting to your normal foreplay routine, or giving her a nice massage, and then introducing the vibrator that you got to enhance your lovemaking is the way to go.

Other ideas?

Mikayla

Well I tried to ease her into it while we were having foreplay in front of a hot fire. She was very surprised and did'nt think it was necessary. When we went to the bedroom she said she would try it so we did. She did'nt care for it very much. I told her I got just to try something different and she said that what I do for her is enough. I left it in the top drawer next to the bed in hope that she will try it solo one day and maybe it will supply us with some fun down the road. Thanks for the advice, I definetely think it was the way to go.

[Good Head]

Hi there,

A good point was raised by a couple of people here - it sure is a two way street . My man is amazing with oral sex and I never really got into it before him. He actually loves doing it and I've never been so turned on in my life. Yes, I do return the favor and am working on my technique with him too. For me, there is nothing like the feeling that oral sex gives me. I'm hooked! How do the men out there feel about performing, rather than receiving, oral sex?

I love going down on my wife and I dont stop until a few minutes after she cums. There is nothing like riding her pelvis as she convulses from her orgasm. I dont receive much oral sex but a good slow hand job can do the trick as long as she is looking at my penis. I suppose I am letting her cum in my mouth but i dont think it is quite the same thing. Dugmar

[Introducing Vibrations]

I have just purchased our first vibrator but my wife does not know it yet. She is pretty conservative but on occasion she does things that surprise me. Lately she has very little interest in sex. I thought that maybe something new would spark her interest. Are there any ladies out there that do not like vibrators?? Should I surprise my wife or give her some warning about my new idea. Any suggestions would be highly appreciated. Dugmar

[Fantasies]

I was just wondering, if you had one fantasy to be enacted by your lover/significant other/husband/wife/whatever, what would it be?

I fantisize about catching my wife masturbating, telling her to keep going while I drop my pants and jerk off while standing over her and watching her. Dugmar

[Unusual Ways To Masturbate]

Ok guys, 120 views and NO ONE wants to cop to how they used to masturbate as a kid.......well, at least I am woman enough to put it all out there....I am not ashamed that I did what I did to get off. I know...I mean I KNOW many of you have stories to tell, why not share them. What is there to be ashamed of?

Mikayla

As a kid I used to fuck a large stuffed animal that my older sister had. It was the next best thing since I was a little young to get the real thing. The most exciting part was running around naked making sure nobody saw me. Dugmar

[How Do Guys Like To Be Come On To?]

Thanks for your input guys. I already do alot of your sugestion, it seems that I haven't been following through to the good part though! LOL. Guess I will have to get creative in leting him know I want him (we still have 2 teens at home). I do great once the ball is rolling (that's how I got the name vixen from hubby).

Blessings

Vixen

Being a guy, the ultimate turnon is knowing your significant other is thinking about your manhood. In this day and age it seems that the men always need to compliment the women. Men need some reassurance too. Dugmar

[Not Enough Sex]

So Dugmar, how are things, it's been a bit and I wanted to see if there has been a change. Did you make a change, has she? Has the sex improved? Let us know.

wE HAVE HAD MORE SEX MORE OFTEN! I guess the problem starts with her period. She gets it for like two weeks. At first she is very tired for 3 or 4 days and then the normal period comes. I guess more communication helps so I know when it is coming so we can have more fun before she is not into it. If we go 3 or 4 days without sex and then her period comes, I get extremely sexually frustrated. For everyones info, I am very much a home body and I help with the kids the cleaning and the cooking. She really enjoys that part of our relationship. It is more important to both of us than working 12 hours a day to make as much money as possible. Its all about quality family time. Thanks for all of your input. Dugmar

[Not Enough Sex]

to me, it sounds as though this is your problem. I don't mean that in the way that you should just get over it, but I mean that you need to fix something. I have read a couple of blogs, and have had personall experience myself, and my brother has said the same thing, and when it all comes down to it, the problem stems from the men. Let me elaborate. My brother was complaining that his wife didn't want sex enough, they have two children both under the age of 10, and she just rebuffed him at all of his advances. I was bored one day and looking for some things to read on the net, when I came across a blog from a male suburbanite, who loved his wife, had great sex, when she would participate. After about 10 months of supreme frustration, he was able to get his wife to open up about why the sex was so rare. She told him that he was emotionally distant, and they lost their emotional connection. I related this to my brother, and he and I began working to try and make ourselves more "emotionally available" to our spouses. The man on the blog said he was doing more, and his sex life picked up over the course of six months or so from once per three months or so, to now he gets it maybe once a day or more. She has opened up about new sex positions, places(anal) and she is a whole lot more of his ideal sex partner, all he had to do was try to do more with his family. He spends more time with his kids, does the dishes every so often, helps with household stuff, and sits down, talks with his wife, and is not trying to seduce her all the time. Now, I have been trying to do the same, and I must tell you, that now, with less stress and things to worry about when she gets home, my sex life has increased even more than it was. And it was pretty frequent. My brother who was in a slump of almost 4 months, now gets it about 3 times per week or more. He too is spending more time with his children, wife and a little less time obsessing about work, and being lazy around the house. So I guess if you are wanting a bit more sex, try focusing on it less, and try to meet more of your wife's needs. Sex for women is much more emotional than for men. We like visual stimulation, they like emotional stimulation. We can if they house is dirty, they might not. We talk all day about our lives, work, sports, problems and so on, but rarely ever focus on what is important to our spouses. Once the communication begins, then you can move on to other things. Giver her oral sex, with absolutely no chance of having the favor returned. If she tries, tell her that you are wanting to focus on her, and let her have all the pleasure. You might not even try for sex for a couple of weeks and let her clue you in to when she wants it. But the first thing you have to do is, communicate with her. DO NOT GET HOSTILE!!! the moment she thinks you are accusing her, the issue is lost, and you will resolve nothing. Take her out to dinner, clean the house, ask about her day. And when you are alone, and have some time that you won't get interrupted, ask her about it. Be honest, and tell her you love her, and adore her, but need to know if she is feeling all right, or has just lost interest in sex? Best of luck.

Crazy1

[Not Enough Sex]

I love my wife. That being said, we have some issues. I have tw o children 7 and 5. That does not leave very much time for our sex life. My problem is that if I dont get some sex before her period, She is not interested in any type of activity until it is over. How does everybody feel about that time of the month?? Is it unreasonable to say " Hey, I'm sorry your not up to it but you need to take care of my needs!!!" For the record, she handles herself very well in the sack although the frequency is about half of what I want.

[Toys]

My wife is having a hard time having an orgasm. She is wet and excited but she seems to need more. I have made her cum thousands of times but lately it seems to be harder for her to finish. I thought maybe there is a toy that is not to intimidating for me to try on her. Any ideas