[Licking The Starfish]

Ok, my wife is in nursing school. She loves anal play and likes it when I lick her as well. We always shower before and after. Is there reason for us to be concerned about a serious bacterial illness or sickness that I could contract from her. Also licking is part of the foreplay we don't do it after anything has been inserted.

She thinks it is a concern but I wanted more opinion.

What do you all think?

[Just A Finger]

Congratulations on "tricking" your wife into enjoying anal stimulation. It's encouraging that your wife was so enthusiastic that she wanted to try anal intercourse right away, but as you've found out it's really difficult to do. It takes time for a woman to become comfortable with a really large object in her anus, whether toy or penis.

If it helps, let me say that I was like your wife at first, i.e., not at all interested in having anything in my ass. In my case, my husband used his fingers/thumb in my ass (depending on position, as you have discovered) during oral sex and during vaginal sex. In essence, this helped me learn to incorporate the sensations of anal stimulation into my existing sexual responsiveness. The first time I really enjoyed anal stimulation was a surprise to both of us... he was licking my pussy, his fingers were wet and doing wonderful things to me, then suddenly his finger brushed my anus and next thing I knew I was coming my brains out with his finger up my ass! From that night forward, cunnilingus always involved a finger in my ass. After a few weeks of that, we found that two fingers felt even better, and a few weeks later, we found that if my clit was getting a good tonguing, with the help of some lube he could push my vibrator (plain-jane smooth vibe, which was all we had at that time) up my ass. That was the night we discovered having a pillow handy to stuff into my mouth to stifle my screams was a good idea. LOL! It was only after I'd had several multiorgasmic sessions with the vibrator in my ass that I began to believe I could accomodate my husband's cock. I wanted him to fuck my ass, but his cock is really ver large, which was intimidating. I have to give him credit: through all of this he never suggested or asked to fuck me in the ass... he'd just make me come with clitoral and anal stimulation, and then he would fuck my pussy to reach his orgasm. We also used fingers and toys in my ass while we fucked, of course. More on that in a minute.

Finally one night I made my decision to go through with it. My husband was totally willing to try it, of course. We started with lots of kissing and foreplay, then moved on to pussy-licking with fingers in my pussy and in my ass, then when I couldn't hold back any longer I told him to put his cock in my ass. He stroked my clit with wet fingers as he penetrated my ass and there was no pain, even though he felt HUGE in me. Between his fingers and his cock I came explosively in seconds, and he followed after only a few hard thrusts. We have enjoyed regular anal intercourse ever since.. we're coming up our ten-year anal anniversary soon!

The point of all this is to illustrate that some girls need a lot more time to get ready for all-out buttfucking. It was probably a year from my first anal-assisted orgasm to our first anal intercourse. In that year we probably had sex 150 times or so, and nearly every time my anus was being stimulated in one fashion or another, and when the time came to lose my anal virginity, it was an ecstatic experience.

If you think it will help, you might share my experience with your wife. She's probably feeling discouraged at not being able to take your cock in her ass. Let her know that it's okay to take time to get that point.

In the meantime, I would encourage you to use your fingers and thumbs in her ass whenever you can. And don't be afraid to try some toys, too. Here's a few suggestions for anal stimulation during vaginal intercourse that really worked (and still do!) for me:

1) I'm on top with his cock deep in my pussy. I lean forward on his chest and he inserts one or two fingers in my ass. His fingers do most of the work, and I just grind my clit on his pubic bone. Very intimate position. Use of a small vibrator instead of fingers is a good variation on this.

2) In the middle of an extended really hot fuck, I'm on my back with my feet on my husband's shoulders, and he's kneeling with his cock just barely in my pussy. He then fingerfucks my ass with two fingers while very slowly pushing his cock deeper into my pussy. A lot of times I come as he reaches maximum penetration. A nice variation on this: he inserts a G-spot vibrator in my ass instead of fingers. The wider 'head' of this type of vibe keeps it firmly in my ass, hands-free, so he can use his fingers elsewhere. My favorite vibe for this has a really wide base, so I can get the sensation of real fullness in both holes at once.

3) Buttplugs can be fantastic. There's a 'beginner's kit' they sell here at tootimid that has 3 different silicone butt plugs. The smallest one is really too small for me, but your wife will probably want to start with that one. Inserting the buttplug during cunnilingus is a nice way to start, and you can try graduating to the medium or even the large buttplug in one session. Depending on how she likes it, she can come while you lick her, or she can tell you when she's on the brink of coming, then go ahead and have vaginal intercourse in whatever position you like. Because the narrow part of the plug nestles comfortably in the anal canal, both the medium and large plugs will stay in her ass during vaginal intercourse in almost any position.

4) One of the best variants on #3: after inserting the plug, turn her over and fuck doggy style. Try to thrust really deep, not pulling out much at all on the backstroke. Your pubic bone will ride on the wide base of the buttplug, which will move the plug in her ass very nicely. This technique produces explosive multiples for me.

4) One of my absolute favorites involves two vibrators and my husband's cock. It's basically #2 (above), but we use a vibe on my clit as well. I invariably go into continuous orgasm mode doing this, and when my husband finally comes I'm just jelly. BTW, if she's a screamer and you don't want to traumatize the children, you may want to put a gag in her mouth before you turn the vibrators on!

Hope this helps. Good luck with your anal adventures, and keep us posted!

Oh thanks so much for the tips these should work great. Yea my wife and I are commin upon (no pun intended) our 11th anniversary. (Ok pun was inteded.) I will definatly be getting her one or more of these toys for our anniverssary.

[Just A Finger]

Recently durring sex (doggy style) I lubed my thumb and just rubbed the outside of my wifes ass durring sex. Man did she love it! Trust me she was an avid exit only finatic about her ass. Since then she insist that I take charge in all areas of exploration with out even asking her because the loved the suprise. So the next couple times I lubed my thumb and inserted it and she loves it even more. Since then she asked for full on anal sex wich she could not handle yet when we tried. So I have been trying to formulate a better position to accomodate both me penetrating her pussy with my dick and puting a finger or two in her ass. So far it seems only thumbs will work in the doggy position. I put her on her side in the doggy style position in attempt to use my middle finger but it was just a little awkward for me. and she seemed to want it deeper than I could muster.

Any tips on position? Finger dexterity?

I don't know mabey next time I will try two thumbs or something...

Any advice out there?