[Spit Or Swallow]

Ok All You Ladies- I was having a discussion with one of my good friends last night over dinner and I was APPALLED to learn that she DOES NOT SWALLOW her boyfriend's cum!

I thought that this was something that I had coached all my female friends on - apparently she missed the seminar on cock sucking!

She, of course, defended her actions with the whole "It tastes bad...blah, blah, blah...." argument, that I only half listened to and then cut her off with "WHOA.....no friend of mine is going to blabber that crap!"

So, ladies, what I want to know from you - and I want to know from all of you who are looking at the site and don't post much too - what do you do with your man's cum - SPIT or SWALLOW - and WHY?????

I promise to all the "spitters" to not yell at you....I will simply defend my argument on swallowing in a non-argumentative and sensible manner!

So what is it - SPIT OR SWALLOW???

Mikayla

I am definitely a swallower, however, I also use this as a diagnostic tool. If he hasn't been drinking enough water, or has been drinking too much coffee, I KNOW!!!! Besides, I think a man wants to know that we will take him completely and this is a symbolic way of accepting him completely... I'm just saying....

Penny

[Am I Having An Emotional Affair? If So, Why Is That Bad?]

While my board mates have offered some great advice, I do have some to add.

First, I think this man is acting like a jerk - but is not necessarily a jerk. It seems like the relationship is very one-sided. You do ALL these things for him, and all you really want in return is an emotional partner. Someone to chat with, share with, confide in. OF course you are having an emotional affair - and of course it is NOT sexual - you have all that with your hubby.

I think that it is necessary for you to be honest with your hubby about what you need. Men sometimes are programmed to be unsentimental and non-caring about our personal feelings. I would just be honest and tell him in a non-threatening and non-judgemental way what you need and expect. SOmething like, "you know, I appreciate you, I appreciate how you provide for me, how great our sex life is....but, I need a little more. I want and need the "friend" part of marrige...." Then just go from there.

I think it is important to give him a chance to change rather than just abandoning him. While I do think that his behavior is jerkish - I think he can change. I also would stop doing things for HIM and start doing them for YOU. As in, how you want your pubic hair, or make-up, or clothing. Just try to find a happy mixture of things you do for him, and things you do for you. Never put his feelings ahead of your own, it will always make you unhappy.

good luck and report back to us!

Mikayla

Having been the one dealing with a partner in an emotional affair, I had to respond. I have been married for 24 years and recently went through 6 years of "emotional affair" territory with my husband. I was really flaky for a long time,( financially) and needed to grow up!!! My hubby chose a woman many years older that represented security, stability and groundedness( may not be a word, but y'all get the drift)... he found out in short order that the plusses were far-outweighed by the minuses( high-maintenance, drama queen) so we are working at it, successfully, I might add!! You have to find a way to talk with your partner about "what's missing" and how to fix that. Love and compromise and find the path to each other....it IS worth it... Penny

[Best And Longest Lasting Lube?]

I tried to find reviews but I didn't see too many.

Are water-based lubes the best or should I go for silicone? Are there any water-based that are glycerin-free (other than the too timid kind, I already have some of that lol)? Which brands are the best? I've heard a lot about astroglide...

I've tried KY but I didn't really like that one.

I'm far older than you, but I found that water-based lubes are best...Mine is glycerine based, but easy cleanup....

Having said that, I had to have a hysterectomy at 29, so I needed the lube options... fortunately, my body recovered its' ability to produce lubrication after a time...it's still hit and miss, so I keep backups to be sure....

Penny

[What Was The Oddest Sex Toy You've Ever Seen?]

The first time I saw the rotating rabit vib, I thought it was the funniest looking thing I had seen to date, it seemed a bit over the top compared to anything I had seen. Now , after reading the reviews I am going to get one when I have the money.

I was at a sex shop a few monthe ago with hubby and seen the HUGE dilido It was at least a foot tall and something like 6 inches wide...that made me say WTF!! I mean I am all for feeling full, but that thing would be like giving birth again...lol.

When I lived in CA, hubby and I went to a shop in San Berdoo... I saw a double cock thingie that was 10'' for the pussy and 8" for the ass.... I WAS horrified!! I mean, this thing was huge!!!!! At the time, I was too young to understand what it was for... I still cannot comprehend the pleasures of anal.. then again, my boy is very wide, so It just don't work for me...love, love, love all else....