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  2. Help With Vibrators

    in Ask A "Sexpert"

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    Well, welcome to the forum. I've noticed you asking a lot of questions, which is a good thing. But just asking us to pull out a toy from the air and saying that it WILL give you orgasms just can't be done like that.

    First, we need a background, like, have you been able to masturbate either with fingers or other objects and give yourself an orgasm? That's the big one.

    A lot of people think that if they are Orgasmically-Challenged, and they buy a toy, that's going to guarantee orgasms. Toys don't do that. They enhance the experience, guide it along. But, like driving a car, if you don't know how to operate it, you're not going anywhere.

    Telling us if you've orgasmed, and what stimulation does it for you (hard or gentle clit stimulation, for examples), would be very helpful.

    Mikayla has also written several "must have". Go to the Shopping (click to go back to store) up at the top here, and then click on Sex Education. You will find a lot of useful information there.

    Happy posting & learning!!!

    Yes, I can give my self an orgasm. I love clit stimulation!!! I didn't realize till I joined that you could get nerve damage if you concentrate solely on the clitoris.

  5. Okay, Help Me.

    in Ask A "Sexpert"

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    Welcome to the forum, Tink78. I hope that advise helps you, as well others. I write this type of thing not just to answer a specific question, but to give other readers, often men and women who are too shy to come on the forum and post a question, the same help. You are not alone, and I hope that this will give you the courage to ask more questions. There are a fine groups of members who regularly read the posts here, and try to help when they can. We currently have more active women members who participate frequently in asking questions and giving answers, but we do have a lot of male readers who are just as interested in the answers. They just don't feel comfortable asking questions. It a " guy " thing. Like asking directions when they are driving somewhere.

    Howard

    I am a "clit" girl. That is the only way I can seem to get any arousal. Is there a product or something to hit it with vaginal and clitoral fun?

    Also, I know it sounds stupid, but what is g-spot?

    Thanks,

    Shelley

  7. Okay, Help Me.

    in Ask A "Sexpert"

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    Go back and read all three articles that Mikayla wrote about having orgasms. You sound like you are making having an orgasm way too much work. It should never take you 1/2 hour to reach orgasm with any vibrator. If it does, you need to find some way to relax, and take you mind off what you are doing with that vibrator. She discusses breathing routines, and laughing as a way to relax. You can also tense entirely up as you would when you stretch or yawn, and then release, and the release will relax you . You need ot be stimulating more than one spot on your body. Concentrating solely on your clit may sound like the right way to go, but it obviously is not working for you, and it doesn't always work for other women. Work youself up to a state of excitement before turning on the vibrator. caress, massage, tickle, pull, etc. areas of you body that are sensitive to your touch. Mikayla makes a point to remind women that you can pull on you labia- both major, and minor, and in doing so, that will cause blood to rush to both the labia and your clitoris. That will engorge these areas, and make you much more sensitive. When you do use the vibrator, stay away from you clit, Tease your self, bu going around it, but not hitting it directly. When you finally feel like you are going to explode, then is the time to use that vibrator for direct stimulation. The clit has lots of nerves, but no where near as many as the tip of your index finger, for example. So, don't numb the clit with too much application with that vibrator. Using the vibrator along side of it, on top of it, under it, on the inside of your thighs and between the outer( major ) and inner ) minor ) labia is just as exciting, as those nerves are also connected to the clitoris! Use fantasy to fill your mind with excitement, while you touch yourself and then use the vibrator in conjunction with the touching.

    As for your release. Urine flows from your urethra, located directly under the tip of your clitoris, and above the opening to your vagina. If you pass urine during an orgasm, ( it is possible) it will smell like urine. However, if the fluid that discharges comes out your vagina, it is fluid from the paraurethral gland, and spot of tissue on the front, or anterior, wall of your vagina, about 2-3 inches inside the opening to your vagina, that wraps around the urethra above your clitoris. If you were to use the palm of one hand to push down on the lower stomach, about where your pubic hair ends, while you stimulate your vagina with a vibrator internally, you would be likely to cause some discharge, or even a " squirt " of fluid, usually combined with a g-spot orgasm, but not always. As for whether you have had an orgasm, during an orgasm, you can expect your entire body to tense up, just as you might do when yawning and stretching, and the whole body shake. Most women feel a heat in their loins, and vagina, which tends to radiate upward towards their heart. You head feels like someone put it in a vise, and is squeezing it, and because you can't take a breathe, you think you are going to pass out. You won't. If you feel any of these things, RELAX< and just go with them. You are not going to die, you are not going to pass out, and you will be back in control after perhaps half a minute. The more orgasms you have, the faster they will be to have, and the longer and more intense they can become.

    So, stay with what you are doing, only do more of it. But, don't be using a vibrator or any mechanical device on your clit or anywhere else on your body for more than 15 minutes. After that amount of time, the nerves have gone numb, and you are getting no where. Go find another way to relax and get excited. You can always come back to your vibrator later when you do get excited, and are approaching the orgasm.

    Have fun.

    Howard

    I am sooo glad to get some advice!!!!!!!!!!

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