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Your response to my response made me giggle Vb.
Seriously, what is this alone time? Where does one procure it? -
What is this personal me time you speak of?
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Gsk's a biter, nipper whatever you want to classify it as. Personally I don't like it. I hate any pain, but he gets into doing the nipping.
I would say go at your partners comfort level.
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"What if your wife agreed to give you oral sex regularly (or whatever sexual thing you have been craving) but in return you had to promise to never, (NEVER) view porn again. Could you do it? Would you consider it? Would you sneak it?"
I could, but I don't think I would. I think I would view such a bargain as overly controlling. I don't even watch porn that much; it is the principle of such a bargain that bugs me. If she just said, "please don't watch porn cause it bugs me THIIISS much," I might be more receptive to giving it up.
Even then, what would be next? Am I supposed to quit perusing Victoria Secret and Newport News catalogues when they arrive in the mail? Cast my gaze to the ground whenever a pretty girl is in view? I'm a guy; I look; I always have and always will. And always would no matter how hot my wife or girlfriend was.
Also, if oral (or whatever else) is something she is willing to do, either because she likes it or enjoys pleasing me, then she should just do it. If she isn't willing, she shouldn't have to. Sex (or certain acts) should not be an obligation; that would take a lot of the fun and enjoyment out of it. But likewise, they should not be reserved as bargaining chips.
As a younger man, I might have been more willing agree to such a deal, and in general to bend over backwards for a gal; but right now, I feel like I've sacrificed an awful lot for my family for the past 10+ years; don't take away what simple pleasures I have, especially if I view them as fairly harmless.
(Now, there's a certain amount of hypotheticalness to these answers. My wife doesn't care if I look at porn; watches it herself, probably more than me; likes giving oral, etc. I don't see us ever getting divorced. So I'm partly trying to imagine as if she did have a problem with porn, and partly thinking in terms of if she were to kick-off and I were to start dating a new girl.)
Perfectly stated and ty.
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We've never had an issue with porn, so I'm not qualified. But I will be the odd person out here. I lived with my ex who was an alcoholic for 21 years and no amount of bargaining and promises would ever work if the person really did not want to change themselves.
Gsk looks at porn, most men do. And most women. To ask him to to give up something he truly enjoys because of my insecurities? No way.
I don't censor what he watches, reads and I don't expect him to.censor me either. I think most people that look at porn are just sexual beings. I don't get jealous over something in print or on a screen. It's not real life. He's not out with another woman. He's having his own personal time.
And I personally don't believe in bargaining for sexual "favors" sex is a gift, you willingly share with another. Not a bargaining point.
Because if you start doing that, I think the person you're "bargaining" with, is doing it to either shut the other person up and/or gain a favor.
Sex should not be a bargaining process imo.
What makes me curious is how many people that say they have given up porn really have? Are they being totally honest?
Gsk gave me male insight and said that he and most men he knew would probably tell their women they have, but as MM and Mikayla have stated, men watch porn simply because they can, and they love looking at naked women.
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My So's ex would only give him head if he wore a condom. The first time I made a move to give him a blowjob, he stopped me and reached for a condom.
I said 'what is that for'? and he told me. I was thinking to myself 'what!?' I told him no way did I want to suck on a condom, I wanted to feel
his skin on mine. He was in heaven.
She also wouldn't let him make love to her without a condom, because it was 'messy'. I LIKE messy, I LIKE the feel of his skin on mine.
I LIKE all the sights, smells and sounds of lovemaking.
I feel bad that these women are missing so much of the good stuff that makes sex GREAT. They are cheating their partners and themselves.
And then their partners cheat on them, and then they ask when it happens and wonder "Why?".
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I find a lot of this discussion interesting...the fact is, women should suck cock and men should eat pussy...period.
I am a FIRM believer that sex is adult playtime and that normal, healthy foreplay INCLUDES oral sex - for BOTH. Women who won't - IN MY OPINION - are lazy. Sure, there are psychological reasons that women get hesitant to do it - but get over it, really. Same for men. We are not dirty, we are not gross, oral sex is healthy and fun and personally, in my bedroom, expected.
I know this opinion has not made me popular with the 'non-blowjobbing women' but I have never, ever had a partner say he would go and get oral sex elsewhere. I have said it before, and I am gonna say it again, the NUMBER ONE reason why men seek out prostitutes is for ORAL SEX! It is important to them - and it is important to women too.
Iha, I understand your feeling of rejection. You have been married all these years, have had sex with her and she STILL won't suck your cock without a condom? Where is her head? Yes, she does it, and yes, it is better than nothing, but.....
Jhard, I agree with you...men will find it somewhere eventually, or die trying to get it...
Listen ladies, the fact is, oral sex is something that you should be doing, and doing with enthusiasm and skill. Any woman who gives great head can take a man away from a woman who won't. Period.
Now, technically speaking, a "blowjob" is slang for the act or instance of fellatio, fellatio being the act of taking a man's penis into the mouth for the purposes of arousal, foreplay or ejaculation. Ejaculation is NOT a prerequisite for a blowjob.
So, if you have had a woman (or man) suck your cock and you were aroused by it, you have had a blowjob. If you have had a woman swallow your cum after - you have had a FANTASTIC blowjob.
I could not have said it better.
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Sounds like you two have problems the vacation hasn't helped whatever it is.
What exactly is happening, because I'm lost with this post too.
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Nice review and Doc Johnson are our faves also.
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If it happens it happens. It doesn't always happen with me. The other night it did again, and we didn't have the foresight to pull out the waterproof pads...so change sheets etc. Thank whoever for waterproof mattress covers.
And again it was a sneak up kinda gush thing. It only happens with me with direct gspot manipulation not with clitoral, but that's me. They gspot o's wipe me out, but GSK loves seeing it so we do it purposefully every once in a while. But there is tremendous pressure, then the gush then the orgasm. And it's all good.
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Clit tapping, yes, slapping like you'd slap across the face.. no. A mild to moderate thwap to the pussy yes.
Gsk does that once in a while, and it's sexy. But I'm not into hard pain at all.
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Sounds like she could be perimenopausal, and also has some ovarian issues. Anovulation or sporadic ovulation happens with perimenopause as well as other ovarian issues. Blood work will give the doc a window to look at but hormones vary month to month and day to day. She really needs to see a good endocrinologist or at least a gyn.
I am in perimenopause but my sex drive is not diminished. My egg supply.. probably, but drive, no.
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I like myself. And the more I see of women out there on the street, I really like myself even more.
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Wow. I'm speechless. That toy is getting amazing reviews.
4 times? Holy guacamole, that thing needs to come with warnings.
Olav, you da man. 4 and 2 gspots... oh my.
Awesome review, and my birthday is Sept 20th
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Balanced bioidentical hormones are just that.. balanced. Testosterone offset with the female hormones.
Another interesting story. My ex knew a male stripper. Totally straight male stripper. Loved the big ripped body builder look. This guy got ahold of injectible female hormones and used to shoot himself in the ass with it, to offset the steroids. It wasn't done in a balanced setting.
What was interesting is the stripper even with the balanced female hormones, tho not dosed correctly by any means, affected his penis size.
The guy had no dick. And it was due to the female hormones.
So there is a huge difference with balanced bioidentical hormones and random street drugs. Absolutely huge.
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Wanna know something funny aiden? I wrote this, I added intelligence, and I voted for eyes! LOL I tend to think of my eyes first because you can notice that from a distance and as far as I am concerned my intelligence makes me who I am, so it's not just a feature to me. Does that make sense? And I'm a shop-a-holic sooo yeah that makes me feel better, about EVERYTHING too, oddly enough even about money. See that needs liek a specification becuse I HATE clothes shopping but i spend about 2 hours in borders....
I love to shop at Borders too. What I was trying to say is that we have a very small piece of the female pie represented here. We aren't polling thousands of women. We are polling whoever comes here and participates.
But what disturbs me is that women feel what is special are things that aren't. Body image is just that. An image. It's not what defines a person in my opinion. You can have what society calls the ugliest person and inside, their mind and their soul are what makes them beautiful. Not their perfect breasts, behind, hair or face. That's not what beauty is.
And your response makes perfect sense.
What also interests me is the women that seek out what they think men want. But the very things they seek are the things most men scorn.
I asked GSK his thoughts on this poll. And he said something pretty profound. What he basically had to say was society looks at supermodels as a standard of sexy and beautiful. Especially to the young girls. Supermodels are born they aren't made. You can take bone ugly, dress it, perfume it, and add all the trappings of hair colorants, eye make up what have you, and you still have bone ugly. Men are not stupid, they are pretty basic. They spot fake a mile away.
It isn't sexy. What is sexy is confidence, and men are really sick of hearing women complain that they are fat and they are ugly. You don't hear men saying that a third of as most women do. And men say it time and again, we're beautiful and they love us, as we are, and most women don't listen.
They're still wrapped in society's standards and that is really sad.
He has said to me many many times, you can have a gorgeous woman, and the first thing other women do, is pull her apart. She must be a bitch, she must be a whore, she's so perfect that something has to be wrong with her. And that is the biggest turn off to men.
Men hate fake. They hate it. So the best you can do is be you, otherwise you end up looking like a sad parody and it's entirely transparent.
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Tpbm is looking forward to a great date night with dinner out, followed by a long, passionate sex session tonight.
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I like myself pretty well, honestly. I'm quite fond of my eyes, personality, brains, and tattoos
Synnir, I think you're extremely intelligent by the way.
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What is your best feature?
My Eyes! [ 5 ] ** [41.67%]
My Legs [ 0 ] ** [0.00%]
My Mouth/Smile [ 1 ] ** [8.33%]
My Hair [ 1 ] ** [8.33%]
My Breasts [ 2 ] ** [16.67%]
My Brains [ 2 ] ** [16.67%]
My Charisma [ 1 ] ** [8.33%]
My Tattoos [ 0 ] ** [0.00%]
My Hands [ 0 ] ** [0.00%]
My Feet [ 0 ] ** [0.00%]
What do you do to boost your self esteem?
Shopping!! [ 5 ] ** [38.46%]
New shoes, duh! [ 0 ] ** [0.00%]
Total Makeover! [ 2 ] ** [15.38%]
Sweat out the insecurities at the gym [ 2 ] ** [15.38%]
Party with friends! [ 1 ] ** [7.69%]
Drinking: even I think I look good drunk [ 0 ] ** [0.00%]
Drugs: Self-Esteem? what's that? [ 0 ] ** [0.00%]
Diss someone else (catty/bitchy) [ 0 ] ** [0.00%]
Slut Around (promiscuity) [ 2 ] ** [15.38%]
Eat, ice cream make everything better [ 1 ] ** [7.69%]
What is your favorite compliment?
Are you wearing make-up? Your eyes look amazing! [ 1 ] ** [4.17%]
You have an awesome smile! [ 3 ] ** [12.50%]
Did you lose weight? [ 4 ] ** [16.67%]
You are so smart! [ 4 ] ** [16.67%]
That outfit is killer! [ 0 ] ** [0.00%]
I want to motorboat you! (insert breast compliments here) [ 3 ] ** [12.50%]
You have such a nice ass! [ 1 ] ** [4.17%]
You are such an amazing friend! [ 3 ] ** [12.50%]
Your so funny! [ 2 ] ** [8.33%]
What would I do without you? [ 3 ] ** [12.50%]
At the time that I read this poll and if I am interpreting polling results correctly, I find it sad that of the folks that have voted only 16.67% of women find that their brains (intelligence) is their sexiest asset, with eyes leading the way as the #1 asset. Followed by their breasts. Why is intelligence so low on the voting ranks. Do women really feel that they being smart is not an asset?
But if they shop, get a makeover and slut around they feel better about themselves. So basically they are saying, I'm not smart but the package looks great, so that's good.
This tells me that the women that took this poll if being totally honest, see themselves as their brain ranking with their boobs as their second best feature to their eyes, and if they shop, work out, spend money then slut around they feel better. But I want to be complimented on how smart I am and that I am thinner, because I feel stupid and fat, that's how I see myself.
It shows me that they are perceiving themselves as a not so smart woman who has to shop and whose value lies with their ability to get laid. That defines their esteem.
The very thing women hate that men make jokes on. The jokes that say that women are money grabbing, with no common sense and their only value is on their backs. And then women wonder why they get the attitude they do from some men.
It's not about getting the perfect body, or buying things to make yourself perceived as better or to fancy you up or how many guys find you fuckable.
It's about loving yourself and respecting yourself for the valuable human being you are.
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I think it's just about everyone's fantasy. Or at least most people's.
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We just got gun oil, and will be testing it. There is a review on it already that may help.
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I wasn't making fun of anyone but when someone accepts fluctuations hormonally in their bodies due to self induced non prescribed drugs I do shake my head.
I think people that have issues such as pcos, and hirsutism are not at fault, and I would never make fun of anyone with medical issues. My ex had a huge group of heavy drug using friends. All of the women look like 10 feet of bad road, and the pot smokers did have mustaches and facial hair, and sideburns.
I'm not talking the occasional toker, I'm talking the women that were smoking daily and in large quantities. The reason I asked my MD about it was 15 years ago we were going through infertility and she directly asked my husband about marijuana use. Because his testosterone levels were so low. He was never into weed, he was into alcohol. So I flippantly said well then that means I can smoke away because I don't have to worry about testosterone. She said well, no you will have to because marijuana does increase testosterone in women, and along with that comes male characteristics. Chest hair, facial hair, increased libido which got us into a discussion of endocrine dysfunction and long term drug abuse.
Most pharmaceutical companies with prescription testosterone additives and replacements such as craftylady's had, do have warnings on the labeling. Pot doesn't. And people need to be aware.
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I spoke with my MD about this, at one time when my ex was smoking to relieve cancer pain. She said men that smoke weed weekly do have testosterone issues. Being produced in the testes, it does supress. And women that smoke weed weekly do grow more facial hair and have elevated testosterone.
Now I'm usually good at spotting women that use it alot. Aerosmith's song.. "Dude look like a lady"
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Cervix, pubic bone perhaps. I'd ask your Doc.