[Scared To Bj]

I have been dating this fabulous guy for a while now who I love more than anything. But he really wants me to go down on him and I would like to but I just can't seem to get myself down there. It's like I have a leash holding me back. When we first started dating I said I wouldn't do it at all b/c I didn't like it. I have done it twice on other guys, neither of which were good experiences for me. I felt very degraded and inferior. I told him I would probably do it eventually it would just take me some time, and that was fine for a while, but now he brings it up quite regularly. I don't like that he brings it up and jokes about it b/c it makes me feel bad that I don't/won't/can't do it. I have gotten to the point now where I think about it doing it and consider doing it but I just don't know when I'll get the point where I will actually peform it. Any words or wisdom would be helpful. I just don't know want to do and I feel bad b/c I can't do it.

I too have similar experiance with previous men forcing my head to them to deep throat them and once he acted like he was F*****g my mouth and started pumping really fast and shoving his dick down my throat. It did take me awhile to give head to other men after that. Now I am fine.

But when I first gave head I didn't like him watching me because I thought I might do something wrong or make a funny face when he came in my mouth and I was just embarassed because I really didn't know what to do. I decided that I wanted him blindfolded because I didn't like being watched.

That got me over my fears. Now everything is great and I love to stare my SO in the eyes while i'm taking in his kids. lol.

[Giving/recieving A Bj]

For the shaving part, I think that you should just flat out ask your SO what he likes better: completely shaved, trimmed, etc. He will like it when he does get down there that you really did it for him. And for the bj, what I like to do is get wraped up in the moment. I do what feels natural and be a complete horn ball when I give one. Give awsome results. A tip that I can give you that worked wonders for my SO, Is the when you are sucking on his penis, have one of your hands around the base of him. Then with your thumb of that hand rub up and down the opposite of your mouth....make sure that you keep it well moist. It if starts to get a little dry then you can suck your thumb and leave lots of saliva behind and lick up and down that nurve on the underside of the penis. NOTE: that nurve is where you are rubbing with your thumb.

And one quick reminder: ENJOY!!!!

[Swallowing]

I love giving head, but my SOs cum tastes gross and smells like bleach. Oh well, at least I give good head.

One guy that I dated it tasted so nasty and I always spit it out afterwards. My new hubby I am fine with. On occassion it is slightly bitter or a lot and I can't swollow it. I usually lift my tounge up and have them cum under my tounge and then I don't taste anything till I am going to swollow it. So if it is bad then I can go spit it out. lol.

[I Find It Hard To Believe...]

I really more have a question on fetishes. Before I moved in with my hubby I spent the night one night. We got busy that night and then next day he let me sleep in while he went to work. I was kind of curious as to what size condom he wore-on the larger side-so I looked in the night stand where he got the condom from the night before...and lone behold there was 2 magazines in there. One was just a standard naughty one.....and the other one was a foot and leg fetish one. So I started wondering is he had a foot and leg fetish. I thought it was rather kinky since I have a fetish of my own. I didn't want to tell him that I found it because I didn't want him to think I was snooping or I would make him really embarassed. About a month went by and I decided to tell him that I found it. I started by saying that I had wondered what size condom he wore and so on. Well, then I told him that I had a fetish and I wasn't going to tell him what it was until he told me if he had one. Well, he finally told me that the magazine he got for positions...and yeah he had used some of them during our sack sessions....and he said that he doesn't have a fetish. Well, I don't believe him.

This is for all the guys out there....if this happened to you and you really did have that fetish would you admit it?

Please let me know because I still think he has one....he has sucked my toe during sex and things like that, that make me think he is hiding it from me and just doen't want to admit it.

We are really open about everything and have such a great sex life. But this still hangs in the back of my head wondering if he has a fetish....

[Fetishes]

If we're talking about fetishes, mine is fur...just thinking about fur touching my skin gives me shivery chills, that lovely cold-soft sensation...real fur is best.

As for bondage, Im no expert, but I think its a great thing to try.

OMG! Mine is fur too! Though I dont really go for the fake stuff....and I am not one with the "furries"....people dressed in animal costumes. that doesn't do anything for me. It has to be a person rubbing it on me...can't just be a cat or something rubbing on my leg for attention. haha

[Fetishes]

I really more have a question on fetishes. Before I moved in with my hubby I spent the night one night. We got busy that night and then next day he let me sleep in while he went to work. I was kind of curious as to what size condom he wore-on the larger side-so I looked in the night stand where he got the condom from the night before...and lone behold there was 2 magazines in there. One was just a standard naughty one.....and the other one was a foot and leg fetish one. So I started wondering is he had a foot and leg fetish. I thought it was rather kinky since I have a fetish of my own. I didn't want to tell him that I found it because I didn't want him to think I was snooping or I would make him really embarassed. About a month went by and I decided to tell him that I found it. I started by saying that I had wondered what size condom he wore and so on. Well, then I told him that I had a fetish and I wasn't going to tell him what it was until he told me if he had one. Well, he finally told me that the magazine he got for positions...and yeah he had used some of them during our sack sessions....and he said that he doesn't have a fetish. Well, I don't believe him.

This is for all the guys out there....if this happened to you and you really did have that fetish would you admit it?

Please let me know because I still think he has one....he has sucked my toe during sex and things like that, that make me think he is hiding it from me and just doen't want to admit it.

We are really open about everything and have such a great sex life. But this still hangs in the back of my head wondering if he has a fetish....

[Hello!]

I thought this would be a neat way for everyone to get to know the new members of the forum. So, please post and say hello. I know we all like hearing from new members!

If you are new to the forum, please remember to just let me know if you ever have any issues with any other members of the board. It is important that this be a safe place where people feel comfortable seeking and giving advice on uncomfortable topics.

Thanks,

Rob

Hi, I am close to new here. I have already posted a couple in other topics but I just found this one and decided to say hi. I love this site. My younger sister bought me a toy from here and sent it to me as a surprise....and boy was it a great one. So, then I decided to check out the site and I fell in love with it. Great toys...good prices....and so much more. I have been buying things from here for over a year and just realized there was a forum. haha.

Kristen