[Very Resourceful Entrepreneur / Spammer!]

Good morning folks!

I just wanted to let everyone know that I am sorry for the spam messages that came from one of our members. As most of you know, members have the ability to communicate with one another using the private message feature. Although this is a great feature, we will have some people take advantage of it.

To help fix the problem, you will now have to make a few posts to be able to send out PMs. I know this will be an inconvenience to some and I apologize about that.

Please know we take this seriously and understand how important it is to keep the board spam free.

Have a great day!

Rob

What a world, huh? Yikes!

Sorry you (we) all have to be put through this.

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Hello!

I just changed the max size of our avatars to 155w x 200h. Please re-upload your avatar to see the changes.

Rob

Love that it's expanded. I went ahead and reloaded my original photo and it looks great on My Controls page, but on the entries area in the forum it looks pixelated. Any idea why it looks great in one area and not in the other, even tho both have been resized?

[What Is A Normal..appearance?]

Don't leave the guys out of that one MsRandi. It doesn't matter what the world calls average many guys will never be comfortable with their equipment either!

You're so right! Because of the mind bending issues RE size & "OMG my dick has a mind of it's own!", I would never want to be a man dealing with a penis. I'm very glad I was born a girl. Women are lucky that if our body parts aren't cooperating fully it is not as obvious.

I would like to say though, while men have to deal with the "I'm not big enough" or "This has never happened to me before...." , women have been far more objectified in their total appearance & seductive value. Boobs, boobs, boobs are served up everywhere as our beauty currency..... and don't even get me started on how sad it is that un-naturally large plastic ones are now becoming the norm (at least here in California). Anywhoo....

Admittedly it is women who buy into the media's sales pitch of how a pretty women should look. As an example, for some stupid reason I assumed that when I found a Victoria's Secret catalog in my guys bedroom that it meant that he wanted what he saw: a beautiful woman....in matching bra and panties. So of course, from that point on, I made a point of always wearing matching bra & panties (in an attempt to distract my lover from the fact I am NOT a VS model?). What I have heard since, from men of all kinds, is that the lingerie look they all appreciate most is my lingerie scattered around the floor of the room! That is not to say men don't appreciate pretty under-things or our efforts to be sexy....but it seems to be more important to us women. And yes, true to form, I do love my frilly girl things. They do make me feel sexy. But I readily admit that I could acheive the same results if I were capable of FEELING sexy without the elaborate & expensive trimmings.

Thanks for bringing it back to my attention that men have daunting issues to contend with too.

We are all human, and the bottom line is that we ALL have self-esteem issues to deal with. Some of us are just better at coping with them.

Kindness, compassion & understanding are the most important things we can practice with one another.

My trick when taking a new lover, and I'm judging MYSELF as to what I imagine he is expecting to see: Use the dimmer switch to keep the light low and use candles. Low light makes everyone look pretty/handsome and petty details are deminished. It's worked so far!

Our beauty (and self worth) begins in our mind.

[What Is A Normal..appearance?]

Don't leave the guys out of that one MsRandi. It doesn't matter what the world calls average many guys will never be comfortable with their equipment either!

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See next MsRandi post. Thanks.

[What Is A Normal..appearance?]

Thanks everyone for sharing your thoughts, insights and links.

This is such a private issue that never really gets spoken about, at least among my friends....and I thought we talked about everything until now. We've discussed shaving vs waxing vs laser, but not the details of how our coochies look in detail. My observation is, most of us women are just not satisfied with what we were blessed with in life...pussy or other wise. At least we don't appreciate our pussies right off the get go. We need to process it. Judge ourselves. Why do we do this to ourselves?

I guess there was a bliss in the ignorance our elders had on the topic of sex. Back in Grandpa's day, no one was worried about how women's pussies looked. Guys were just happy to be getting some! They thought a big fur pie was just fine. Check out some old 70's & 80's porn to confirm this. Yikes! It didn't need grooming, just make sure it's clean and smells nice. Now we have yet another area to be judged on....and of course, as always, we are our own worst critics!

The first time I went fur free it felt so liberating. But like so many other women have expressed, I judged myself. Is it normal? Will they like it? The most important question, Do I like it bare as the day I was born? Oh yes I do. Some of the pleasure I get comes from the pleasure it gives my guy.

I enjoy it so much I am waxing it, hoping to make it perminent and have considered laser (big money...I think I will need to be "gifted" those treatments : )

Love yourself. Act confident and you will become confident. Every inch of you is beautiful & desirable. Own it. You're magnificent!!!!

[I Did It! I Squirted!]

Having never squirted before, I am thrilled to have heard your first hand account. Seen it on youPorn, and heard about them. You've made it sound achievable. My sweetie has said he thinks I have been close on several occations, but I just didn't let myself go.

There may be some hesitation on my part, due to the super wetness issue. Cold damp bedding has never been a turn on for me. Nor is screwing on a pile of towels. But if I'm going to experience a fabulous squirt then I guess I'd better get over my "issues". I'll just have to make it clear to LoverMan that if this mission is accomplished he'll be on clean up duty. Or we'll just have to make a point of trying this on HIS side of the bed. LOL Gives a whole new meaning to the words, wet spot. This will be a MEGA wet spot. I'm sure it will be worth it to him : ) and me of course.

PS: Where does this liquid come from. If these women are squirting a cup full, is there a bladder in there that the doctors don't know about? Actually, I know there's some gland in there, but how does it store that much liquid? Do we have the equivilant of a set of balls inside us, generating this stuff? Might this stored liquid be used as another lame excuse as to why "I'm not fat, I'm retaining water"? Ha! ....... I crack me up!

Ok, but really? What's the story? Does TooTimid have a topic on squirting? I'll need to go check. Thanks for any info on where the liquid comes from & what it is.

[I'm Glad To Have Found This Adult Community]

Thanks everyone for all the encouragement & warm welcome! It's nice to know there are so many others who are boomers too. I appreciate you making yourselves known. I'm excited about participating through both the forum topics and blog area (I'm so proud of myself for figuring out how to set up a blog for the first time....harder than I thought, but I'm not computer savvy in any way).

Thanks to all of you for helping me on my mission to shake up my life on many different levels. The entire Too Timid community is a real blessing.

Oh, and as for my having any of the physical menopausal problems, not yet thank God. I'm sure my day is coming sooner than I'd like. Some of my gal pals are beginning to go through it, and I know they would love to have a place to learn/share resources. They are going through the mid-life hornies yet have to contend with the negative aspects (needing lube all the time, moodiness, hot flashes & night sweats, etc.)

I look forward to fully participating in all aspects of the community while learning and sharing.

Blessings to you all.

[I'm Glad To Have Found This Adult Community]

Oooops! This entry is a mistake. Don't know how I created it. Please see the next one.

(Now you can see why I'm so proud of having gotten the blog up and running )

This community allows me to learn & grow in lots of areas!

[New Contest Idea?]

Where is the most memorable time you had sex in a odd place? ( public place, friends house, parents bed etc. )

Describe your 1st time?

Those are the only 2 i can think of now.. i might think of more..

I love this idea of hearing about odd places our members have had a "Quicky" (or longer...but odd places generally require ecomomy of to time, am I right? LOL ) A great way to get ideas to try ourselves, so I'm on board for this contest.

My own contest idea, "Have you ever been "busted" having sex somewhere? If so, by whom? parents? partner?, work collegues?, church staff? airline crew? cab driver? etc. What happened?

I think we all have. I have several myself and it might be difficult for me to decide which one is the best to submit!

[First Time]

Yippee! My package of Too Timid purchases arrived today. It is all I can do to keep from ripping it open to check out all the goodies. I feel like a kid at Christmas, waiting for my Sweetie to arrive so we can open it together. What fun! It is packed full of my first anal toys, vibrators and lubes to try. I would like to thank everyone here in the community for all the wonderful educational advice, as well as describing your personal experiences (& questions), because I am naturally a tad nervous. This is a long awaited new sexual adventure for me. Luckily my Sweetie has prior experience, so it’s not two virgins attempting this, which calms my nerves a bit. My Sweetie’s excitement about moving to this dimension in our sexual experience has built MY excitement!

The thing calming my mind the most though is all the wonderful information on Anal Avenue which give me the courage to face my doubts to give this a try. Thanks for being here for me! This is a great site.

[I'm Glad To Have Found This Adult Community]

Hello everyone!

What a great find, the Too Timid store and community.

This is the first community I've ever been involved with and I'm looking forward to learning and sharing. I also want to apologize up front if I do something wrong while replying or whatever. It seems sort of overwhelming as a newbie to figure out what all the buttons are for and how to use them. I have managed to make myself a blog page, so that's exciting! I'm not sure what all I will post there though. I guess it will grow and evolve like I'm doing now!

I haven't done too much snooping around yet, but I am interested in knowing whether there are any other members in my "Boomer" age range on this site? Actually, I know there are a few in their 40's because I saw a few as I scanned the membership pages. Being that all my friends are going through a mid-life sexual re-awakening we seem to have issues which are different from the under 40 crowd. Some of the issues involved are, we are rarin' to go but our same age partners are starting loose interest (if not actual ability, oh no!!!). Then of course we have a few hormonal issues which are not the same as what the younger gals on here might have. Ours has to do with dryness & hot flashes, or mood swings, dating younger men?;getting our older men to try something new--or try something at all! While the under 40 women are dealing with dating & sex in general, as well as maybe pms, birth control, etc.

I imagine some of us with "elders wisdom" might be able to add a bit to the mix here. But rather than thinking I have much too offer, I am really looking forward to hearing what the young members among us have to say. I expect that those younger wilder & more liberated (than me) members will keep me young in my attitudes & ideas, getting me thinking outside the box....no pun intended

So, if there is already a specific area where members over 40 can chat about these topics? If not, would the administrators be open to starting one?

[Hello!]

Hi! I am a newbie here. I am a 47 year old female who is divorced, but living with my SO. I was in a 28 year marriage to a man who was not interested in sex. My So is also divorced after 28 years. He is much more expierienced and knowledgable about sex then I am. He and I have compatable sex drives, and he is showing me so many fun and interesting things that I had only read about. At 47 I am having the best sex ever! Who would have imangined!? Since meeting SO, I have been the happiest I have ever been. I have discovered that people are never to old to learn, or live a happy, fulfilling life. Finding this website has answered a lot of questions and opened up so many new ideas to me. Everybody here is so patient and helpful. I can't wait to keep growing in my new life.

Hi, I'm new here too. I'm glad to find that you are more my age and having similar experience with very exciting mid-life sexual re-awakening. My prior marriage of nearly 10 years was like yours. Little to no sex. I finally decided that I am just too damned young and sexual to waste another day of my life in a half-baked relationship. There were lots of good/great things about the marriage, but not having any sort of sexual intimacy made the entire thing feel like a sham. On an intellectual level I know that is shallow, but on an emotional level it seemed so disingenuous. So I left and have spent the past 3 years (safely) enjoying myself like I have never done before in my life. For me, I find the biggest issue with guys my own age is that they can't keep up with me! It seems I need to start dating younger men, and that is a mental hurdle all it's own. LOL I'll save more of that rant on my Ms Randi's blog site!

Anyway, welcome, and I hope to get to share more of our experiences on this site. I haven't checked it out yet, but maybe there is a need for an area dedicated to us Cougars (or are we Panthers? I'm lost on all that ) Our age group may have some issues and concerns our young counterparts do not.

I look forward to chatting with you and others here in the near future.