i have had anal a few times. i can handle it, i just don't enjoy it. my boyfriend and i have played around with a lot of different toys (beads, plugs, dildos) and have had anal sex of course, but i can never seem to relax enough to enjoy it, or no matter how much lube or what toy it always seems to hurt! so if anybody has any suggestions, i'd love to hear anything and everything. i really want to enjoy it!