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From a man's point of view, what makes me wanting more goes on different levels.
It starts with loving and wanting my partner.
If she doesn't treat me like a ... let's censor the language here. A man's mood can control the sex.
For the in-bed part, tries to overdo can turn someone off, be yourself.
Hangups, too many of them, can cool things off. If a man loves giving oral, or receiving oral, and she never goes there, it affects the quality of sex. I wanted to give oral so bad to someone who never wants it. It leaves something lacking and satisfaction decreases in the long run.
Doing the little things goes a long way even if it's not sexual. Touch your man where he likes it. Maybe learn a different way. Hold, squeeze, stroke his shaft, pay attention to the balls, well, you get the idea.
Let your man love you back, TELL him what feels good to you, or SHOW him, and how. BE PATIENT too when it's new for him.
Live your sexuality! I had someone who won't let me give her orgasms ever, didn't initiate often, didn't touch me a lot (I did a lot of touching her).
Be brave and do things. That does not make a woman slutty or dirty, it benefits HER sex life.
It\s not always about burying the penis for variety. Intercourse and BJ are great, so are HJ and titty fuck.
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Except for work she dresses pretty plain. I will never know what mood she is in from the panties .... she doesn't wear any at all LOL.
BUT she has a distinctive smell that gives her away when she takes her pants away. I happen to love that smell.
She had someone who was not affectionate in the past and she is not the affectionate type .... but I am working on softening her up as time goes. I refrain from public affection to give her space.
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These things happen ... even a penis can get fussy to handle, I know for a fact. So close yet not close enough.
If the BJ won't work you ever tried a HJ? There are awsome techniques that send a man over the edge.
There are some on the internet I am sure. If not I will give you pretty graphic instructions.
Maybe intercourse or between the breasts. For some reason I had a great time with oral and manual but unable to orgasm except between the breasts in no time; on three occasions before.
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There is this older thread and one man says he can't cum between them.
I suggest not having too much lube / oil between.
How about starting dry with low friction?
As for myself, when I get aroused I have enough precum to spread on the head to lubricate it,
and in time it spreads to the shaft. That gives enough to get the pleasure out of it.
If I go dry again she gives me a stroking or two, to squeeze some more precum up.
As for size, one gal put it so well: If the breasts are big enough to squeeze a penis between, no matter how much or little, then you have enough. I had enjoyed small, they are beautiful and it offers a good view of the action.
The drawback is the ejaculation is not "stuck" between the breasts for those not into having a squirt on the neck.
For large breasts you can do lots of ways to stimulate the man with the breasts, do the job for him.
The man can bury his penis in and the breasts catch the ejaculation. Or also a woman can bring her breasts up, and when the head peaks through she can give it oral attention, maybe catch the ejaculation.
What makes it pleasurable is knowing my partner is enjoying it or takes pleasure doing this for me.
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Many things, so I may need to be tied several times.
On the selfish side
To have my gal use her breasts to make make feel good, all the way.
Done it before but never received it where I just sit back and let do her thing.
With her hands, mouth, tongue. Stop and go, some nibbling, try different techniques, keep it hard as long as possible and stop before I lose control as many times as possible.
Her riding me facing me, the other way, using her hands to touch me.
Never tried prostate stimulation and curious about it.
For her
To bring her breasts to my mouth, have me give her oral.
Her riding me facing me, the other way, using her hands to touch me.
My hands are tied so she comes to my hands to have her clitoris and vagina stimulated.
She sits on me and just rubs her vagina and clitoris against my erection.
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You probably do more than the head action already but just in case:
You stimulate him in other ways during the blowjob?
Like stroking the shaft, massaging the balls, squeezing the shaft, different things to give different sensations.
There would be tim es all I wanted was a handjob; still my favorite; or a blowbob but her hand holding my penis.
Odd times between the breasts. Just to say even with the best blowjob in the world there could be times the mood or nerve endings look for something else.
Something I did and regretted once in my 20's: I was going to have sex with someone, very into it and being sensitive I masturbated so I can last longer. Big mistake ion my case, the sex never happened, took too long to get hard again. Or maybe he used some desensitizing stuff. Just theories but never know.
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I have to say that I have an oral fetish.
I love, and I do mean LOVE, to use my mouth in a variety of ways when being intimate, not just the "traditional" ways. I love to taste, kiss, suck ... I enjoy the feeling of having things in my mouth, swirling my tongue over and around ... I guess it is because not only do I get the sensation of feeling but also tasting, kind of multi-tasking sensations.
Yeah, this includes a penis, but also fingers, nipples, other body parts ...At the same time though, I can't handle the thought of having something un-clean in my mouth, but a freshly showered man is a feast for my mouth!
When we are having fun and I ask SO to go take a shower ... well, fun is about to get ramped up!I would love to experience that, let it feel good and just enjoy it all.
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What do you do to get "in the mood" when your partner is raring to go and you aren't? Or, what do you do to get your partner there when you're primed and he/she isn't? I am not talking about physical foreplay, I guess I mean more the mental aspect of it. How do you get your mind (or your SO's) on sex when it is everywhere but?
Not to sound cheap, dirty, or whatever,vbut what about giving him a HJ or BJ.
If it's too little use both hands, one one the balls or both on the stiffness.
Stop when he is close, continue when the urge subsides. Do this a few times
and if he is like me he WILL be satisfied. Do this as many times as he can let you do.
He might have a lot once he releases, and it really feels good once it happens!
Might put you in the mod to see him enjoy you pleasing him too.
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If you could do anything your little heart desired sexually without judgment, and with total exceptance (but are to inhibited) what would it be. This is a no-holds no-judgement post. So go wild!
disclaimer-it has to be legal.
Believe it or not, go around and caress, fondle, feel up and caress all the breasts I want on many women all around wherever I go is a biggy of mine. Feels silly but feels true and interesting. Just not respectful to actually do.
I have other ideas but this one is still top. The rest is normal but enjoyable though.
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Quite interested in your post, so about expressing your sexuality, I had a girlfriend who never initiated a thing before.
I would have been VERY happy if she said she feels like having sex for a change.
Or arouse me physically to the point I have to have sex, like getting caressed and touched long enough.
Move so close to him and maybe feel him hard without grinding, he may end up pressing harder to let you feel his erection whether he does it or not.
You ever cuddle? Do it in a way you are in contact with "it" and he will get hard sooner or later. (I apologize if this shocks you but I am a sane man with a normal and healthy sexual desire, maybe high and that work for me)
Sit away on the couch and stretch your legs on his lap, light contact to feel him hard. All graphic, sorry, but to give you ideas to try when / if you are ready to try, you will really express your sexuality without being slutty, make him want you for sex, shock but pleasse him too.
I will take the chance here, you gave oral as a duty before? Not good in my books so he deserves to have lost his erection. Back to the subject, pretend you are tired and lay your head on his lap as you are both dressed, occasional head movement to have a light contact. Therei is only one way to say this for me: it makes me wet and crazy. If you want him crazier give a firmer contact a bit longer, leaving your head against his erection longerbut do not move. His deep desires will stir and he will look at you like never before!
Hope you do not think of me as revolting, I am a normal man who loves a woman who accepts her sexuality and wish you to open to it.
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If it can help, being open is attractive to a normal and generous man.
Saying what you like, what and how it feels good. That is a BIG turn on for me so I know.
Also being touched not out of duty or expectation but voluntary, take your man in your hand and feel him hard for you,
stimulate him, let him stimulate you back or at the same time. Very sexy, not slutty or dirty at all.
Let him tell you what he like you to do at times if you feel ready to go that way.
I probably say things that may be emotionally difficult for you to do but it goes a long way both partner if you let yourself enjoy the giving and receiving in the name of love, becoming free one step at a time.
Try something different within comfort here and there in small dosws.
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Hi, the girl of my heart leave me happy with sex but as a general comment I know that making a woman feel wanted, letting her know you care, even in non sexual ways during the day, the little things, all can go a long way in romantic and sex life, especially if she enjoys you, and the sex you give her too.
Now my weak spot is in the little things that makes a man know she wants sex later on. The body language, how she acts or talks. She is not a lovey touchy person as a result of past experiences but I sure do let her know she means a lot to me by touching her in loving ways when around her, while she is still not used to it but I am patient and love giving her those signs.
The thing for me, if there are little things that say she wants sex, what do I look for? That's not what it's all about, but knowing those things will make her feel looked sfter in different ways also.
Maybe a bit of contact against me in bed, kind of obvious, getting naked in front of me when things are convenient or toucjhing me in an obvious way, obvious again.
What are the non-sexual cues to look for?
My name says it all: Still learning (and wanting to learn)
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It's something that I enjoy letting him do since my man is a boob man, but only on my periods, since there isn't else much going on, and I don't feel used. I just don't like the lube on me, and I have to schedule it around showering...
If your man is like me, some hand or oral stimulation will take care of the lube problem before the action happens between the breasts. I get "leaky" and clear precum leaks out, and spreading it around as lubricant is natural, doesn't have that KY smell, and by the time I get that way I am already aroused, lubricated and good to go.
Take the time to get him to drip or leak and it's goos lubricant. maybe some oral and the saliva helps too.
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Hello all,
I've been busy lately and not on the boards much, but when this question came up I knew exactly where to search for answers!
I am getting involved with a wonderful irishman - I get turned on just listening to his voice, as the irish accent is the hottest thing imaginable. When he calls me "me darlin' ", well, that's enough to get me going. We've had some really hot conversations, and through them I have learned that he is not circumcized.
I've had my share of sex partners in my life, but I have never run into this. I know that sounds ignorant but I have just not ever dealt with this. I've seen some u-porn with uncircumsized guys, so I think I know what I might see, but does anybody have any advice for oral and vaginal sex? I hardly know what to think. How do you work the condom??? I think irish is excited about me being a "virgin" to that, but I have to admit I'm a little (maybe a lot?) uneasy.
He seems like a really exciting guy, and I don't want to delay our physical relationship more than I ordinarily would in the course of dating - but I have to say I'm hesitant, partly because I'm not sure what to expect and partly because . . . well, I guess I'm scared. What if I don't like it? What if it seems gross or unclean? What if . . . what if . . . I really need help and advice from both women who have been in my situation and especially from uncircumcized men. What to do??????
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When you get going I hope you also take the time to stimulate your man's penis whether oral or by hand - I can be very happy by hand - so in the play, just enjoy the fact you enjoy having his penis in your care and control, you make him hard and feel good, and when fully erect the skin over the head should not be too much of an issue anymore.
Instead of focussing on that extra skin be a bit selfish. Feel proud you make him feel good and you make him hard for you, feel his hardness for you. Also take pleasure in how good it feels for you.
Take the time to uncover the head to stimulate it as he grows hard and swells under your care, enjoy the fact he is enjoying your attention. Sounds cheesy? I don't care. While I am circumsized I loved receiving the loving as well as giving it and no shame saying so.
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I was just curious how I could improve my skills while being on top of my boyfriend during sex. He says that he can't ejaculate while I'm on top, is there anything that I could try or do differently to help our situation? Please help me.
To make a man ejaculate there is the physical factor and psychological factor.
Physically you need to make his penis feel good and also if you do something he knows you enjoy for yourself, that you are enjoying him inside you with what you both do. Don't overdo it and come across as fake or trying too much, a turn off.
Psychologically does he have some complex? Domination? etc?
Can he learn you are enjoying him more even when you ejoy him a lot other positions.
I tell you what I lovew with a woman on top. The eye contact, looking at her as she enjoys me inside her. Awesome for me!
First times we had sex that's how it happened and it make something click inside of m, wanting more of her, although she is not used to being loved or wanted in many way, the connection I feel this way.
On the physical I get to caress her everywhere I can, her back, legs, butt, belly, clitoris and area, arms and shoulders, and yes, not neglected are her breasts :-), my favorites. When she orgasms she then stays on me as I caress her softly and she keep me deep inside still hard, wishing I stay hard a long long time.
On the physical for him if you let yourself sink on him to let his penis go as deep as possible and make sure the base of his penis feels a pressure. That can trigger my ejaculation even without thrusting, hopefully same for him.
Let him know how good he feels good inside you when you are down against him, be real about it, that counts too.
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Sooo... anybody else got some role-play sex game experience or ideas?
I still want to experience the "rape" scenario, "forcing" myself on her or "forcing" her to go slong.
Blindfolding in vulnerable, pretend choking or pulling the hair.
Another role play is to be a strnager who takes advantage of her as she is ties, maybe blidfolded so she doesn't know who is having his time with her, on her. In this role play I am into the fact she gets her pleasure as well just like rape where the nice feelings become too much and she ends up taking pleasure letting a man raping her.
A lousy rapist, giving his victim pleasures so she enjoys being raped. Well, in good heart.
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Fake breasts may feel good but are not natural .... not so pleasurable in reality. Take it from a breast lover.
Fake is not as good even harder, and look funny when not done right.
One simple gauge: if your man is hard and wanting you, that's ALL you need t know, he wants you.
This woman I want gets me to wet my underwear before things happen even at my age! (An obsessed perv? Oh well)
Barbies have that look but don't stir those real deep emotions, some figure their looks are all it takes.
Some of those are even unsure about themselves, obsessed about it.
This crush / love of mine is still getting used to me loving her like she never had it before,
she had kids so her body is not perfect but I can't help finding her so sexy and wanting her a lot and wanting to show it even in non sexual ways.
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So I was talking to a friend of mine tonight when it hits me: I have never given a hand job! Blew my friend out of the water too! So we got to talking about other things and it seems to me that the simple things often get neglected, like hand jobs so, what haven't you done?
A few fantasies of mine.
Getting stroked and masturbated at a movie theater, ejaculation included with a condom of course, in my pants.
Penis pointing down along my leg inside pants.
Deep throat
Giving breast orgasm, and I WILL give lots of them, a breast lover here.
Trying some positions still untried.
A silly but harmless fantasy is to go feel lots of breasts for my pleasure to feel them. Not too many would accept that so I can't do that one.
Have my penis pleased by hand as I drive. Done driving BJ already.
Delights for her I won't share, it's her surprise as soon as we get down to it.
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I have several I like. One of them is with my head hanging over the edge of the bed, while I'm laying on my back. It thrusts my breasts up, and I get a slight head rush. It also encourages hubby to grap a leg, or both, and put them on his shoulders. And, if I'm on my tummy, with my head over the bed, I can either arch my back, or slide my arms down, so that they're supporting me on the floor, and do, what I call a "lazy doggie style".
Two I really love:
One is on my back as she moves in a way to make herself feel so good she orgasms just a bit before me
then she rides me to orgasm, stays deep when I ejaculate. I have great eye contact with her which she she is learning to cope with, never had it before I think (never asked yet but I will) Her face expression from pleasure is awesome to me and I caress her breasts and all over where I can, just loving it! When she is done she keeps me deep inside as I ejaculate.
The other way is on her side, she lifts the upper knee up high as she enjoys it, I straddle her lower leg and give her nice thrusting. She came good that way. Loud and taking it all in. I love it when she loves it!!
It allows me to push my self deep inside, felt her cervix and the depth of her vagina. I would have stayed inside her deep so long but I was done orgasming, my penis too sensitive to taske her rocking, I wanted to feel her insides all the way but could take it. Also \i was able to kiss her, caress her breast, belly, back, legs, showing how I feel for her in a physical way. I also gave her slow intercourse in that position in the middle, body to body, telling her how good I feel inside her, loving to make her feel good and being close to her. I want to repeat this often but want to last even longer, feel her depth as she rocks her hips before I orgasm, pushing in deep. Best intercourse physically and feeling connected.
I must say her on top, eye contact means a LOT to me as she feels good. Just really taken with her.
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I love reverse cowgirl - seems to always get my G-Spot. I also LOVE, LOVE the 'X' position for those slow, teasing nights with lots of great clitoral stimulation! Mmmmmmm
If you are still there tell me whast the X position is.
Always learning
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While masturbation might help, I think he's got to learn how to control himself. And you should let him know that you deserve the same pleasure he gets from sex. Cumming early is not as bad as leaving you hanging. When he masturbates he should figure out where tingle begins then stop and give it time to back off, and repeat so that he can learn to stop and focus on everything but that. Kegel's can be done with a small towel thrown across his hard-on and he should be able to do just like a weightlifter but try to hold at the top for 2-3 seconds each time and increase the hold as he gets better. You could even masturbate right in front of him while he is doing them but only after he gets a bit better.
Even laying facing each other you could masturbate each other. You can pick up on those signs also and either stop completely or just hold it still so he can get it back together.
My penis is very sensitive during inyercourse but I am "lucky" this special lady orgasms quickly, but I would love to last longer for her, and my happy pleasure to be inside her too. Learn how to build his endurance and be patient, hope you can take pleasure to take him to this point, and he works with you on this. Read my long post on this thread.
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Probably too fsr in the past to address this but worth a shot for any others concerned.
What can help is some stop and go for him. Done it in the past with a giving girl. Devilish and torturous fun that needs self control.
Can be done different ways, she does some work to build you up so it needs a good woman to do it.
Can be intercourse, BJ, HJ, other ways of orgasming but if masin goal is intercourse for her then use that kind of pleasure.
use internet to research too.
In my case I receive my favorite treat. This "girl" proceeded to caress my in different ways with her hands, stroking my shaft and giving me sweet, soft and slow stimulations to my shaft and head, stopping many times when I told her I was close. She took me close by stroking the base of the shaft and stopping whern almost there, moving her hand up on the shaft and doing the same every time, until she was giving sweet soft rubbing on the head, always not ejaculating, stopping short.
I have to say my penis was aching but very happy. She gave me testicles fondling and stimulation in the lot too.
Men and women, have you ever noticed / felt a man's penis twitch, throb whern very aroused? Also the shaft gets harder, the head swells, the testicles contract tighter. When that hahappens stop what you are doing and just keep it in the position and location it is in, NO movenent and stimulation or he ejaculates!, you will feel the urge subside if you are in tune with his erection, let him tell you also, then when the urge to ejaculate continue as long as the man can take this delightful stimulation. Another trick is to massage and fondle the testicles to loosen them up, mine get very tight and crawl up when ready to shoot, and it helps theurge subside. Not only it feels so good to the man, YOU ARE in control! you are helping him build up endurance AND believe me when it finally happpens the orgasm is quite something. The amount is more than usual too, been there. any man lucky to have such a partner, do not take her for granted. Two way street.
Learn how to work her up. If using the intercourse method, it's better to take the penis out ahead of time, mine for example would be ready to explode and needs out so the wrapping delight from the vagina is absent.
Ladies, be patient and try this.
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If you read my first intro, this special woman I am into actually left me dry the fitst time we met
as we had sex twice on our first intimate time together and I told her, not begging, that while I was very happy
she had her happy time twice (nce for me) i was still needing to get it after I gave her an intercourse orgasm but did not orgasm yet. I would have been happy to receive a BJ, HJ or any kinky play, between the breasts, you name it since another vaginal orgasm would have been too much for her, it saps her ebergy after. Anyway, I still look after her every time we meet becasuse I really care for her and while i don't forget I don't keep tabs .... but can't forget.
If I let the bad me take over I would take her to the edge, let myself orgassm and well, too bad for you sweetie I am done.
But this is not me. Howevermin retrospect you need to take the time to talk with her when you feel she is receptive .. never mind spoiling the moment or mood ....just DO IT .... let her know how it makes you feel, DO IT man, and let me know how it went. If it happens again, knowing what I know now, don't give her what she needs next time unless she gives it to you at the same time or together. Serious. Too bad. Been there and I don't like this no matter how I feel for her.
If a woman can feel it she can relate better. I still have to go through this with my special gal except things have been good so far.
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Not sure where to put this but I've got to write it out. Might get some catharsis from it.
First, a bit of background: My wife had a fairly simple outpatient procedure (to remove a uterine growth) about a week ago which healed up quickly. The doctor's rule was "nothing in the vagina" for two weeks as a precaution against infection. A week ago we hadn't had any sex for 6 weeks so she's a little bit pent up and I'm seriously close to losing my mind. The past couple of days I haven't been able to think straight without a hot and steamy image popping up in my head (and consequently popping up in my pants.)
Fast forward to this morning. I lazily stirred awake about 6am-ish. We were laying face to face and she had draped her top leg over mine in a way where she was almost straddling it. I gave a long stretch and she uttered a little sigh and slowly humped my thigh while she was still in a sleepy twilight. I'm sure she was asleep and unaware of it. I was so turned on and pent up that I felt like I was going to boil with lust. I reached over and caressed the back of her thigh and she twitched a little. I drew designs along her inner thigh all the way to the small of her back. She eventually woke up and rolled over onto her back with a grin.
"You're going to get me in trouble. Doctor said no sex for two weeks."
"No, the doctor said no *penetration*. I can follow doctor's orders."
"Now you're just teasing me."
"Don't worry, I follow through. I'm not gonna leave you hanging."
With that I gave her a chaotic stream of kisses from her mouth, down her neck, chest, then made my way to her first stiff nipple. I paid careful attention to her breasts as she's very sensitive there and I knew it would work her into a lather. A pinch, a slow circular lick, a nibble, a squeeze.... It had been a long time and I could tell she missed it. I had about 45 minutes to work with before her alarm clock decided she needed to get ready for a 12 hour shift. I aimed to give her an orgasm she would remember me by the whole day. My hand had drifted between her thighs, continuing the swirling designs earlier but brushing past her clit every now and then. Every time my fingers made contact she would twitch a little and take a fast breath. I moved my way south and positioned my head between her legs. I nibbled at her thighs and kneaded her butt with both hands. Her own hands were gripping the pillow behind her head in anticipation. I blew a hot breath across the curly tuft of strawberry blond hair on her mound. Even in the dim light coming through the window I could tell her face was blushing red. I took the first labia between my lips and tugged gently, then the other. I swirled them around in my mouth with the slightest bit of suction. I thought she was going to tear her pillow in two so I started nibbling her hood and ran the tip of my tongue under the base of her clit. She moaned and bucked and I kept it up until the pace of her bucking hips became frantic, nearly convulsive. Her clit was really engorged by this time so it was easy to suck it into my mouth into an almost miniature blowjob. Three seconds of that and she was done - her back arched up and she nearly pulled the bedsheet off as she lost control of her lower half. Her knees buckled and she snapped her thighs shut while an orgasm rushed over her.
<pant> "Please <pant> too sensitive <pant> I'm done. <pant>
She rolled to her side still twitching a little and I moved up behind her to spoon since I know that's her favorite part. Her panting slowed to controlled breaths as she drifted back to earth. The alarm clock went off and instinctively her arm reached out to silence it in one swat.
"See? I didn't break doctor's orders." <grin>
"Good."
She began to sit upright and patted my thigh. I was so worked up at that moment that the simple touch could have sent me through the roof. I was sooo ready. Then she got up and said:
"But you didn't include yourself."
"Huh?"
She walked over to the bathroom and started getting ready for work. I was stunned and so horny my erection was aching in pain. I just laid there staring at the ceiling not knowing what to say. Really, WTF? I curled up under the covers, still sleepy but too worked up to doze off. I could hear as she got dressed, walked to the kitchen and eventually walked out the front door. I guess it's just me and some porn today though it doesn't satisfy anymore. I feel like a doormat right now.
Yeah, this includes a penis, but also fingers, nipples, other body parts ...
When we are having fun and I ask SO to go take a shower ... well, fun is about to get ramped up!
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