I am new to this type of forum and here goes. My wife and I have been married for 9 years. We dated for 6 years prior to getting married. We have 2 adorable children and good jobs. Recently I have returned to school in another country and soon wil be reyruning home for good. I have been home for breaks every 4 weeks for three- four days at a time. Our sex lives are pretty normal. Very little in the areas of crazyness. I want to get things revved up again like the way it was when we were in our early to mid 20's. I have always tried the soft sentimental methods of using candles, a vibrator, and some porn. Now she says she likes the acts but not in a real convincing manner to me. It seems like I'm the one who initiates all of these ideas. How can I get her to initiate some of these ideas or get her to come up some ideas of her own. I have talked to her about going out and being creative, thinks about fantasies and the like but she declines the opportunity and we go back to the same old- same old routine. Can someone offer some help that I can help her through this difficulty. Thanks
