Hi Keesha, Try using flavored oils. They come in all different flavores like chocolate, pina colada, strawberry. There great to give you that extra lub. that your needing, and your mate will love the different flavors too. You and your mate can put it on each other, use it as part as your fore play. Also you can try heating oils, if your mate blows on it, it will drive you crazy, you can also use it on your mate.