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I have been talking with my wife (I am in a same-sex relationship) about BDSM, and there seems to be a lot of fear for her, but the gentle talks about what really turns me on continue...however today I took a leap, and playfully and lovingly did whatever she wanted, even if I had to ask :/ Tonite I asked her if it was really that bad, getting her needs and wants met, and me wanting to please her. She said she'd think about it, then later, said "I need you to make me cum, but I want to sleep afterwards, so you are on your own"...WhooHaa!! I guess she thought a little about it! Just the thought of being her slave gives me quivers and shivers of delight. I understand it is about respect, and taking care of each others' needs, but - is there an experienced slave that can give me some pointers on how I could continue to encourage this relationship? I do own a beautiful set of handcuffs, which I use (mostly on myself now ) frequently, in hopes she will get more used to them. Also, I need to know enough about the master/slave relationship to educate her....and I dont think I know nearly enough. I am still working on my wife's fear of hurting me, by showing her what I want, what turns me on, etc. But this slave relationship might be paydirt!

Well...right now I am needing it between 4-8x a day, depending on how much I am able to make love with my wife. (I am in a same-sex relationship, "married" almost 18 years). I usually make love to her about 1-2X a day, but she is great at letting me reach orgasm several times each time. She really only wants it once a day or every other day, but we have it worked out - she makes love to me, and I let her be! Of course then I help myself out at least every day, if not more. I worry about her feeling pressured, though. I really cant get enough....

New to BDSM, and loving it! Need some help - no $$ for toys, have handcuffs, yum! Want badly to dive right in, really play with, and pass, my comfort zone, but my wife is a lot fearful...not saying "No", but doesnt want to hurt me, doesnt want to tell me what to do, etc - all fear based. She is getting comfy with the cuffs, and with very light roughhousing, but I A) need lots of info on how we can play with what we've got (she is not exactly creative), safety issues, and C)how to present this insatiable need I have in a way that she can become comfy with it (she does love to please, and simply adores it when I get loud). I am into submission, even slave relationship, and pain without bloodshed (bruising is fine with me, even yummy). So, any advice and safe links and sites I can visit would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!