strwbryshyness

I have recently been in i guess what you would call an online relationship with a married man. I hear so many times now a days that guys are not happy in their relations. Of course i knew we would never meet and it was only online and on the phone. But thats not the part i need feedback about. Our "relations" were a form of Dom/sub but there was no pain involved it was more mental submission. Im not sure if that makes sense to anyone else. And if that does is there a specific term for that type ? I would like to read more into it or be able to talk to someone else about it. Our 6 month "relations" came to a quick end of course when his wife found out which wasnt a surprise. I dont like the PAIN part of a traditional D/s relation and i am to stubborn for one anyways but if there is a subculture of this alternative way i would like to learn more. I cant think that he was the only one that has that way of thinking. Thanks for any positive feedback sent my way.