Ok this is a question for the ladies, men feel free to reply if you'd like. So I've had this BIG toy well for me it's bigger than I've had both in partners and toys. (9 inch 3 thick) for sometime now. Just looking at it is a complete turn on, but once it's "go time" I find it almost painful to insert. Any ladies have this problem? I do lube it up really good. My question is how do you prepare yourself to take something bigger?