TooTallDenver

Hey Tom, Are you just getting bored and want some excitement or the thought of seeing her with another man is a fantasy? Would you be involved or just watch? This is something I've fantasied about however it's obviously a huge step for a marriage and ensuring that everything will stay the same afterwards.

Howdy online bloggers! As the title suggests, first timer here and trying to get some advice and help to "spice" up things in the bedroom. I'm 33 and have been married to my wife for nearly 10 years now. Love her dearly however when it comes to the bedroom, we are two very different people. She has been with about 5-6 guys before we meet after college and was sexually active since her freshman year. She enjoys sex, however she'd probably give it up completely for a full time house keeper and a fully paid vacation every other month ;). Myself on the other hand, I have been sexually active since I was 15 and have been with nearly 30 women before meeting my wife. Having sex/making love/feeling that animal like sexual energy is something that's always in the forefront of my mind. Don't get me wrong, having sex with my wife is great, however missionary for the last 10 years is running it's course. I have to give her credit that she is trying and every now and then let me do something totally crazy like stick my finger halfway in the backdoor once the juices are really flowing, but that's about it (and we're talking for about a second or two folks). I am straight and love everything about the female body, however I have had other experiences with men and couples and have stretched my sexual limits and loved every second of it. For the last few years, I have read all the blogs and books on how to "spice" things up in the bedroom; handcuffs, games, toys, stranger at a bar, blah blah blah... Every attempt just ends up with a half hearted attempt to make me happy, then she cums, I cum and we go wash up. I'm not suggesting I'm going to go behind her back with another women or try Ashley Madison or something, however I feel like I am drowning in the bedroom. I love her more than anything, however no matter what I try, it feels like I am stuck doing the same thing in the bedroom for the next 50-60 years of my life (god willing). I know for a fact I'm not the only man to go through this and would love some advice or anything else that might be helpful. Obviously I have fantasies of the "threesum" that probably every guy does, however I also have fantasies about seeing her with another man, watching another couple right in front of us and really anything in between. However I'm fully aware that anything like that can cripple a marriage if both parties aren't 100% comfortable with it (I'm not even sure I would be but we're 1000 miles away from having that conversation now anyways). OK, I'll stop rambling on and hope there are some more experienced folks out there that would like to chat/share their experiences. Thanks in advance and hopefully this will be the first post of many!! Much love, Denver