jane323

My guy and I unfortunately have a long distance relationship. So, if it's been a while since we've seen each other...we tend to get a bit edgy... Last winter I flew up to visit him, and we almost wanted to get it on in the airport! But being the mature adults that we are, once we came up for air, we walked calmly to his truck and left the airport...still groping at each other, him with his hand inside by shirt holding onto my breast, and me with my hand on his gorgeous, delicious cock. All of a sudden, he's pulling into this parking area that people use to watch the planes land and take off...he backs the truck up to a tree and it's almost a race to see who can get in the back seat first! He has a big 1 ton diesel 4 door pick up, and it was very cold, so he left the motor running...we were really steaming up the windows and it was one of the most delicious moments in our relationship...and we had just finished, were still gulping air when there's a tapping on the window - Opps! PA State Police! Well, the funny thing is that they had already run the tag, and figured it must be the owner's son...cause no self respecting man 59 years old would be doing this in his truck! Then they decided that if it were the owner that he must be married and be running around on his wife with some young chick...then they saw me and checked my license...both troopers were really good about it - one said he couldn't wait to tell his wife - and the other said he hoped he'd be doing this when he was our age! Good laugh all around (and we had the best sex ever!)... We laughed all the way back to his house - and of course, had more sex!

Yes, there are all kinds of games you can buy...or dream up...you didn't say how old your kids are, so I'm guessing they're still living with you which can make preplanning somewhat difficult. Although we've not had any problems in this area, we do like to play games...and we're quite physical - wrestling, tickling and so on. We also love to play poker - strip poker is always good - or you can play for things other than money, if you know what I mean???? And did you know that Redi Whip aerosol whipped cream now comes in chocolate flavor???? put that around him with a cherry on top and see how he's feeling by the time you eat all of that off!... Above all - keep it fun!

Congratulations! How wonderful that you are now out from under that. Be gentle with yourself. It takes time to heal all those wounds. And be proud of yourself, too, for having the strength to set yourself free. As everyone has said, this is the time for good open communication. I agree with Jen, and the more you can tell your new guy about the past, the better it will be - find a good restaurant where you can have lots of privacy and do your talking there...he needs to know where you're coming from and why - once he understands this, I'm sure he'll meet you more than half way...so he can show you and tell you what he likes - and then find out what you think you might like as I'm sure he'll want to give you pleasures you've never experienced...Good luck, relax and enjoy!

Yes, I'm sorry - Your breathing exercise does work to slow me down some - but, like your partner, if my guy doesn't slow down or stop a bit to help me, I'm afraid, if he continues to move in me, or changes what he's doing, even ever so slightly, I'll gasp as well - and yes, once I've done that , I lose track of my count and will reach orgasm very quickly and happily... Because I reach orgasm so quickly, I can have many orgasms in a very short while. As one would expect, my guy certainly enjoys this and likes to bring me there and keep me there. The only draw back is that I do begin to get tired. So, yes, with your breathing exercise, I can concentrate on the counting, still enjoy everything my guy is doing, and delay my orgasm a bit...and we're having great fun all the while. So, if anyone is having the same problem - quick off the starting line - try this breathing technique and see if it helps you. I can promise that when you lose concentration and do come to orgasm, it will be a dilly! Enjoy!

Thanks, Kathy - yes, life is definitely way too short. We don't take anything for granted and are enjoying every minute we share with each other. Every day we have is a definite blessing. Hard to believe that at almost 60, we're enjoying the best sex of our lives. I get such a kick out of it every time my guy tells someone that...embarrassed me at first, but now I'm damned proud! I guess there's a lot to be said about maturity - and the willingness to be not only spontaneous but adventuresome as well. We're always touching, kissing, teasing in public - so we leave no doubt to any observer that we're very sexual. It's amazing to me how many young couples find us "strange." We always tell them, start practicing now - you don't want to lose out on any time available to you. Our love making is incredible - and this new found JOY of squirting, the sensation that comes with it when I'm cumming is just beyond description. And it's a real turn on to my man - guess he's damned proud that he can make me feel that damned good! Thanks again!

Ok, it's still summer and there's all kinds of great vegetables available...cucumbers, zucchini squash, and of course, there's polish sausages...of course, I certainly prefer the actual vibrator - but if you're trying to hide this from your husband...well, I don't think it's ever a good idea to hide something like this from your spouse. Maybe you all need to consider a trip away somewhere - where you can talk to each other - not in the bedroom - about your sexual likes and dislikes and how much it would help you if he would at least meet you half way - I promise that the first time he uses a vibrator on you and watches you cum and scream in delight while he's manipulating the vibe, watching it disappedar inside you...he'll be so turned on, he'll wonder what took him so long!

Yum-Yum FUN! Heavens! Sounds too good to be true! Thanks Kate and Howard - we're gonna have to try this!

I used to think that all my orgasms had to be vaginal...but now I realize that probably wasn't the case at all. In my later years, I'm finding out that I'm a very physical and sexual person and am enjoying sex now more than ever before. My orgasms usually start like a "erupting" sensation - that builds and builds to a heightened sensation of explotions! Sometimes my entire body shakes, sometimes I think I'm about to pass out - and I'm always extremely sensitive to his touch. He's learned this and believe me - uses it to his advantage, as he can keep having the orgasm - or at least where it's impossible to tell where one ended and another begins. Sure do love it! And yes it surely is wonderful!

Howard! I tried your breathing recommendations...first, I have to say, thankfully, that I'm one of the lucky ones, I guess - and have no problem whatsoever getting turned on! Sometimes, it will be something as simple as a look and a "Hey, woman! You wanna mess around?" All said very softly, in his deep, husky and oh! so sexy voice!!! Anyway - because I can reach orgasm so quickly (most of the time) - I tried your breathing tips, but also showed my man your comments - OK! So much for his stopping to slow me down! Ha! I'm beginning to think the two of you went to the same school! And how nice it was that you did! I think the more orgasms I have, the more he likes it! But who's counting, right?

Howard - I love your perspective! You are so right on! I can think back on some of my earlier experiences - What disasters! But I can't blame the boys as I didn't know what to expect, didn't know what I would like or want - so there wasn't anyway I could tell or show them! I've been in a committed relationship now with an incredible man (59 yrs. old). We've made love in just about every nook and cranny we can find - in just about every position possible - and if it's possible, it just keeps getting better. He is caring, considerate, loves to turn me on and make me scream! We just introduced some toys into our bedroom - and all I can say is WOW! I certainly vote for the older, more experienced man. I will admit we're not into marathon sessions - but we don't need to be. I have multiple orgasms almost every time, and we make love about 4-6 times a week. I love pleasuring him as much as he loves pleasuring me...I think, though, that I'm the one that really gets the most out of all of this...but he's not complaining as when I'm reacting positively to what he's doing to me - he says he gets even more turned on... I wouldn't even think of giving up this man for someone younger who might think he is stronger...no way!

Thank you so much! Actually I wasn't really worried about it, just curious. It was the most wonderfully, incredible experience I've ever had! It's happened several times since then, too - hard to believe we're at the age we are and having such incredible sex. We're so naughty - and enjoying every second! His kids (grown and married) can't believe that we are the way we are! I'm learning more and enjoying it more each day! Thanks again!

At first the thought of that in my mouth was pretty horrific. But when I saw how much pleasure my man received from my doing that, it actually is a real turn on for me, too. Most of the time, I swallow all of it, but he wants to kiss me almost as soon as he cums, and there's always some left in my mouth - and it just sends him crazy! Something about tasting himself in me. And, he loves to go down on me after he's cum in me - and sometimes he'll purposefully cum just before I'm ready to, just so that he can bring me to orgasm orally and then he gets the taste of my cum mixed with his - anyway you look at it - it's wonderful and incredible!

I am very fortunate in that I have an incredible lover - soon to be husband. We are both older - he's 59. We had only been intimate for about a week when we planned a trip away together to St. Louis. The first night there when we made love I had what I want to call the "Grand-daddy" of all orgasms where I had the sensation of a huge waterfall, or geyser - whatever - and he told me that I had ejaculated! Well, I'm close to his age - and I've never heard of that before. Is there such a thing?