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  4. Two questions....

    in Dating and Relationships

    Posted

    I understand the toughness- I almost made the same mistake- I have been married for just under 7 years, we have 2 kids.  We were not communicating, not really talking to each other. It was like having a roommate.  She internalized it and so did I- we never talked about it just went about our daily lives. I came really close to cheating and it hit me to talk to her about what was REALLY going on. I had decided that if these issue we couldn’t work out then it was time to move on. 

    Upon talking and getting everything out on the table, and a huge knock down drag out fight. We came out in the other end with a better understanding of each other then we have ever had before.  It is completely amazing now the difference that transpired when that respect comes back.  

    I cant tell you what to do, all I can do is share my experience.  But in my opinion (especially with kids involved) talk  to her and figure out if it is even salvageable- of it is not then move on. 

     

    You go go and cheat, that hurts her, hurts the kids, in my opinion just makes it worse.  And eventually the marriage is going to be over anyway. 

     

    Again, my two cents

  6. Two questions....

    in Dating and Relationships

    Posted

    That’s tough in my opinion- I have always been of the mindset that if you are going to cheat, then you shouldn’t be married.  If you are that unhappy that you must seek other physical fulfillment then there is a lack of respect for your partner.  

     

    Ibdint know if this willl work in your situation, but just communicate with her . 

    Have you asked why it feels weird for her now? Have you tried to understand where she is coming from? Have you asked Her if she has any idea what would fixnit, it if she even wants it fixed? 

    Indint know the right answer, the only point I am pushing is that marriage is a give and take, respect and respect. 

    Mid she is having a hard time , then it is your duty as her husband to stick by her side and help her through it. If you would rather seek other companionship and she is not worth that effort, then I don’t think y’all should be together. 

     

    Not judgement , just my opinion 

  8. Where’s my G spot?

    in The G-Spot

    Posted

    On 9/21/2018 at 3:35 PM, Lisset Finnien said:

    I am still looking for mine  I know where about it is but I have yet to actually find it.  I’m thinking that the mind blowing orgasms I’ve had over the years perhaps have been g spot orgasms?  But I don’t know...I have g spot toys but they just give me, for the most part, good old regular orgasms, not that there’s anything wrong with the good old fashioned orgasm, but I’d really like to have these gspot orgasms that other woman talk about.......What are your favorite toys for finding that elusive spot? I feel like Im missing out and I’m jealous .....😔

    In my experience, it is straight up against the pubic bone. 

    I always insert my fingers inside and hook my finger upwards- while she lays flat on her back

    for an even better one, I push my palm against her pelvis while I do it. 

  9. Happly married but......

    in The P Spot

    Posted

    I honestly do not consider this normal behavior for me and my perspective- 

    but what is classified as normal? 

    My best advice is stop worrying about what is normal and just do you-  Everyonenis so critical of each other, I wish people would just realize that everyone is free to choose their path- all paths have rewards and consequences.  

     

    i like Ike peanut butter and mayonnaise sandwiches- most people say that is not normal. 

     

    Sorry, done with my rant !

     

    lol

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  15. Trying to Reach My Stubborn Husband

    in Erotic Massage, Meditation, and Deeper Connections

    Posted

    In my opinion, like one of the previous post said, not discussing it is a huge mistake.

     

    is henopen to try new things? Have you told him this is how you feel? 

    We cant fix the problem unless we know it’s there.  Has something come up that has broken the line of trust between you too? Are you comparing this to past experience? 

     

    Just asking some some probing questions, I just posted in another thread that me and my wife had a few years of rocky ground.  Somehow we started openly communicating with each other, once we established a deep trust.  Everything got so much better. 

     

    Sometines we we have to work at it- 

    make a conscious decision to put down the phone and go hug her for a second, or touch her but as she walks by me- build some anticipation through the day- 

    I try to let her know I am noticing her- even at odd times. 

     

    It really takes work to keep that going, but it is really worth it.

  17. Husband low limbido

    in Ask A "Sexpert"

    Posted

    I’m gona be honest, me and my wife just went through something extremely similar- I was not really interested in sex with her for a long time. I would never turn her down but I definatley never initiated.  One night me and her were talking and I decided to open up to her.  for me, my problem was that I didn’t think she was enjoying it, it became something that we just did- it was not pleasurable for me at all.  I would have sex with her just to do my husbandly duties. 

    She was always nagging, we were always fighting.  I told her if she wouldn’t always be mad at me then maybe, and I made a bunch of excuse during this time period.

    After we had this conversation it opened up a lot of misconceptions and miscommunications.  Our sex life now is the best it has ever been since our marriage.  We are exploring each other’s desires and for the first time we are (and I) are experiencing open communication in our marriage and in the bedroom.  

    I know each situation is different, but I at least wanted to share my experience since it is close. 

     

    Hope it it works out for you 

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  18. Trying to get wife to..

    in Introduce Yourself!

    Posted

    On 10/14/2018 at 1:11 PM, Juan said:

    Hi everyone NEW at this. Trying to get my wife to act like antotal slut in bed... how to bring it up without offending her after 4 years of marriage.

    To answer the original question- 

    min my opinions n it comes down to communication. This way for any new ideas.  Open up to your wife and explain what you want.  She would be the best source of informing you the best way to talk about this.  Not anyone outside of that.  There has to be a respect in a relationship.  She may not be into it, and that is something that you will have to respect . Then again she may be. 

     

    I have ave found in my own marriage that anytime something comes up that her or I want the that the other doesn’t, we try and work out some sort of a compromise- granted this situation may be different. 

     

     

    The the general idea I am saying  is just talk with her about it.  It is going to be a little awkward no matter how you do it. 

  20. Hopefully the right place for this (fantasy chat)

    in The Cafe

    Posted

    Don’t want to make anyone mad- this seemed like the right place for this - if not please let me know ! 

     

    I am a white male in my mid late 30’s 
    I am looking for a woman as like an erotic penpal. I’m not talking about vulgar elementary words,(not most of the time anyway ;) )  I am talking about mature,  descriptive, classy , and serious steamy conversations. 
    Would be nice to have someone to discuss ideas with.
     
    I like role play (of all types) (kinky fantasies, some I am just recently finding)
    And I am very open minded
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