I believe I have mislead you all. My boyfriend has many great attributes and has never been forceful about him and I having sex. I don't blame him for wanting a wife who is good in bed. I want a husband who is good at sex also. I have watched three instructional sex videos, they all go over oral sex, positions, and on and on. All this leaves me wondering how much knowledge would be wise to exhibit in the beginning. The advice to fault my boyfriend for that one statement is not appropriate in my case. I believe I have quoted him "out of context"