Thanks gals & guys for the advice! My wife (33 years) was flabbergasted that I would go out on the internet for advice. That's because I very seldom use computers -- I told her "just because I don't use them doesn't mean I don't know where stuff is at, just have other things I want to do with my time." And because with our up bringing SEX is a taboo subject and verrry private, but when in doubt you have to ask someone. Here the title "tootimid" fit, I might work up the courage to ask other questions in the future. Till then, THANK again!!