I'm new to this forum and this type of thing... But here goes... My guy, who I live with and hope to marry, is having a sort of problem with sex. It' very complicated... sometimes it feels like he just doesn't want to be with me, It was not a problem in the past because he's been with many people. With my ex, I never wanted sex because (as bad as this sounds) I wasn't really attracted to him in that "DRive me crazy" way. But, once I got going, the sex was good. But I never initiated it and I could go a long time without it. But with J******, it's different. I'm crazy about him. I think about having sex with him all of the time. The problem started about 7 months ago (when we had only been dating 3 months). I just felt like for us being a new couple, we didn't have sex very often. When I say often I mean we were having it 2 x a week. On St. Patrick's day, I came over and was ready, but he had wasn't, and it became an issue because he said he didn't want to feel pressured into having sex. Since then, I've been scared to initiate it. Everytime it happens, he initiates it. And it gives him a sort of power over me becuase he knows I want it all the time. I have a problem with initiating anyway because of a fear of rejection. I know that being confident is sexy, but I can't get there until I know what it is that turns him on, etc. And I know he doesn't like initiating it all the time. Multiple times, we've had sex and he doesn't get off. He doesn't sleep very well at night either, I don't know if this has any relevance or not. He says he's just not a very sexual person. But I find it hard to believe because a.) he's been with many women, b.) he knows quite a bit. Am I just being paranoid in thinking that he is just not attracted to me... maybe I'm not exciting enough for him... Or maybe I'm the girlfriend who just doesn't "Drive him crazy". Although he says he loves me and wants to marry me. It's been a problem, and we have discussed it numerous times, and it's not even that much of a problem anymore b/c I am getting used to having sex only once or twice a week. He says he knows that he has a problem, that it will get better. But I feel like I am nagging him whenever I want to discuss it, and I know that probably makes him want it less. When I ask him if its me, if he wants anything different, he just says that it's him. But I don't see how it's going to get any better unless he does something to fix, or I do. But, I'm curious if any one has any suggestions. I know he likes new positions and everytime we have sex it has to be different. I'm thinking that he thinks its getting old or something. I am somewhat of a prude, I guess. It's just that it is really hard for me to let go. I want to, but once again, fear of rejection I suppose. I've only been with one other man (my ex) and sometimes I feel inferior, like I don't know enough as I should. That's what I've been doing today. Trying to enlighten myself to the world of sex that is not common for me. Maybe I'm just being insecure. But if someone thinks that I could do something, then just let me know. I'll take any kind of suggestion...