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On 5/31/2021 at 5:50 PM, marka09 said:

Summer1, I know that this is very frustrating for you.  You are a normal sexual person with desires.  Unfortunately you husband is no longer able to perform due to what ever reasons.  That's not a good situation and will continue to erode the bond that you have.  I've seen it many times.  But the couples that I know who have survived, have made decisions jointly.  You don't mention LOVE.  If you love him and he loves you, there will have to be some give and take.  Every solution has its own problems.  Someone mentioned a fuck buddy.  That's one solution but in situations like this, it leads to the vision of love which in turn destroys the marriage. The only way that it works is if your husband is an active participant in the decisions about who, how often, and your safety.  he would need to get to know the person too.  And you would need to resist the feelings of love and think about it only as sex.  

No matter what you decide, I understand your frustration and wish you the very best.  I sincerely hope that you can work it out.  

Thank you for your advise. I did fail to mention love. We do love each other and are both willing to become more active in what we need as a couple. It is just very frustrating that my desires in intimacy can not be met as they used to. 

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On 5/29/2021 at 10:57 PM, Excited said:

Well I certainly know what you are going through. This is not easily answered. Would he object to you having a fuck Buddy?  You are young and have to ask what your capable of living with or should I say without. Only you can know what’s right for you. I would be happy to be your fuck Buddy. That way you could be mine as well. Just thinking about making you cum has me hard. 

We haven’t discussed that, he would probably object. I would like to have one though. Thanks

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No penetration so I purchased some toys. 

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I need advise as to what you would do. Married for 15 years, both in our 40’s, we  have children, but haven’t had sex with my husband for 3 years. He is diabetic and didn’t take care of himself and has gradually not been able to have an erection at all. We have been to numerous doctors and nothing has helped. I do love him but am so frustrated that he can’t fulfill my desires to the point that he doesn’t even have the urge to do anything at all. We have lived like this for the last 3 years and I don’t know what to do.

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