My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time. I’m 30 and he’s 33. We started dating 10 years ago but have been off and on a lot. We’ve been more serious these past 4 or 5 years. I have always, and continue, to constantly go down on him. Every time we have sex and even at random times during the day. I enjoy doing it because I know he enjoys it. He has not gone down on me once. The topic was brought up at least a few years ago and he said that he has had bad experiences in the past and he’s also self conscious about it.
He loves me and wants to build a life with me. I want the same. But I am not sexually satisfied. There is barely any foreplay for me before sex. And I don’t want him to perform oral sex on me if he doesn’t want to because that would be a turn off. What do I do? Accept the fact he’s never going to do it? It’s not fair.
He comes off as a selfish lover but in all other aspects of our relationship he is not like that at all. I don’t know what to do.