catlove165

Thank you all for your words of encourgement. I am really taking your words to heart and am trying my best, but I still don't feel confident enough. I did come up with a plan -- reserving a room for Friday (hb's Bday) and this way I can't back out because they would charge my credit card for any last minute cancellation. I will let you all know if all went well. Thank you all again.

I am 34 years old and have been married for only 3 1/2 months. I am already chicken out of my plans for his birthday. I have changed my mind and decided to take him out to dinner and go with the flow when we come back home--which is usually what we do. Thanks for your advice.

Thanks Mikayla. You really gave me some good advice. I do want to try to go at it slowly because this is not in my character, but I think it is time for me to try something new. My husband and I usually don't have "sexual bag of tricks". He is very supportive and understanding. He might try to ask me to try something new and ask me if I am comfortable with it before even trying, but usually it's nothing freaky or with toys. We don't own any toys; he has never imply on that subject. He has made suggestions such as videotaping each other as we do the deed which I didn't answer him so he left this subject alone or wearing high heels when we are at it(which I have done). I just starting giving him oral sex; he guided me through it--he doesn't complain but I think he might want more like deep throat. I tried once but it made me gag so I never tried again. He has once told me he saw a cover on one of the magazines in the supermarket regarding sex positions and wanted to know if we should buy the magazine so we both can look at it. I just shrugged my shoulders and he never brought it. I really don't know what I am looking for. Something different; Something that I can do without him being the teacher. I mentioned edible panties because he never mentioned that to me. But I think your idea with the whip cream and cherry sounds good. As for trying this on other days of the year, I have really work on my insecurities first. I even made a pact with myself it all went well for his birthday I will try to be like this on the regular basis.

I am new to this board thing. Here's my story--I have a lot of insecurities to deal with. Beginning sexually, I was robbed of my virginity against my will at the age of 13 and always thought that guys wanted one thing from me. My husband was different and took his time with me and my self esteem went sky high, but I still have problems sexually. For example, I don't know what to say such as dirty talk and I would like to try some things my girlfriends talk about such as edible panties and whip cream but am too embarrassed to purchase this. My husband's birthday is coming up and I would like to do something extra special sexually but don't know where to begin or what if I don't know what I am doing. Any advice???