jrinmontco

The general or correct answer to this question is NO. It is not OK (with society) to have a girlfriend if you are legally married. Evervbody's situation is different though. There are couples that are happily married where one partner is no longer interested in sexual activity. That is where the problem is... My situation is such a story...I am happily married to a sweet, wonderful woman that I would not be interested in getting divorced from her because she is not interested in having sex. She's going thru the change of life and has no sex drive at all. Not that she doesn't give me sex at all. She does...just not very often. She gets to a point where she feels guilty for not putting out and she feels sorry for me having to rub one out so she'll let me have my way with her and put up with it just to try and keep me happy. I know a couple that she is in the change too. They are still very much in love. She has no interest in sex and tells him, "Go find a girlfriend if you feel the need. Just leave me alone". So, he did. I have too but my wife does not know. I know it makes me a slime but if I tell her I have a dirty girl on the side, I lose her. If I tell her I need more and she just can't accommodate me, I could lose her. Life can be cruel but there are times when a compromise has to be made. A GF on the side just for the sake of a GF on the side just doesn't seem right.

I'm in the trimmed camp. I love all types of hairdo's but trimmed has been best. It mostly depends on the type of bush a woman has. Coarse thick bush. Thin fine bush. Women with thick coarse pussy hair and are shaven tend to give me a brush burn around my mouth when I give them oral. Some women have a bush from the top of their ass crack in the back all the way around and up to their navel and from hip point to hip point. I just don't like having a long hair stuck at the back of my throat while I'm busy pleasuring my lady. Although I would never turn down a nice sweet pussy that's ready to eat just becuase she looks like a stunt double for Chewbacca down there. I keep the area below my navel trimmed becuase I've noticed my lovers getting a hair from time to time too. The women I've been with that did not trim or shave have all come to my way of thinking and started trimming whatever bush type the have so it is short and neat looking. It allows a better view of the rest of the cooch too. I love the lucky ones that have the cute little bush that is just a tiny patch in the front. No need to shave and it fits nicely into any Bikini-like wrapper. It's all good...

Bumping heads...HA! I remember doing something like that once too. She pretended to be knocked out when her head bounced off the headboard so like your situation I pretended to be alarmed and started to give her mouth-to-muff resuscitation. We both had a great laugh and a hot time.

No. He didn't have an orgasm. The sales guy only gave me a wink and a nod. Probably thinking I was going to use them all myself. What's funny is I have bought sex toys for a number of women that I have never been involved with as well as buying them for my wife and lovers. Very recently, at my wife's request, I bought a dildo vibe for one of the girls my wife works with. A very sexy 36 yr. old Chinese woman with new boobs who's divorced and not seeing anyone. Like a lot of women she and all of the other girls that work with my wife are not going to walk into an Adult Bookstore for such things so I am only happy to help. TTFN JR

Try one of the regular old hard plastic vibs you can get at Spencers Gifts at the Mall. Try a porn movie while you're going at it and try talking about the things the people are doing. You may be surprised at the response you get. Just be prepared to break the ice by making a coment about what you're watching or telling her you would like to try...or have her do...or you would like to do x to her etc... I have found most women will open up about sex if they feel safe and won't be looked at in a funny way. Men are like that too. Start out easy and you may find she wants or needs some really cool things to get off better. You may be pleasantly surprised. Just be ready for anything, good, bad or indifferent.

Ok...my turn to weigh in on this one. As you can see by the replies, there are many ways to go with sex toys. My dirty girl is a bit shy about going to an Adult shop to buy such things. I'm not. Since her old rubber dick was showing signs of extreme wear and tear I volunteered to go and get her some new toys. I knew she enjoyed her rubber dildo and that it was her only source of penetration since her husband doesn't touch her at all. A shiny new fat rubber dick was at the top of the list. When I was looking around the store I was getting dizzy from the variety of toy types, dildos, viberators, plugs, etc... so I bought one of everything I thought she would like. I got her one of the High Tech Cyberskin dongs, looks and feels like a real cock. It's about 8" long and not too fat. I got her one of the regular old hard plastic vibrators you see in the Spencers Gifts catalog, about 7" long and tapered. I got her a set of butt plugs. A small but very powerful vibrator called a Bullitt for her clit. I got her a G spot vibrator. A strap-on harness for the Cyberskin dong. (She wanted that to be able to give me a reaming) I got her one of the Egg vibes that has a cord and controller where she can stick the Egg any place she likes and set the controler to her desire. I spent nearly $400.00 and had enough to fill a small suitcase. We've done all sorts of things with each of these toys and had great fun. When she's alone she likes to put the regular hard plastic vibe or the butt plug in her ass and the Cyberskin dong in her pussy while she goes at her clit with the Bullitt. Says she cums forever that way. She loves to put the bullitt in her pussy on High while I fuck her tight ass. It feels really cool to bump into that thing as I thrust. I can feel it as though it's in the same chute. She loves to use the butt plug on me before she straps on the Cyberskin dong and gives my ass the same as I give hers. You see there are so many toys you can choose from depending on your needs. I would suggest being open and creative with each toy and try new things with new toys. Always keep them clean! Have fun and be safe. JR

Hey Silvia, It' been my experience that most women don't like facials due to having the cum get stuck in their hair or it's just too messy and maybe even gross having the sticky mess all over, etc... Personally I think it's incredibly hot to see gobs of my hot spooge dripping down the cheeks and across the tits of my lover. My wife didn't like it at all the few times I creamed her face until I told her how hot she looks with my load running across her cheeks. Now, if she's on her knees sucking me off, she'll feel me getting ready to shoot and she tilts her head back, opens her mouth real wide and sticks out her tongue and watches me making my "O" face as I let her have it. It is so fucking hot. Some of my the ladies I've been with loved the feeling of their "Prize", my hot jizz, on their face. Most would use my cock to wipe the cum from their cheeks as they continue to suck me after I cum. Before long every drop would be recovered and swallowed dutifully. It's extra hot to watch a horny wench going for every last drop as though it would be her last meal ever. Some women NEED the cum more than others. One lady I see from time to time, she's my dirty girl, can't get enough and she loves to do the kinkiest things. Most times when I've blasted her face, either by my desire or by her command, she will pull me to her so we can make out immediatly after I slather her face. She makes me lick my own cum from her face and share it with her. She'll swallow every bit I feed her before she goes back to suck me again to get the last few drops. I can never refuse her desires or commands because she never refuses me. We're very open and honest with each other and will do ANYTHING the other wants. I guess that makes me her dirty boy... I've had the best and most intense sex of my life with this woman and expect to continue to explore new territory. Like most anything else it may take some getting used to but it can be great fun. Best regards, JR P.S. Thanks for the salty kisses...It's been a while since I've had some from my dirty girl.

This is what worked for me... An old girlfriend and I had discussed our desires/ fantasies to involve another in our lovemaking after a really great session of fucking and sucking. We decided we would ask her one girlfriend that I was hot on and she had admitted to having sex with a number of times back in high school. We invited her girlfriend over for dinner. We had our meal and a few drinks. At one point the girls were talking alone. My girl told her girlfriend about what great sex we had together and that we wanted to explore other avenues such as having another woman join us. The whole situation was talked out and becuase of their sexual past it was easy to get them both signed on to a three-way. I was the lucky guy being sucked by two beautiful, hot chicks at the same time. I watched as two hot chicks sucked each others pussies and doing 69. They took turns riding my cock or sitting on my face and making out with each other...all that good stuff. We discussed what we did and how we felt a number of times afterward and before we did it again later. The three of got together for great sex a few dozen times and had no issues because, I believe, we had talked things over. We decided to take the next step and involve another guy in a three-way too since she was able to continue having sex when I was in need of a "reload" or have some down time between sessions. I have a friend that was divorced. She liked him and thought he was good looking and all that stuff...Again we had him over for dinner and drinks. He and I sat out on the deck talking and I eventually turned the conversation to sex and my own situation. I explained that my girlfriend and I had lots of hot times but were looking for something more. I told him my girl thought he was hot and that we would love to have him join us for some fuckin' and suckin'. At first he seemed reluctant but after he asked a number of questions he warmed to the idea. It was awkward at first but it all seemed nautral. We went inside and informed my girl we were both horny and wanted to ravage her as a tag team! It started with her and I making out. She opened my pants and took out my cock and started sucking me off. My friend was watching her suck my cock. We noticed him rubbing his hard-on so she told him to "get over here and let me suck that thing". She sucked us both to orgasm. I shot my load on her face first and she sucked the last few drops down just before my buddy shot his load all over her face and down across her tits. She finished him off by draining his balls into her belly. He and I took turns eating her pussy and having her suck our cocks to get us hard again. Eventually we were fucking her doggie style and getting sucked depending on which end we were on. She was going wild with a cock in each end. At one point she told us she wanted to see us suck each other off. He seemed only too happy to oblige and I wasn't going to refuse her desire since she had been so willing and open with her girlfriend. She say on my face and watched my buddy suck me off. I wasn't going to tell her that he gave head as good or better than she did. He was able to take my whole length into his mouth at once. Not deepthroat because I'm not that long but right up to his nose pressing on my belly. She was wild with pleasure...white hot! She demanded I suck him off. I was ready by this point. I was so hot I couldn't stand it and actually wanted to have his cock in my mouth. It was actually quite nice. Different and very nice. I've always loved eating pussy and have been curious about sucking cock. I had fooled around with other boys a bit as a kid but nothing like actually having sex. I sucked his cock for a short time before she joined me. We took turns gobbling his knob before he blasted off. She made me finish him off completely and gave me a long deep kiss as I held his load in my mouth. She insisted I swallow some as she did. We kissed and rolled his hot sticky load around between us and eventually swallowed the whole thing. Now... I know I'm not gay. At most Bi-curious, or should I say formerly Bi-curious. All I know is I enjoyed every second of our three-way and looked forward to the next. I was surprised to see that he was so ready and willing to do stuff with me. I know he's not gay but, like me, he's up for great sex with someone else that is just as much as he is. One thing she really went wild over was being fucked in the ass and in her pussy at the same time. I could feel his cock sliding in and out of her pussy as I rammed her ass. We had several get-togethers that went pretty much the same way. We were going to get something together with her girlfriend and my buddy for a four-way but never did. She and I broke up and we have all married since. I don't see either of them any more but I think about her often...him too. Bottom line...be open and discuss fantasies or desires but be careful of the others feelings. It will all fall in place and maybe even surprise you. JR

My wife and I had tried anal sex the first time when we were both out for the evening and had tied a load on. We got home and started foolin' around. Eventually I was behind her doggie style ramming her pussy like it was to be my last ever. I started probing her asshole with my thumb. She didn't care for it at first but I persisted and she just went with it. She was getting into it and began making lots of moans and coo's letting me know she didn't hate it. I dropped a gob of spit on her asshole and pressed my cock inside slightly. I slowly poked in and out taking slightly longer strokes to let her get used to having my fat cock in the new hole. Soon her ass loosened and my cock slid fully into her stinkhole. She let out several low groans and moans as I worked up to a full ass fucking. I came inside her and we cleaned up after catching our breath. The next day while we were out for dinner we discussed the experience. She said it hurt at first but it soon felt no different than getting it in her pussy except it was more intense. She reluctantly admitted that she had an orgasm from getting it in her ass when she NEVER had an orgasm getting it in her pussy. She only has orgasms when I go down on her... She didn't like having to shit out my cum and said her butthole was uncomfortable for a while. I asked her if it was anything like the first time she had vaginal sex...She said it was almost exactly the same. It hurt at first, felt good after a while, her pussy was sore for a while, etc... I reasoned, anal sex would be no different than vaginal sex...she would get used to accepting a cock in her ass the same way she did accepting a cock in her pussy. Eventually she would get used to having her pooper invaded and actually want to have her ass fucked as much as she wants her pussy fucked. This is exactly how it all went...Now anal sex is part of our love making. Sometimes we just go down on each other. Sometimes we just do it Missionary style. Sometimes we go around the world and do every position and hole we can think of. My favorite routine is...I lay on the bed with my head and back propped up on pillows and I spread my legs so she can get between them and go down on me. She works my cock for a half hour before I fill her mouth with a nice hot load. Then she assumes the same position I had and I go down on her and make her cum. I continue to eat her pussy for a while after she orgasms to bring her down gently then we do a 69 for a while so she can suck me hard again. (there's nothing like having a mouth full of wet pussy and having a nice hot mouth on my cock) I then lay her down and get on top so I can fuck her wet, sensitive pussy into a lather. Just before I cum, I pull out and go back to eating her sloppy wet pussy. After a short time, my cock has calmed down but is still hard I go back to fucking the hell out of her pussy. I will go back and forth like that until I run out of positions for fucking and her pussy is totally fucked out, loose and sloppy wet. I will get her on her hands and knees at the edge of the bed so I can stand at the edge of the bed behind her and fuck her pussy for a while longer. I will probe her ass with my thumb to get her ready for anal entry. By this time her pussy and her ass is so worked up and loose that my cock will slide all the way in on the first push. I enter her ass gently and let her relax her ass as I start pumping her slowly. I listen to her reactions as I go faster and harder. Eventually she's howling with pleasure as I fuck her to orgasms that she wouldn't have getting it in her pussy. She loves being able to have orgasms during intercourse. I will sometimes cum inside her ass and other times cum all over her ass and back as I fuck her ass crack as I shoot. I love seeing her gaping asshole when I pull out of her. I love seeing my puddle of cum run from her ass crack down into gaping asshole. She still feels a slight discomfort after anal sex but the total sensation and orgasms make it all worthwhile. The choice of lube is up to your preference but spit works well under some situations. The best system I have used is... start with KY then add Wet or Astroglide. This routine may work for you too. I have found the best thing is to discuss the act and come to an agreement if she isn't up for it initially. My wife opened up after she heard how much I enjoyed it. I explained the difference between the feeling of her mouth on my cock, her pussy on my cock and having her ass wrapped around my cock. She wanted to please me by letting me fuck her ass and ended up being pleased in a number of ways herself. We both enjoy a good ass fuck from time to time. I'm thinking of letting her fuck my ass with one of her dildo's to see for myself what she enjoys so much and to let her feel what it's like to be the "fucker" for once. JR

I for one love to eat pussy. I love the feel of a woman. Soft and sweet. I love the tender flesh and the musk. I love the reactions when I'm hitting all the right spots. I love when she cums and her body tightens and shakes... I like to start with making out. I wouk my way down to her pussy and start by licking all arounf the hole and inner lips. I stay away from her clit for a while and concentrate on just licking all over her wet flesh and sucking her lips into my mouth and stretching them as I suck. I tongue fuck her hole and stick it as far up inside as I can. When she's bucking and moaning I'll slip my finger inside her hole and rub her G spot. (It's in the front wall of her pussy guys. Just behind the bush on the inside. It will feel like a firm knob of flesh about the size of the tip of your thumb) I'll move my licking and tongue rubbing to her clit as well as the rest of her pussy as I listen for her reaction to what I'm doing. Her moans let me know which move makes her fell best. I suck, lick and tongue fuck her into a wet mess and soon I can feel her G spot itghten up when she is nearing her orgasm. As she cums I concentrate my attention on her clit and the move she made the most noise from. I will back off as her orgasm subsides and go more gently to bring her down slowly. I will continue eating her until she cums as many times as she can stand or until she begs me to fuck her. I'll then fuck her sloppy hole just until I feel my own orgasm coming. I then go back to eat her again and make her cum a couple more times. Sometimes she'll cum when I'm fucking her. I go back and forth between eating her and fucking her until she's totally played out. I'll move around so we can do a 69. There's nothing like having a mouth full of sweet pussy and having a hot mouth on my cock! I then will get her on her hands and knees, doggie style, and fuck the hell out of her from behind. By this time she's totally fucked out and can't do anything but let me have my way. Lately I've been finishing by giving it to her in the ass. She protests a bit at first but when I get going she really goes wild making all kinds of noises, groans and moans. I know she enjoys it but I think she's a bit embarrased to admit that she likes getting fucked in her ass. She calls me Tiger! Try some of or all of these things and I believe you love it too. It all should only take and hour or so.

Silvia, I love to hear when a woman wants to explore new territory. It'll never work if he's not into it in the first place but... My wife and I do a titty fuck from time to time. Like you she's a 38C and it works perfectly for us. She'll go down on me for a bit just because she likes to and she knows I love it. Eventually I'll get my self into position to do her tits. Most times she'll sit up on the edge of the bed and I'll stand in front of her. She uses Wet, or Joy Jelly or K-Y...whatever works for you. Spit works too. She will hold her breasts firmly together so I can pump away. I hold her head against my chest as I drill her chest and eventually I cum there on her chest(pearl necklace) or across her tits, sometimes I give her a facial. Either way she looks so hot with my cum dripping from her chest, tits or especially her face. It's simple enough but I think the position makes the biggest difference. You both need to be comfortable to get the most enjoyment.

Sorry the first try at reply was not too good... I've had many BJ's from all of my lovers. Some swallow, some don't. My wife does not...she doesn't like the taste or the feel of cum in her throat or in her belly. I've had girlfriends that loved to give head and loved to swallow my cum. I have experimented with the taste being influenced by the things I have eaten. I have settled on Pineapple Juice! It seems Pineapple juice does make my jiz taste better. I know this because I'm not afraid to taste it myself. I have been told that my cum does taste better when I'n been drinking two small cans each day for at least three days, one in the AM and one in the PM. Try it. I think it will get you past the yuckie taste part of it.