[Sex Advice...well Emotional Too]

Hey guys....I havent posted on these boards since before I was married....but I have been married now since december and i think i have a situation. I just wanted to present it and maybe get some advice please.

We have been married about 6 months now. The intimacy has been up and down.

Alotmore Im feeling like she doesnt like me anymore....seems like nothing is good enough....not just sexually but sex falls into this category.

EX: I usually work evenings and when she gets home and I am home, Almost the first thing she does is complain about somthing I didnt do....even if I did alot ofother things throught the day that where fruitful.

And this is kinda whereI feel the intimacy problems are.

I am attracted to my wife physically but her lackof emotional affection is a GREAT turn OFF. She doesnt want me to masturbate but also sometimes just doesnt feel like helping out either. I ask her what is wrong and she wont tell me alot(it usually is somthing I would consider petty, althoughI take an interest) and I would love for her to ask ME what I think or "what is wrong" but she just doesnt ask or seem to care.

She has NEVER seduced me or expressed feelings of sexual excitment (when she wants to have sex, we just "have sex" and I do alot of the work).

She wont talk about sexual feelings or fantasies or desires or "fetishes"...I never used to think she was so "reserved" because it was so hard tokeep our hand soff of each other before we where married.

She acts very selfish and not "giving" like I feel I act(giving).

Sometimes I know when she has already orgasmed and is just waiting for me...she just wants to be done ...like impatient.

Sex has gotten boring almost because shedoesnt seem to be involved...she just waits for me to do whatever I do and shes just along for the ride....wont take control or wont tell me what she wants or act sexually involved.

I love my wife, thats why i married her, but recently it has been more and more ofa struggle to not look at pornography or to keepmy mind/eyes from wandering. I dont want to be like this but there are times when I cant sleepat night and my mind just runs rampant.

Also...anytimeI suggest that we need to talk about things she turns VERY defensive or just gets that deer in the headlight look and says NOTHING.

I am commited to this marriage and want it to work for both of us.

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Is there a way to get her to loosen up? Relax? Share? Be interested?

I have even been thinking about(sorry...we dont drink) trying to get her drunk just so shell open up and lose some reservation or somthing.

I just want to have a healthy and intimate, sharing sex life.

I would love for her to show interst in sex more, maybe try a toy or two, but she doesnt even want to go to the store to look....just look

I dont want whips chains whistles and yoyos, but SOMTHING or ANYTHING other than the Status Quo would be AWESOME.

Please and thank you

God bless

BeyondBlessed

[How To Get Her To Open Up?]

I guess I make things sound worse than they really are.

She is my best friend first and foremost, and we compliment each other very well....we both hold very similar spiritual beiefs (which play a great role in our lives).

We have alot of fun together and we have the same goals with regards to children, morals, principle, and ethics.

We abstained(mostly) from sexual intercourse before we where married due to our beliefs, and are now begining to find out each others sexual torts so to speak.

I feel that her rigidity is due alot to the "stigma" that sex is dirty...or "wrong" for a christian woman to explore sexuality.

Its not that she doesnt want to please me...because I know that she really does...I just think she wont allow herself to be creative or imaginative.

We dont believe in divorce and I will not give up on my marriage....ever.

Thats a promise I made to myself, her, and to God....but I am willing to try and work on the things that i see as rough areas.

When we have sex or make love it is a great experience and we both experience great orgams or climaxes...sex is satifying...I just dont want to feellimitedto what we can do.

I would just like some advice on how I might be able to approach hermore effectivly about getting her to explore her own sexual feelings and fantasies.

Thank you

God bless

-BeyondBlessed

[How To Get Her To Open Up?]

Hey yall...its been a long time hasnt it?

Well....life has been crazy and with planning a wedding, marriage, moving 200 miles, and searching for new jobs its been hectic...but Imstill here.

I do however havea question or two.

I am very open to sexuality(between husbands and wives)

But my wife doesnt seem to be

I wouldnt care ifshe wanted to perform anal on me because I would love that she was opening upto things....even if I dont have a real desire to do it.

But the thing is....she is not explorative at all....doesnt want anal, wont even touch her own genitals.

She has tried anal before with someone who was very uninformed and had a bad experienceI guess....plus she thinks it gross or dirty.

I try to get her to read articles on this board but she thinks "this board" is nothing more than filthy porn freaks that have no knowledgable insight.....she is very close minded.

How can I get her to open up?

She said we could try anal once...but she was so uptight I doubt I could have squeezed in a finger let alone my penis.

She is dead set that it will hurt even though I know personally that one can relax enough to fit somthing the size of a penis in the rectum without pain....even enjoy it.

its not just about anal sex but anything really....shes not spontaneous...or imaginative....sometimes during sex she just stares at me...kinda in a weird creepy way...or cant/doesnt read my body language. I try and tell her these things(hints) or get her to open up but she just over-reacts and thinks that Im telling her that she does everything wrong.

She doesnt seem like she listens....just stone faced dead set in her ways.

What can I tell her....or show her?

Hints...help?

Please and thank you

God bless

-BeyondBlessed

[A Question Of Time]

Yes, we have hear of this before. Stop thinking about your cock, and just have fun. The problem is between your ears, and whatever subconscious fears you have about getting a girl pregnant, having children, or whatever, its interfering with your ability to relax and climax. Sex is about having fun. Not working hard for one or two hours. I didn't hear you say what you two were doing during those long sessions. In my humble experience, when I tried the hardest to cum, It was the last thing I could do. When I simply relaxed, laughed and played with my lover, things would work out. Sometimes, I found that I had to lose my erection, then go to the bathroom and empty my bladder, before I could climax, particularly after a long session where I had not cum at least once. Your brain could be worrying about you peeing in her vagina, and embarrassing you, so if you are feeling full, stop and take a pee. She doesn't want you to be uncomfortable during sex, particularly if it is going to make it impossible for you to cum. Stamina is one thing, but not cuming is often viewed by women as an insult to their sexuality.

One last thought: If you are still having trouble cuming, have your gf stick her finger up your ass and massage your prostate gland. That will almost always trigger your climax, whether you are ready or not. If she thinks the very idea of this is gross, simply talk to her about it. Keeping the prostate gland healthy is a good way to avoid prostate problems, and cancer, the most common cancer suffered by men. She can always wear a condom when she does this, to help keeping her hands clean.

Nah..I think she'd totally do it.

Shes gonna be a nurse and shes gonna have to do that kinda thing for a living.

I just dont know if Id be all about a finger in my butt...butt ya never know...hehe.

You also bring up a good point about the peeing thing, I will work up a good pee during sexual activities.

maybe thats it...i just dont ever go pee because I dont want to stop and lose my erection

Hmm

Thanks for the insight...you rock the board Howard

-BeyondBlessed

[A Question Of Time]

This seems wierd to me...

I have only ever had sex with my current fiance and it was about two months ago.

My first time ever having sex, she came in about 10 minutes, but I didnt...we had sex for probably about an hour...maybe a little longer and then stopped because we where tired and she said she was sore.

The fastest i have ever gotten off with help from another person was about 15 minutes...for some reason I last a really long time. we have had sex for two hours before, Ive lasted through one hour blowjobs too...i dont get it

Its not that its not stimulating to me...it is...I just last...I do sometimes lose my erection after a while though.

Does anyone think this is odd...has anyone heard of this before?

Is there a way to make me more sensitive?...i know...sounds strange that a man would be asking that.

God bless

-BeyondBlessed

[Over Masturbation?...draining Physically?]

Hey yall...its been a while since mylast post but school and life have just been crazy.

But...I was reading some articles online and came across this one

http://www.herballove.com/article.asp?art=217

Copy and past it into your browser and lemme know what you think, because I thought that you couldnt masturbate too much...but i have been having the symptoms that the article describes and masturbate daily.

I hate that Im not as sharp as I once was...but maybe its just stress...i dunno

But also...I was wondering if anyone has ever noticed a change in consitancy of semen.

I hear alot of people talk about semen being thick...more like mucous...but mine is thinner

Anyone got any ideas?

Please and thank you

God bless

-BeyondBlessed

[Orgasm Enhancement]

I'll look into this....and you make a good point.

Thank you

God bless

-BeyondBlessed

[Orgasm Enhancement]

Lately I have had quite a few PM from both women and men who want to know how to increase their orgasm potential or the orgasm potential for their women! I just love that people are taking control of their sex! I have already reviewed a product that pleasantly surprised me in this area - and I thought I would post it here in case some newbies that come to the forum miss it on the main page - or if the regulars wanted to see it here!

It is the VIVA SEXUAL ENHANCEMENT CREAM FOR WOMEN, and I can't express enough how pleasantly surprised I was by this product! Those of you who "know me" through the site, know I DO NOT have problems orgasming, so I doubted that this product would help me - WRONG - this product can benefit ANYBODY - well, any WOMAN!

You say woman and it says "for women"....but with the erectile tissues of the penis and clitoris being the same, and vasocongestion both having to occur for erectile quality and enhancment, than why wouldnt it work for men too?

Seems to me like the girls just dont want to share the fun...lol

Just a thought

God bless

-BeyondBlessed

[Erection Problems..please Help]

Few ideas here for you:

First, have you been checked for Diabetes? Diabetes can cause circulatory problems, numbness, and erection problems. Maybe get checked for that.

Second, I know how religious you are, you have talked a lot about waiting for marriage to have sex. Now, I know you have just popped the question, but that isn't exactly marriage. Perhaps you are guilty in your heart (which I personally don't feel you should be) and as a result, you are psychologically sabotaging yourself. Just an idea.

Third, it is not uncommon for new lovers to have performance anxiety. IF you are nervous about satisfying your lover, and making her happy, you may just be loosing your hardness due to that.

If you are really concerned, talk to a doctor. It is important to cover your bases. In the meantime, try to relax, enjoy sex for what it is. Enjoy being together. If you still have problems, try a cock ring - that will help to keep the blood in your penis, and your erection harder. We can talk about that if you want. LEt me know.

Mikayla

Thank you for your reply Mikayla...

I went to see my doctor about an hour ago cause i was freakin out....rightfully so...i wait 21 years to do it now the plumbing doesnt cooperate...

But she thinks that its caused by all the stress in my life that my hormone levels are all out of wack

Ive got about 4 different part time jobs depending on the day of the week and 4 full-time classes as well as trying to balance the otehr chores of life like house work, shopping, bills, etc....and the recent stress of proposing to my GF(now fiance)....oh...BTW...You helped on that one mikayla...I borrowed the flowersidea and gave it a twist....thank you.

As for the personal convictions.....i have done alot of soul searching and come to feel that my level of commitment, in my heart and my spirit to her far surpasses any state issued certificate, and that I am mature enough emotionally, spiritually, and physically to be intimate with her.

i dont regret anything that i have done, because it was done with a pure heart and in love, and I dont feel conviction from God. Thank you for your concern.

The Doc is prescribing somthing i cant remember the name of right now...but its sposed to help with the hormone levels and make me more regular again...cause I was having other troubles too..like insomnia, jitteriness, and joint pains. But...check this out ...lo and behold there could or dould not be sexual side effects with the drug...but she thinks that as my body regulates itself again I wont have any adverse effects as I am taking no other meds and am pretty healthy.

i am also going for blood work tomorrow morning just to be safe.

She also leaned to believe that the stress and preformance anxiety contributed as well as spiritual reasons...so we'll see when these darn drugs kick in...I just got worried for a sec.

God bless

Beyondblessed

Youre a blessing Mikayla

[Dull Sex Life]

everything else in the realtionship is perfect I have two children that are 6 and 4 they are not his but he takes care of them like they are(I had a one year old and was pregnant when we met). Yeah six years is a long time and he tells me he loves me and shows me with the kids that he loves all of but his reason for not getting married is that there is no good reason to really get married( oh yeah congrats on your big step) its not like he really takes it from me its just that i be sleep and he might wake me to have sex but I 'll still be sleepy,or say if hes out with his boys and don't gets in to late and he wakes me to have sex i roll over and wake up to have sex. Yeah true enough i am tired of his foolishness but im thinking that it could be that this is the first real relationshp that he has been in and he doesn't know how to handle it or he does not know what to do but before me he tole me that all the other girls he ever talked to was just for a couple of days never longer than a week so im suprised he stayed with me pass the first year knowing the way his other relationships went. I don't think its the kids cause they sleep at night and we could do everything we want to do but he says hes just too tired at night and every other weekend they are gone to grannys house. Before I really decide to quit this relationship I wanna try and make somthing work beside the suggestions you all have given me which by the way are very good opinions. Any suggestions on getting things back hot again before i decide to give up.

well.....anything that turns a guy on alot should help...but sounds like alot of the problem hinges on him.

But if you want to try....talking dirty is ALWAYS a good way to rouse a guy up...literally...suprising him in unexpected places...like work...if you want to show up where he works and have a quickie...exciting...the bedroom can loose its flair...cause its so common.

Learn a few new tricks too...theres alot of info on this site and alot of pros here...a good way to earn a guys respect is deepthroating....practice and show him...learn to do it seamlessly too...good things to practice on are bananas with flavored condoms(I tried doingn it once and got turned on...and Im straight as an arrow )....thatll spark him FO'SHO...if that doesnt do it ...end it....hes an ice cube.

Good luck and God Bless

-BeyondBlessed

[Erection Problems..please Help]

Ok..letme go over who I am first.

I am a 21 year old male, college student, works part time and balances family relationships with everything else in life...pretty busy.

I just proposed to my girlfriend friday and she said yes...she is 20.

I had sex for the first time with her friday...with anyone for that matter...at 21 mind you.

But have been having a few problems and am scared to death now.

i am very attracted to her physically and mentally...emotionally..all ways.

We had had oral sex before, and it was never a problem...but...she sometimes would have to hold the base of my erection to keep me up...not that i wasnt aroused or turned on...i was....

But when we made love i had a hard time acheiving erections...i was turned on, excited,...the whole bit.

And it has never been a problem before..until now.

I used to get erection so hard you could cut glass with them...I mean felt like they would burst...could hang stuff from them...like a pair of shoes...lol...but maybe I have mentally trained myself over the years to keep erections down...I mean...who wants to be pitchin a huge tent in class or at work?

also we tried to behave ourselves for so long and I tried to be a gentleman that i would try hard mentally to subdue sexual feelings so that we didnt go further than we had set our limits.

Also when I masturbate now i can achieve orgasm at onyl about 80% erection...it oesnt have to be hard as a rock..and I dont know how to make it that hard....As of right now I havent had an erection in 3 days....that i know of....but also havent had alot of sexual desire either...I used to have ALOT..ALOTALOT

But now I am not performing like I want to...and I am only 21...and scared.

also...I might be having some circulation problems...when she was on me...riding me...my legs would get ice cold...dont know why...i try and take supplements like l-arganine and b-6 and b12....niacin.

I dont get to work out vigorously in the winter because I just cant work out in the cold so I have stopped running...

If anyone has any advice or suggestions please letme know...feel free to share....

one scared young man

God bless

-BeyondBlessed

[Mikayla's Special Poll For The Men!]

First thing I notice is the way she presents herself without saying anything...her smile...her confidence...her warmness...her realness.

If she seems real fake and uninterested...shallow and vain its mega turn off time.

After that I notice the shape of her jaw line, her posture...shoulders..the way she folds her hands.

But first and foremost...smile...sexiest thing on a woman...then eyes.

And if we are talking other physical features here...legs and tummy...then her neck.

-God bless

-BeyondBlessed

[Dull Sex Life]

I have a few problems, me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 6 years now, it will be 6 years on May 15. When we first started going out he could last a long time and we had sex everywhere, parks, sofas, stairs,cars, all different positions in the bed and it was great but now he can't even last even 3 min. The only way he likes it is for him to be on top, he can't handle anything else. Then I thought we needed to spice things up so I started giving him oral and that made things better for him. yeah true enough when i give it to him I get wet but he doesn't do anything about it . I want him to try and give me oral but he thinks its so nasty that if he trys it that his tounge will turn colors and fall off. He don't like the thought of touching me either he says all coochie smells the same and he does not want the smell on his fingers. so I get no play there either. What am I to do?

I don't know what's going on with him and when it comes to talkin about sex or our relationship he gets mad and starts an argument so I don't bring it up any more I just go with the flow but im a little tired of going with the flow I finally let him try the anal thing. The anal thing was his idea a long time ago and I just got comfortable about a year ago to let him try it and when he did I liked it and he liked it too,but now he doesn't want to do it anymore he says he has to do too much when having sex with me. I do everything he asks to please him but he won't please me but with 3 minutes of sex and that's not enough for me.and oh yeah he sex drive is funny because he only wants in early in the morning and when he asks for it im half sleep so I don't be horny but he does and he does nothing to get me in the mood, but jumps on top of me and get his nut and go about his day but when im horny its a problem about me wantins sex all the time. SOME ONE PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!

Ok...i dont really have a womans perspective here...but I am in a relationship that is healthy and filled with love for each other.

let me get this straight...he gets oral and doesnt give?...he wont finger/massage you? You had anal sex and he doesnt want it anymore? and last but not least he TAKES sex from you when you dont want it? I think thats borderline rape...and soundslike he doesnt reallycare about your sexual desires.

Sounds like hes a selfish prick if you ask me...please dont be offended by what i say but that just burns my butt. How can you love someone enough to stay with them in commitment for 6 years and not want to make em squirm...writh in pleasure...taste them?....LOVE THEM...i cant.

I dont know what taste or smell hes talking about but if you are healthy there isnt much of either..matter of fact...i like what little taste and smell there is.

You are half of the relationship, just like he is and if you arent receiving what you are giving...getting what you need and want from/with him ...then ask yourself...is the relationship equal or one sided?

If he isnt willing to talk about it openly, if he starts arguments when you bring it up, if he wont open up...than he needs to ....simple as that. relationships involve the giving of two people to one cause.

If its only you giving than its not a relationship...is everything else healthy but the sex life?

Six years is a long time for a couple to just be boyfriend and girlfriend...how serious is he about the relationship?

Maybe im just full of fire and fervor about relationships because I am now engaged to be married to the love of my life as of last friday...but it seems to me that a few changes need to be made. you need to communicate with him, and if he refuses give an ultimatum.

Please let me know what you think of what i say and let me know what happens.

God bless

-BeyondBlessed

[What Really Turns Guys On?]

The single sexiest thing a girl can do is love me and smile. My girl is sooo wonderful and I just cant imagine why she wants me but shes tells me time and time again that I am everything to her.

Sexy/turn on for me is a great honest heart, confidence, a nice happy smile and of course her butt....but thats another story.

i am so turned on everytime she says she loves me I wanna either A: Die, or B: Rip her clothes off and show her how much I love her back.

But if youre asking for more concrete stuff....sexy to me is when a girl knows what she wants and takes it from you...like if shes in the mood..she doesnt say "lets have sex", she just walks up, undoes your pants, pulls you to the floor and gets her fill...lol...yes...pun intended.

-BeyondBlessed

[How To Take Naked Pictures...]

Some of the sexiest pictures I've seen are not totally nude. One of my favs is of a "friend" who sent me a pic of him with his cowboy hat pulled over his face, no shirt on, hands in the pocket of his jeans and a hint of his cock peeking out from behind the unzipped zipper. Curiosity of the unseen adds to wanting to get what's hidden inside those jeans and that makes me HOT!!

Or how about a pic of you just out of the shower, towel also being used seductively?? Water running down a man's body also gives me those erotic chills that make my nips perk with excitement!

Thats some good stuff....thank you..I'll def give it a try...imjust not real keen on how women work cause Ive been a man my whole life...lol

God bless

BeyondBlessed

[A Sex Oddity...this Is Major Tom To Ground Control.....]

Not wanting to start a war in your household, but why not join her in the shower, where you can give her a shoulder and back massage, wash her back, her front, her pits, and whatever happens, happens? A morning shower with the SO is always a great way to start any day, and it saves some water, too.

Oh boy would I ever love to but she lives say...200 miles away right now and we only get to see each other when we have the time to travel and visit...but that will all change soon.

When we do visit we try and spend alot of quality time together, building and strengthening our relationship with each other and with God. We try and not let our time together focus alot on physical matters but thats hard to do so we just go with what happens....but i have showered with her before...twas amazing to say the least...

Thanks for the advice though

God Bless

-BeyondBlessed

[A Sex Oddity...this Is Major Tom To Ground Control.....]

One guy asked me to pee on him and another used to love to lick my armpits during sex. The armpit licking wasn't too bad. I just had to make sure I didn't put on deoderant after my shower (doesn't taste good at all) and for some reason it turned me on. Oh, he loved how soft the skin is in my armpit.

I beg my GF to not wear deodorant so I can lick her armpits...I love how soft it is and the way the sweat can taste...talk about pheremones....or however you smell...ooops...spell it.

She never has cause she always just forgets and puts it on in the morning...soo....I gotta catch her early.

-BeyondBlessed

[How To Take Naked Pictures...]

ok....so for past few minutes Ive been trying to take some naked pictures of myself to send to my GF cause she lives so far away and we never get to see each other.

But Ive been having some trouble....the camera is on it best resolution setting and still looks blurry.

Also...Its friggin hard to take pictures of yourself....and when you want em to be nakled you cant just call up a close friend and say...hey pal...come take naked pics of me...lol

Does anyone have any suggestions?

Also...what in the world do women find sexy?...guys are easy...naked = sexy...clothed = sexy...lingerie = sexy...

But girls are a whole nother story....What is sexy?...what can i do, that I can send her a pic of, that will make her soak her shorts as soon as she sees it?

Please and thank you

-BeyondBlessed

[How Do You Orgasm?]

Last night my HB and I were having a really hot night of sex, and I was being my usual selfish vixen self, and I was prolonging my first orgasm - I do this often even though I am multi-orgasmic. I do this because the first one can sometimes be the biggest, especially if I can feel the build-up coming.

He was performing oral sex on me, which was getting me pretty hot, and then it started - my weakness - the pussy slaps! I am such a sucker for this! He will just lightly slap, slap, slap my pussy and then lick some more, then slap, slap, slap....it is such a tremendous feeling when he does it! I can feel my clit engourging with excitement, my legs will spread wider (if that is possible), I start to say the nastiest things I can think of, I start to beg for him to make me cum, it is so intense and feels so good that by the time I cum my whole body is shaking and my legs are tensing and I am saying the nastiest thing and I am just oozing all over....and then I start laughing.....

When I cum this hard I almost always start laughing (just a spontaneous response of release from my body)! Last night I was laughing so hard I couldn't stop....laughing and then I came again during the laughing...which made me cum again.

Now, I know I have been on this site WAY too much, because after I calmed down and started on to other things I thought, I should post a topic that asks if other women have "laughing" fits during orgasm, and what other things happen to them....

So there we have it. I have just confessed that while I am orgasming I will do a lot of things, nasty talking, begging, squirming, spreading my legs as wide as I can, shaking, trembling, heavy breathing, and of course....laughing. I am interested in some of the different ways we all orgasm. This is just one of the ways I do, so how do the rest of you????

Please share....

Mikayla

Ok...IM game...but Im personally not that entertaining...just writhing and breathing "oh my gosh and I love you"....but my girlfriend turns me on so much when she O's because she screams and gasp very loud, and shakes pretty hard and thrusts her pelvis into my face...I love it....and afterwards she gets the shakes and cant stop shaking and she always covers her face with her hands and she cant move...its soo awesome...of course theres the "oh my gosh Im gonna cum" bursts of loudness that are very reassuring,lets me know Im doing SOMTHING right.

-BeyondBlessed

[Giving Good Head]

First, WELCOME.

Second, I am glad to hear the positive attitude here. Not giving up, willing to teach, willing to keep at it. Good for you.

This guy is preconditioned to get his orgasms in other ways besides oral sex. It may take him a while to get used to the idea or the feeling of oral sex. Let me ask you, does he like the feeling of it while you do it, does he say it feels good?

If so, then you are at least on the right track, if not...then we may have to take a different approach.

I did notice that you mention that he does a lot of "thrusting" - while you are giving him head, he shouldn't be thrusting the same as when he is having sex...my God your throat would ache! He should be more gentle, and basically let you take the lead. Try to get him to relinquish some of the power here, let you take over the pleasure giving. He is not used to that.

Also, I don't know about you, but I give my man bj's that last much longer than 30 minutes on average. If we are doing foreplay, we may switch it up with a 69, then just me, then some sex, then back to the bj, but my all over straight bj time is no less than 15 to 20 minutes just for him alone.....so I think maybe you need to vary your technique if you are getting tired. Find a position that is more relaxing for you neck. I like to lay with my feet toward his head and my face buried in his groin, then he can touch me, I can suck him, and I can vary the sucking, licking, touching, etc. I also can easily transition to a knees position or a 69 position without loosing CONTACT with his cock. That is important if your guy looses the hard on without contact.

How long a break are you taking to switch positions? My advice...always have a hand on the cock! As long as something is touching it, he should stay aroused...unless he just isn't into oral (which would be odd, but not unheard of if he went without for 18 years I suppose)

I would try to show him how great it can be. Throw yourself into the mix. Sit on his face! Do the 69 while you are doing this...there is no reason why you can't have 2 things at once.

It seems like you are using the MTFH rule - Mouth, Tongue, Fingers, Hands - while giving head, so I won't go over that with you, but I will say, if you are getting tired, and he is loosing it, just find a better position. Women don't have to have the head a bobbin the whole time they are giving head....men actually prefer a little variety during their BJ...

AND DON'T FORGET TO DEEP THROAT!

I hope this helps a little!

Mikayla

I am glad someone addressed this topic...i was begining to wonder...

I have a similar problem...its not AT ALL that my gf doesnt turn me one...OMW does she!!!

And she is SOOOO amazing at oral sex but I last so long that she has asked me if she could stop

and rest....I have gone an hour before without orgasm....not that it didnt feel amazing but I dunno what the problem was. She is great too...she can deep throat like no ones business...and she is amazingly attractive.

I have thought about varying positions ..and have...it helped some...but Im not sure if it isnt more of a psychological problem with me.

I am very physically able to get erections...I can just be laying in bed without stimulation and get amazing erections...and when just kissing and hugging/making out I get erections that feel like theyre going to burst IM so aroused but as soon as she reaches for the belt buckle I have to focus on keeping an erection...I can ususally maintain an erection but the quality usually is lacking IE not as hard as possible...etc...and have problem losing erection quickly without constant stimulation.

I dont know what the problem is because I TOTALLY want to share these kind of experiences with her.

I was just wondering if anyone had any insight.

BeyondBlessed

[What's Your Favorite Thing About Your Partner?]

I love her tummy...I could get off just touching it...she hates her tummy but what girl doesnt?

It has just enough meat there to be able to grab it and pull it....enough to nibble on and suck on.

OMW.

I could die just thinking about it

-BeyondBlessed

[Wpuld You Shave Your Lover?]

I was talking to a friend of mine today and we were discussing the preference of shaving or not shaving pubic hair. I prefer mine shaven, so does he. Now, he brought up that he likes to shave his lover's as well. My hubby does not like to do that, he said he is "scared." I would also love to shave his, but he won't let me. I was wondering what the popular opinion was on this subject. If you would all be so kind as to oblige little ole' me in this survey! Thanks.

Kisses,

Kayla

IN response to your question I would definitely shave her if she would let me and I had the time and I would let her shave me...But ...thing is that I am a hairy guy...i dont have any back hair but everything else has a nice petina of hair. Not like pierce brosnan but just a very large happy trail that doesnt stop till it hits my toes.

Girls have the luxury of being less hairy but nature...so what i am concerned about in regards to shaving is that I will look kinda silly with all my nuts and bots hairless and the legs and butt still hairy...

It would look like I was wearing skin underwear, so thats my inhibition.

It would take me probably two to three hours to shave EVERYTHING so thats a no go.

I do manage to stay very trimmed and tidy though.

Do you think it would look funny?

BeyondBlessed

[Condom]

First, there are never stupid questions, just stupid people who don't ask the questions.

Good Thinking about using a condom! Definitely being a student with a baby you are not ready for it a big deal!

First, even when she gets on the birth control you will still have to wait AT LEAST one full cycle and use another form of birth control - like condoms - to ensure that the pill is working correctly and has taken effect.

Second, I suggest that using condoms alone may not always be the best answer if you seriously do not want to deal with a baby. Condoms break. Use a spermicidal jelly with the condom, or, pull out with the condom as well. Try to double up your measures to be sure.

Third, as for condom use in general. There are a few basic rules of thumb:

1) find one that fits properly and is comfortable. Condoms do come in different sizes. If it is too large, it will gape and rub and be uncomfortable. Too small and it may break as you try to get it on. Find the right size. Also, USE LATEX - NOT PLASTIC! There are three basic kinds (latex, plastic, lambskin) and the plastic condoms do not protect against STD's. I know you are both virgins, but other people read these posts too!

2) Since you are doing this for pregnancy make sure it has the spermicide in it. This extra precaution smells a little funky, but will give you extra peace of mind.

3) Find a lubricated condom. It is better to have the lubrication in the condom then have to add it. However, if you choose to add lubrication after, or during sex, use K-Y, or Astroglide or a similiar one, do not use PETROLEUM JELLY - It will destroy the condom! Keep your condoms in a cool, dry place. NOT IN YOUR BACK POCKET! Dresser drawers are good.

4) Make sure the condom goes on before you even get near her vagina. You can get her pregnant just from pre-cum, so make sure that you are being very, very careful to not rub against her before you have that condom on.

5) When you put it on, make sure the end has a little room (usually there is a little tip on them) to collect the sperm. Handle the condoms carefully. IF your gilfriend has fingernails, make sure that she is very careful. Place the condom on the tip of your ERECT penis, then roll it down to the base, making sure the fit is good and the tip has room.

6) Now you are good to have sex. Once you cum, hold the base of the condom with your hand and gently withdraw your penis from her. You should do this well before you loose your erection. I suggest that it is done sooner rather than later, JUST IN CASE there is a hole!

7) I also suggest that people squeeze the end of the condom while it is still on the penis to see if there is any leakages. That way, if needed, you could go and take precautions at that point if you believed in searching out the morning after pill - which is, of course, controversial, and everyone makes their own choice here. REMEMBER: She may have cum, so some of what you see on there, may be HER CUM!

8) Take the condom off and throw away - DO NOT FLUSH! Wash yourself with SOAP and WATER before you touch her again with your penis. Sperm can live outside the body for 1 - 4 hours (depending on temperature on conditions) so keep that in mind!

9) AlWAYS use a NEW CONDOM for each time you are going to have sex!

10) Condoms are not reuseable.

If you are still hard after you cum, I do not suggest, and I believe the literature does not suggest, that you continue to have sex, it increases the chances that you will go limp at some point and leak.

That should answer your questions, if you have more, please ask!

Mikayla

Wow...thats quite comprehensive, and very appreciated, if you took the time to type all that out youre a good woman, Ida just tried to copy and paste it...haha

Thank you very much Mikayla

God bless

-BeyondBlessed

[Penis Size: Is It "filling"?]

Thank you all for your responses and insights...Im glad to hear that you folks are real people..lol

IM so very thankful and blessed for all the advice and I agree with all of it.

Id just like to express my gratitude for you all. Ay first i was skeptical about posting on this site cause I thought it would just be a bunch of "notNbotherd" hoopla but after searching out a few posts I realized that there is help to be found here with actual concern and personal insight from personal experience.

Thank you

-BeyondBlessed

[Condom]

I feel really stupid for asking a question like this because it is socially accepted as common knowledge.

But i have very little experience with any means of birth control and I am anticipating my first time having intercourse to climax and wanted to ask some questions.

I know how to properly put on a condom but had a few questions about them.

I know this is kind of the point of a condom...but...when ejaculation occurs during intercourse should one stop immediatley and "clean up" or is it safe to remain active...will that weaken the condom or make it more apt to rupture?

I have been thinking about it alot and we are going to be on ortho tricyclin birth control eventually but for now I dont believe we can wait that long, I am anticipating eloping.

I am worried about condoms breaking, we are just in our early twenties and are still in school and def cant aford to have a pregnacy on our hands, but I long so very much to be intimate with her...with all of my heart.

i guess i am just looking to hear some success stories with condoms...i know nothing is 100% but I would just like the peace of mind.

Is there any advice someone would offer?

God bless

-BeyondBlessed