Borges

Oh my sex drive if fine believe me. That's what makes this...frustrating.

Not remotely gay so prefer women. Don't know about the dating thing. Time just flies by I guess. And can't seem to get beyond a couple of dates with this or that woman. What's the phrase now, I get ghosted a lot? Anyway it's not something I would do but it seems to be popular with women.

It's an anonymous board so it doesn't take that much courage. That's great to hear since it is a minority opinion based on stuff read and hear in the general culture.

Male

How do I deal with being in my 40s and still a virgin? This has not been by choice. I was just really shy in school and somehow let the time slip by on career stuff. My dating has been very sporadic and has never led to sex. If I start dating regularly should I reveal this early on? Or is it not that big of a deal and a problem that will take care of itself? Is it even a problem? I've gotten responses from friends ranging from it's not a big deal to , "you need therapy at this point before even trying to date". But I don't want to waste more time.