Ashleigh8993

I know, I'm not expecting things to be great right off the bat. I guess I didn't really word my post all that well. I know things are going to be pretty bad for the first bunch of times, my problem is that he doesn't seem to really care, he is just fine saying he sucks and leaving it at that. He doesn't want to really talk about it past that. I'm really looking for advice on how to approach the situation. Thanks Whiskey for the link, I actually read that from the tootimid newsletter. I'll send it to him to check out too though. We have a couple board games and stuff we had bought for foreplay prior to having sex that we just never used the sex position cards, I'll bust those back out too.... And thanks howard for the link as well... I'll check that website out now!

17 views and nobody has any advice? Oh boy! I'm doomed!

Ok, So I'm sure this question has been asked in here somewhere before, I scrolled back a few questions and didn't see anything similar, so I'm sorry if this is a "re-post" here... here's the story: My boyfriend and I after dating for three years recently had sex for the first time together. (It was the very first time for both of us ever actually) Originally we had decided before we were together, being raised in fairly conservative families, that we would wait until marriage to have sex. Well, we decided that if it happened, it happened, and duh, it happened. I don't really know how to handle it all though. I am quite aware of my body and what I like and what I don't like but dont think he ever really took time to "explore" himself (yeah he masturbates, but I don't think he ever really thought much about it. dont know how to really word what I'm thinking.. but you get the point I'm sure) Moving on! I think he must have performance anxiety or something.. we've had sex I'd guess about 15 times or so already... but I always have to take the top (which I dont mind, I get to where I'm going and all) but I want him to be more comfortable and to take more control. I've gotten him to take the top for a litle bit but then he just kind of thrusts his hips around awkwardly.... He doesnt take criticism on this subject very well, I say anything at all on the subject and he automatically clams up and declares " I suck at sex. I know I do" I've tried watching porn with him and commenting on the scenes like "oh.. maybe we should try to do that next time" or "That's something I'd like to try, what do you think" but it doesn't seem to click with him.... I dont want my sex life to consist of me on top ALL the time doing "all the work" while he just lays there. I need advice on how to handle this! Are there "sex ed" videos or what do you all recommend? Thanks in advance. Ashley

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