babygurly1973

If your heart is pure and your soul is clean........U ALREADY HAVE A PERFECT BODY!! Size doesnt matter.........I as many of u have read have lost an entire person in weight.......I have a little ways to go.........I will also never be "barbie" doll thin........but am I sexy as hell??? YOU BET I'AM!!!! My personality exudes sex appeal.......the way that I carry myself......the way I dress appropriatley for my body size.......and that does not mean frumpy and sloppy......Im talking mid thigh jean skirts....cami's and cleavage........not slutty, just sexy and classy.......I hate when I see plus sized women wearing either way too tight clothing or dressing like slobs........there is no reason why larger girls cant feel and look sexy!!! And I find most men in my area anyways.....seem to be more physically attracted to a "curvey" girl then a barbie doll type anyday!!!

DO NOT WORRY.........THERE WILL BE NO 3 SOME NO MATTER THE SEX GENDER UNTIL THINGS BETWEEN US ARE SETTLED.........THATS JUST A HUGE FANTASY HE HAS ALWAYS TALKED ABOUT........LIKE I SAID EARLIER IM DEFINETLEY NOT READY FOR THAT.........IT WONT BE HAPPENING ANYTIME SOON......BEFORE I MET HIM I HAD A 3 SOME WITH 2 GUYS...........IT WAS WONDERFUL........AN EXPERIENCE I WONT EVER FORGET FOR THAT MATTER.........BUT THINGS SEXUALLY IN MY MARRIAGE ARE NOT RIGHT SO WE WONT BE GRANTING ANY FANTASY WISHES COME TRUE ON MY END!!

My DH also wants a 3 some with myself and another woman.......not sure im ready for that!! I on the other hand would love to be him and another man.......is that wrong to desire that?? I however fantasize about my ex-lover he was the most extraordinary lover I have ever been with.....I tend to pretend it is him Im having sex with (that is when Im lucky enough to be getting any at all) LOL That would be he I and another man!! LOL Not he and another man alone.........Just thought Id clarify that right now..........heehee

Well I will keep trying gang......it's just very disheartening to feel the way he makes me feel when i try so hard to make the sparks fly between us and get no response!!

I so dont want a divorce.....but at the same time I dont want to be living like this forever......yanno my dad asked me something when I told him I was getting married at 18......I never really thought about it till lately.....He said and I quote " If your husband was seriously injured one day and could no longer have sex with you would you be ok with that" ? I said of course becuse thats not themost important thing to me dad.....well he had a serious point there.....Now I feel like I answered that question wrong......so should I just deal with it because of the way I answered that from heart at 18?? I mean he is not seriously injured and has no medical issues......when do u say enough is enough?? How long do I have to beg and plead with him to love me in the way I want to be loved on?? I would give anything to know what it feels like once again to be touched and caressed and made love to the way a man and woman in love should "love" one another.....we have never had sex anywhere else in this house then our bedroom........and we have lived here 7 years.......n public displays of affection......he is a Cop and he says that looks tackey and un-professional........Im like damn babe handcuff me and fuck the hell outta me........lmao........like that would ever happen........I dont wish to be another divorce statistic.......but!! Telecom.......your woman is lucky to have someone such as u whow ants to do all those things for her and too her.........My husband is very giving materialistically.......I mean I have a 12,000 dollar diamond on my left hand, A beautiful home and a brand new car......clothes too boot.........shoes shoes shoes and more shoes.........if I say I want it i have it........except what I really want.......him!!! Keep trying with your girl......I have friends who bitch all the time cause their husbands want sex........Id like to smack them!! lol

GIRLFRIEND YOU ARE SO NOT ALONE.......YANNO I GET SO MAD AT SOME OF MY FRIENDS WHEN THEY COMPLAIN THAT THEIR MEN WANT SEX 5 TIMES A DAY.........SHIT TO ME THATS A HUGE COMPLIMENT TO A GIRL............YOUR MAN WANTING U ALL THE TIME........TRY HAVING A MAN WHO COULD CARELESS......WETHER HE DOES OR DOESNT TOUCH U.........I CANT TELL U THE LAST TIME MY HUSBAND AND I EVEN HAD A PASSIONATE (TONGUE TWIRLING ) KISS!!! IM NOT VERY MANY YEARS BEHIND U ON THE MARRIAGE THING AND I LIKE U AM BLOWN AWAY THAT I HAVE LASTED THIS LONG!!! I JUST KEEP THINKING HE WILL WAKE UP ONE DAY AND HAVE A HUGE SEX DRIVE AND ALL WILL BE WELL.....WELL I KEEP WAKING UP BUT NOTHING CHANGES AND IT IS EVEN WORSE NOW THAT HE IS GONE TO IRAQ......I HAVE BECOME SO INDEPENDENT I THINK THAT FREAKS HIM OUT.......THE WEIGHT LOSS........OTHER GUYS NOTICING ME......MY INDEPENDENCE (I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN AN INDEPENDENT GIRL BUT HAVE REALLY GOTTEN THAT WAY IN THE LAST 3 YEARS) SEX WAS SOOOOOOOOOO MUCH BETTER AND INTENSE WHEN I WAS SINGLE........HEEHEE.......MARRIAGE DOES CHANGE THOSE THINGS I GUESS......WE JUST GET TO COMFORTABLE WITH WHO WE ARE AND AS A COUPLE.....AND WORK TAKES HOLD OF OUR LIVES AND THINGS JUST GET INTO SO MUCH OF A ROUTINE.....I DONT KNOW.........ALL I KNOW IS IM VERY MUCH AFRAID IF THINGS DONT CHANGE THE BIG "D" IS ON THE HORIZON!!! I WOULD HATE TO THINK THAT I WOULD LEAVE BECAUSE OF LACK OF SEX AND PASSION.......BUT WHATS A GIRL TO DO??? I HONESTLY CAN SAY I LOVE GOING OUT WITH MY GIRLFRIENDS CAUSE I GET ATTENTION FROM MEN......THEY LOK AT ME AND TALK TO ME......I LOVE BEING NOTICED........ MY HUSBAND AND I WENT TO A FRIENDS WEDDING RECEPTION A YEAR AND A HALF AGO AND I GOT TIPSY AND KEPT BEGGING HIM TO DANCE WITH ME.......HE REFUSED......SO I SAID SCREW IT SIT THERE ALL ALONE AND BE UN-SOCIAL.....I WENT AND HUNG WITH MY FRIENDS AND EVERYONE IN THE PLACE WAS UP DANCIN MY MAN WAS THE ONLY STICK IN THE MUDD SITTING AT THE TABLES.........WE WERE ALL FAST DANCIN AND A SLOW SONG CAME ON...I LOOKED AT HIM TO COME DANCE WITH ME.......HE TURNED AWAY.......SO THIS GUY (A MUTUAL FRIEND) ASKED ME TO DANCE I SAID SURE.......AS SOON AS HE PUT HIS HAND AROUND MY WASTE.......MY HUSBAND WAS UP AND IN MY FACE.......SAID I WILL DANCE WITH MY WIFE.......THE GUY SAID WELL IT'S ABOUT TIME U PAID ATTENTION TO HER TONIGHT.......SHE IS BEAUTIFUL!! LOL ANYWAYS THAT IS JUST A SYNOPSIS OF OTHER ISSUES WE HAVE BESIDES IN THE BEDROOM........IT'S CALLED BEING MARRIED TO A COP........WHO DOESNT INTERACT WITH ANYONE ELSE FOR FEAR OF RUINING HIS IMAGE LET ALONE WITH ME IN THE BEDROOM........I WISH U THE BEST OF LUCK.......PRAY FOR EACHOTHER I GUESS EY??

ORAL SEX BOTH GIVEN AND RECEIVING IS ONE OF MY FAV THINGS TO DO........AND IM GOOD AT IT.......HE COULD CARELESS IF I SUCK HIS COCK OR NOT!!! LOL IM NOT PASSIVE I JUST GET TIRED OF TRYING AND GETTTING NO WHERE......CAN U SEE MY POINT THERE HUN?

We only knew each other for 1 month before we got married......I was the first woman he had sex with......he however was not my first........I was 18 when we got married........he was 25......I like most women would do asked him why he was still a virgin......he just said he never met or dated any women he felt like he wanted to sleep with......so I could accept that. He was much much more inexperienced then i of course thats because he was a virgin....so the story goes......Im 32 now and he is 39......Yes we had sex once while we were in Maui....that was aboutt he second week we were there.......I wanted to jump him when he got off the plane from Iraq the night before we flew out to go to Maui.he was too tired which I could understand he was jet lagged!! So I let that go.......so all told we had sex twice in 3.5 weeks once in Hawaii and omce the day he left home to go back to Iraq......The day we got married we didnt have sex he was tired and had to PT the next day (physical training ) for the army......lol.......Im just at my witts end...Im not heavy anymore........But Iam horny and want to be made love to passionatley and or fucked!!!! He has no idea what kind of wild girl Iam.......he wont give me the chance to show him........he does not have medical issues ir dysfunction.......when he gets hard he stays hard.........thats not a problem......he is a gym rat......loves to work out and be in shape........he takes no rx meds......so I dont know........I do know one thing and that is he is extremely shy........and he loves his fucking TV!!!! LOL I Have never known a man who had such a low sex drive.......my past relations wore me out.........lol....and u mention my self esteem.......yeah he has effected it in a bad way.........but since I have lost the weight and look great I have a ton of it........I dont want to accuse him or leave my marriage, But Im 32 and not going to live like this forever........I can't and won't!! 14 yrs is a long time to put up with this......dont you all think so???

Ok let me ask You guys this......When he came home in September and we flew out to Maui (the most romantic sensual place I know of) we spent three weeks there..........we had sex ONE time in 3 weeks and when we had it I was wishing he would just get off of me.......THAT ATTITUDE IS SOOOOOOOO NOT ME.....But sex with him is so freakin ROBOTIC.......I have tried to buy the books......the toys.....the games....the lotions......etc...he just isnt interested......I have busted my ass to make myself look sexy and hot......I have men tell me that Im sexy and seductive why doesnt my husband see this in me?? I mean even when I was at the heaviest he always told me he loved me and I was beautiful no matter what....and I believe he truly felt that way.....but this is crazy......Im almost scared to see him because Im afraid I will be miserable and dissapointed....because what I hope happens and what will happem will be 2 totally different things......he doesnt want me to be noisy during sex.......it ANNOYS HIM.......he doesnt talk during sex.....Im loud love to moan.....talk sexy to him etc...the sad thing is it has gotten to the point that Id rather use my toys to make myself orgasm then to be put through the trauma of sex with him......and it's sad...he is good when he wants to be.......he just puts nooooooooo effort into it.......I try try try and nothing changes....everything I do to "SPICE" it up goes un-noticed.......maybe things will change in Vegas who knows.....???? You guys make me feel better....knowing it is ok for me to be crazy sexual......I thought maybe i was over sexual......now I know it isnt me.......lol

I was not as Heavy....until about 2 years later (after we married) his sex drive sucked from day one......I admit the extra weight didnt help...But I had lost 118 lbs way before he left for Iraq......like 2 years before........so that can't be used as his excuse.....do u understand what I mean?? I once asked him why he didnt like sex this was a few months after we were married......he said and I quote "Sex to me is like a new toy to a baby...you get it and it's all new and so you play with it for awhile and then eventually the NEW wears off and you toss it in the toy box and someday you find it again and it's all new again"!! I told him Im not a toy he can just play with when it's right for him........

Ok Guys & Girls here is subject I need some help with big time!! I have been married for 13.5 years 14 on Valentines day....since the day we got married our sex life has sucked.......I bet I could be pretty accurate by saying we have had sex maybe 100 times in 13 years.......we have no children......so thats no excuse......we until recently have always been on the same schedules......so again no excuse there......he is deployed to Iraq now so that is an excuse.....the problem is my man could careless about sex........we have gone weeks and even months with NO sex........this is un-acceptable to me......I have talked to him about it.......things will get better for a month or so then it's right back the other way again.......I could have sex 5-6 times a day and still want more.......I love my toys........he thinks they are stupid and I think he is afraid of them.......so I quit bringing them up and played quietly alone with out him!! Im to the point now where I WANT another man to make love to me........jsut because I so long for the affection, the touches, the passion.......all the things that I do not feel when my man and I are together....I have been faithful......honestly!! Im just to the point now where Im afraid Im not going to be......I have done incredible things to better myself over the past few years........all told in 3 years I have lost 178 lbs (diet and exercise) I look down right hot now......I dress sexy as hell.......have those sexy cum here and F#@% me eyes........what else can I do........Im much more un-inhibited sexually......I play with my toys....all the time.......I dont care who knows it........I have learned so much about my own body and it's a wonderful thing I want to share with my husband........Im planning a huge surprise when he is home on leave from Iraq.......but im truly afraid I will be miserable with him.....it has just become an almost dont touch me thing when we are together.......maybe it's boredom........cause he is sure a damn good looking man.......his sexual dis intrest just turn me off.........Oh by the way did I mention he has only performed oral on me 3 times in 13.5 years?? AND NO HE IS NOT GAY SO DONT EVEN SUGGEST THAT.........LOL.HE JUST HAS NO SEXUAL DRIVE......