Ok, I've been married for over 10 years, 2 young kids. Everyone thinks we have the perfect marriage but they don't know the truth and we can't talk to anyone about it. Apart from our sex life we do have a great marriage in as much as I love him and I know he loves me and we both love the kids, we want to be together and we want this family life, we want to give the kids a nice upbringing. We like spending time together, going out to a few pubs or sitting in with kids, taking them to cinema, out for lunch, etc.. We hardly ever argue and seem to be able to put up with each other from day to day. The sad truth is that our sex life is terrible and has been almost since the start of our relationship 14 years ago. The problem is premature ejaculation and it's driving us apart. Whenever we have sex which is rare, maybe once per month (and that's only out of desperation) I always end up crying with the dissappointment either openly or under the sheets or in the bathroom without him knowing. I truly feel like crying just writing this down. In the early days I used to get angry with him and go in a huff but now I just feel so helpless. We both avoid sex now because anytime we do it it drives us further apart. We tried the squeeze method and the stop start method but nothing seems to work, we tried herbal tablets, spray, viagra - you name it we've tried it. He went to the doctor who told him it was a psycho sexual problem and reffered him to a councellor who he is going to see next week and we are pinning all our hopes on this but the atmosphere between us and the tension in the air is so bad. I said a few things a couple of years ago which hurt him like "lets have an open relationship" I know this is bad but I really meant it at the time I was just desperate for sexual contact. Whenever we do it he has to stop after about 2 minutes just as I am beginning to enjoy it, how can i enjoy it when he has to stop every 2 minutes? To make matters worse I can only cum vaginaly, I have never had a clittoral orgasm and I don't masturbate, I don't know why this is I just never have, I don't ever feel like that, I need a man. So now whenever he makes sexual advances to me I just clam up and refuse to be turned on because I know that as soon as I start to enjoy it, he will want to stop and I will get upset and it just goes from there. I also feel very selfish for wanting more sexually, at the end of the day if he can't give me it I should stick by him, like if he was paralised from the neck down or developed some sort or disease, I would'nt walk away then so why walk away now. I'm only 32 and the next 30 years seem a very long time. Please help.