wilver

Well, I've read both of your responses.. a few times to admit. It's funny how clear things become when you have a chance to bounce it off of others...it helps keep things in prospective. One thing I cannot change about myself is the need for passionate expression "in the bedroom" as part of a meaningful relationship. My feeling is bitter/sweet...becuase the last relationship I was, we matched up in the bedroom but had few words to talk about at the dinner table.. All I know, right now I feel miserable..and wel time to move forward. Thank you for your responses.

This is the problem... I have been dating a man for 5 months and well....We get along great and are very compatible....except with sex. This is a problem for me because I am very sexual, inovative, touchy kind of woman and well...he is reserved most of the time. Often he will just lay there waiting for fireworks to happen. He seldom shows desire to touch my body..has never, kissed my neck or shoulders or fondled my breasts. He never has never fondled my privates or given me oral sex... I have been very vocal about it, telling him he is not meeting my needs...including physically cueing him. I am moderately attractive and work-out regularily..do shower/bath before bed and am "clean"..so not a hygeine issue. He tell me he loves me...how can I believe. I care for him and want to give him pleasures...so I have a hard time believing that a man who says he loves a woman does not have a strong desire to make love to her. Am I getting too hung up on this aspect of my relationship? I have bought sex toys and us em in front of him when he makes no attempt to satisfy me. Even that he does not take to use on me ..."he's tired" I guess I am frustrated so here I am spilling the beans online at 3 am...It has come to the point where I am looking in other directions and at other men. I've been honest with this with him...and of course he feels even more insecure..yet takes no effort to change. I feel bad to consider ending a relationship because of lack of sexuality...seems so superficial. It would be interesting to hear from both genders on this topic...